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Are successful women boring and useless?

My former girlfriend work in a bank as a section manager. She worked all day monday to saturday. And she spent every sundays sleeping. She did not like/have the time to cook or do the washing and always tired for sex. I finished the relationship and I am now enjoying myself with an 18 year old girl, who was hawking/selling pure water in my area. I love this girl and we married last year. I plan to rent a shop for her in the future. She really know how to care for me sexually, socially and in all oother ways. My food is always ready before and after coming back from work. She is submissive and is a good mother to our two children. I am glad I finish with my ex, who is married to her job. I am soooooooooooooooooo happy. Guys, go for a simple lady and not over hyped, useless educated ladies, you will enjoy peace.

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No some of you guys are missing the point. The OP problem has nothing to do with the fact that this woman was successful. First of all they weren't even married and were living together ( not judging just pointing out some facts). You wanted her to pretend that she is your wife, but not even willing to give her the proper title? .  Never the less  whats to say even if she wasn't successful she would not be acting the same way and doing the same thing?  Next time pick a better mate. Now you have an uneducated woman who honestly has no real choose but to do all you ask- what else is she going to do, I can show you lots of women who are successful, and who have no problem taking care of their man, and all of their womanly responsibilities with out hesitation!! Now will those women choose you is a better question?

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the ex-girlfriend could have been better at time management, there are many successful women that are married with kids. there's no way a woman can work 6 days/week and be expected to be responsible for every household chore, and it's understandable that every now and then she'll need to take a day off.

still i don't see how you can compare the lifestyle of a banker working 6 days/week with that of a hawker. they've got such different schedules, the hawker is self-employed and can afford to rearrange her 'career' to fit your needs. the one similarity i see is in where their priorities lie. the banker is successful independently of you, but dependent on her banking job and that's her priority. the hawker is uneducated and wholly dependent on you, and you're her priority.

btw, you weren't even married to the lady and you were expecting her to do everything for you.

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Yes oooooooooooooooooooo.I need a responsible woman who can take care of domestic works.Whether educated or not,i don't care.Since there's will be happiness in the house,That's important.

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these naija men these naija men.abanker is working twice as hard as you, you still want her to be doing all the house chores while you watch supersport and clean up after the game as well as sex you till you are tired.

What emotional support did you offer your poor banker galfrend when the work was draining her?

Did you ever bother to discuss her getting a less stressful job so u could have more Quality time .i so doubt that all you wre thinking about is how she will meet your needs like she got no needs of her own.

You are better of with the kind of woman you married you can mold her into anything you want.I am happy for your choice.

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Are unsuccessful men boring and useless? Yes!!

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this guy is a typical African Man that have not lost the values of his forefathers.

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One man's meat is another man's poison

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As far as i'm concerned,career women or pure water sellers r equal. . na d same toto dem get.

Note:A man settles down with a woman who brings him peace. .(damn class)

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That is why I post this thread so everyone can give their opinion. You are different from those spawning hatred based on jealousy.

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@poster Your wife is not educated what do you expect her to do. Your ex did not know how to prioritize. There are plenty of successful and educated women that work hard and hold down a family and take of there husband. Just because you ran into one that does not attend to your needs doesnt mean the rest are the same.

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You miss the point if you are thinking the issue is about money. I am a very successful businessman with my own company. I have three houses in lagos, ogun and oyo states. I could afford to marry as many women as i want and pay them salaries to stay at home. But when I meet a potential girlfriend or wife, I don't let them know how wealthy I am. I want to test out their love and that was why this banker behave the way she did. It is her loss and someone else gain. And to let you know this pure water seller now have her own business as well. She is a good mother and wife.

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No

But married wives need to get their priorities straight.

I wouldn't want my wife to lack ambition and not work or sit around at home all day doing jack shi[i]t[/i].

There has to be a balance.

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@Poster, you did well - Cutting your coat according to your size. Good for you!

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I no go school. school no dey for my village. I no fit read or write. I be illiterate. I beg no ban me form writing on NL. i no go fit find other place to write the truth wey go hurt women. I swear.

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@poster,which school did you go?

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^^^^^^^^^ @ 28Schweet. I don't know you and you don,t know me. You have no right to look down on anybody just because they sell pure water or not to your standard as long as they are not financially depending on you. And that is a fact of life.

Listen you can husstle till you die if you are not satisfied with you lot. As for me, My happiness, health and the freedom to do what I want is more important to me than any money in the world. I am set up for life so I do not have your mindset.

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The above are the rantings of someone satisfied with their lot in life, even when there's opportunity to grow and improve their circumstance.

I'm lucky in that the person i'm committed to, has enough drive for the both of us and our kids, you see we want the best education, opportunity and material comforts for our kids, and their kids', kids,

I don't want to go biblical, but in this case, I think I've got to, because you attacked me without knowing me. there were three guys that were given talents, the one buried it, the other doubled his, and the other quadrupled it (not verbatim, mind you), but you get my drift, god gave you an ability to do something with yourself, USE IT!

Like everything else in life, there has to be a balance between what one does and the return one gets,

Success = not having to depend on others for my NEEDS,

Poverty = having to depend on others to fulfil my NEEDS,

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^^^^^^^^ you dont get it Poster, no one here is jealous of your decision to marry a pure water seller/hawker, she may be doing that for any number of reasons, so the fact that she sells pure water isnt exactly the point.

the point is that because you had an issue with one doesnt necessarily mean all are like that. and it is possible that your chosing a pure water seller like you described her, is a way of stamping your 'superiority' which you were not able to achieve in your previous relationship.

your post portrayed the girl as ordinary --- pure water seller/hawker, and that is the reason for the comments. do you think she cant be anything else? have you considered that her latching on to you is a means to an end for her? do you by chance imagine that because she hawks pure water she doesnt have a set out plan?

dont for any moment underestimate anything you have no control over, in this case your pure water hawkers brain. you dont know where she put it and you dont know what it contains. let her get what she wants from you and see if she wont become successful and boring! you think you know too much!!

