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Are You Aware That Love Has A Loopy Logic?

Let's talk about the most important interview you'll  ever be granted. Seated at a well-appointed table,  you mull the choice between crab  cakes and seared  tuna, but truly you are sorting through a mental repertoire of wisecracks and war stories.  If you are secure in your  improvisational charms, you  might use this moment to appraise the  cleavage or  cufflinks of the woman or man across the table. 

There's  no predicting discussion topics, but you can  be sure they'll pertain to your marital status,  extracurricular activities, and your job. (There  are no  verboten questions at this interview.) You are  applying for a  new and expanded life. Or, you simply  want a one-night pass that  can be renewed  indefinitely. And you need to know whether your dining companion is up to the task. 

A date makes us both spectator and performer at a  two-ring circus:  We troll for wit, kindness, curiosity,  and "chemistry," hoping that we radiate these same  attributes in the right amounts. From strategic  winks  and blinks to elaborate grooming to gifts of gorgeous baubles,  men and women employ an arsenal of tricks in their romantic lives,  all in the service of a  demanding master at the far reaches of  conscious  awareness. Eons of evolution have honed our  behavior to  aid and abet a reproductive payoff. 

The sum of the stratagems we  employ, and the wisdom  of nature in crafting them without our  explicit awareness, are now the subject of intense study by evolutionary psychologists. Our sexual calculations and character  reconnaissance, it turns  out, call for smart, but not  always accurate, judgments. That's  because mating intelligence  is as oxymoronic as the term  suggests.  We routinely bring both cold reason and outsized misconceptions to a relationship. Both serve a  purpose.

A woman will accurately gauge her date's personality  on first meeting, but  she will grow more  convinced of his good  humor  and  charm  if  they stick  together.  Love has a loopy logic.

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Love means different things to different people.

Our different cultures affect our views of love.

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Love doesn't have a loopy logic.

The mating dance does.

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@ Onchendu, this piece is an article, appearing in its unfinished form. What is contained herein is a preface to the topic; an introduction. And below it, I signalled where to get the complete piece.

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yawwwn,

as interesting as reading textbook of Langrangian calculus for d first time.

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In simple English and summarized, what's Ur point?

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