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We Nigerians need to change our way of thinking towards productive people.She is productive interms of wealth creation and will advance towards bottle waters in future.Dawoo sold newspapers and now you can see dawoo all over.

But i think the type of country you have determines the kind of women you get in the particular country.I have been to most parts of the world .It is only in Nigeria that i know the bankers close very late in the Night,i stand to corrected.They drive home and face the traffic,On getting home Nepa will have taken the light.It is not easy for those women.

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The truth is that none of these so called sophisticated ladies are ready to follow what God says anymore. God knows that if women are not submissive to their husbands irrespective of their achievement, the following would be happening:

- children would become crminals bcs their mothers that suppose to be guiding them have gone chasing money

- the society would no longer be peaceful as their were so many criminals given birth to by our career women

- there woul be several sophisticated women left unmarried bcs they are 2 proud to obey God thru their husbands

- bcs of proudness, many broken homes which lead to children not being taken care of.

Can any of the sopphisticated and modern day ladies let us know that all the above are not happening almost everyday.

Can sm1 tell me that she can decide to turn her 'head' to 'leg' bcs of modernisation and civilisation

Women! change your orientation so that world can bcm peaceful again.

A word is enough for the wise

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@ poster

You were sexing that street hawker before she turned 18.

Are you sure you weren't looking for a woman to over power?

Going from a bank manager to a street hawker tells a lot.

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the thing go taya u one day

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Well, for me i don't think success or literate level determines the level of commitment spouses put into their marriage (male or female)

However i would rather attribute it to individually (background/set goals/ level of sacrifice/ state of mind),

@ least some of our mum's have combined everything like it is normal life.

Wish the poster well, as peace of mind for a man is the bane of any union (esp d better for worse one)

For me a woman that would make our marriage " the melting point of ideas" for creating that nucleus part of a rising empire. is my lady any day (my opinion and wish)

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Day is y I hate bankers a partners,they are always busy in the bank

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pls ignore my mistakes in this post, it was hurriedly done, because i was in the office and had so much on my table.

thanks

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Hi house,

ladies pls dont be unfair to your judgemnet on this guy, he left the banker because she was nt giving him what he needed, that does not mean that he is a sexist, even if he is but he is not involve with multiple sex mate. so pls give him credit .

i also is in a relationship with a banker who is an internal auditor, man i must confess that this girl has made me do things i would nt have done due to her incurable love for money and wealth. e.g i have change my job about 4times since last year to this year just to get a better pay,still she is still not satisfied and most times decietfully, which i do know she is not proud of me.

since, i can really get the big job that can pay me the whole world ,i ve decided to travel out of the country to hustle and she is saying to to that my decision.

in short , these banker are not good girls to take has wife 'only them go fit marry themselve' although i am still with her but she will soon get a boot,

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I can never marry a banker because I have high sex drive

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I wonder my brother, everybody needs happiness in marriage.

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The poster was just saying his mind.

Marriage is about happiness not education, beauty or class.

Those things are necessary i agree, but they're not the most important in a marriage.

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You're an indiot for coming to this forum to spew such untrue trash. ode

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@OP

The problem is that 18yr old hawker will give you hawker kids- certainly they cant get the kind of breeding a bank mgr's kids gets-many other issues can arise from this. Some are social others economic.

Secondly when you have cash flow issues (and believe me it will come) all you get from your wife is a hawker's assistance rather than a bank mgr's. Other multiplier issues can result from this also.

At some point matrimonial sex will not mean so much as it did in the beginning. So the hawker's advantage and the sacrifices therein will be lost.

Anyway, good luck and I hope you both live happily everafter.

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well good luck,but you have to work on her to blend to your taste,the longer runs dictate how the game goes.

    michaelakaezuwa@rocketmail.com

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when ever am on this section of the site its a pain and full of s, ts.

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Guys, lets give the man a break, he has just said his mind. He has also informed us of his reasons for choosing the simple girl over a classy lady. It is a matter of choice and if the present girl makes him happy, what else does a man want in a wife. I go for happiness any time, any day. The entire money in the world does not make one happy in marriage rather a happy home. After-all, Obasanjo's son has it all in a classy lady and what a shame their marriage turned out to be.

Poster, never mind the insults and abuses, i get your point. But make sure you educate your wife and make her your class.

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So people think/equate being successful with not being submissive? Does a woman have to be a failure career-wise to be submissive? So many successful career women including my mum are still submissive to their husbands and still do/take care of the dosmetic work in the house despite having a successful career.

Dosmestic chores is the wife's duty while the husband pays the bills but these days we see lots of women contributing to pay bills so guys helping out with house chores isn't out of place.

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The poster just weighed himself. . . People here can easilly make some conclusions about you with refrence to your post.

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I do not think they are boring or useless.

Maybe their very demanding schedule leave them tired at the end of each day and all she would need is just get her well deserved rest.

Maybe and maybe though.

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He probably got the pure water hawker pregnant and had to marry her last year and knocked her off again immediately she delivered. So its possible.

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It takes a very confident and successful man to date/marry a successful lady. Any man who still needs his ego fed should stick to the lower class. Shoe get size.

A wife is supposed to be a partner not a maid.

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u married last yr and u've got two kids already??

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@ your question

Yes. Go for the unsuccessful ones like you did. Kudos

@ your story

ok.

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I hope you got a DNA test that is all. This forum is really anti-women especially the successful Nigerian women who dont eat the sh1t most of these Nigerian pour out from their mouth and Bottom.

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