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I recently broke up wit my bf of 1 yr,now am more confused dan confusion itself cos i found out am 4 months pregnant,i didnt know cos i was stil seeing my periods untill last month i waitd 4 it 2 com bt it hasn't & wnt com,doctors say it hapens sometimes,i told him but he doesnt wanna hear it,says since we re no more we cnt keep it,i've beged & beged but he wnt budge,i hear abortion at this stage is dangerous so am fearfuly,totaly & completely scared,dnt wanna hav a fatherless child & i dnt wanna die,atleast not yet.what do u thnk i should do?ur candid opinion matters alot please.

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The guy you were trying to forget by trying to sleep with another man?

Four months pregnant but only last month your period stopped coming?

'Doctors say it sometimes happen' to be what? Pregnant when you engage in sex?

Chile. . .when you play at being an adult, atleast research well on how to be one.

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Find out his family members, Parents, brothers and sisters or any relative you know and tell them your story. After that, have the child. Later in life, they (his parents or relatives) will come for their blood. I know so because my elder brother did the same. Impregnated a girl and join the Military in a bid to avoid the embarrassment. The girl informed one of my brother who later concurred when the story came 10years after the delivery of the child.

Good luck

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i feel for you,a change of enviroment will help, God will see you through

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Is the issue with your ex a question of paternity? because if you were seeing your period even until you broke up and now you show up saying you are pregnant that might create some doubt in his mind. Also worry about your child not having a father is nothing to worry about these days because there are kids with fathers who aren't even worth the condom they should have had on when they had sex. Also my dear it's your body, you cant have this guy tell you what to do with your body. have the baby, the choice is his if he wants do be in the child's life or not and if he chooses not to so be it. You knew the consequences of unprotected sex now lay on that sword. And if it is a financial issue, there is always adoption with conditions. You have so many choices but don't abort in my opinion

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@cooler. What i did was that i gave her another alternative if she cant keep her baby.since she said that she dont want a fatherless child i dont support abortion because i think its an only option left for her to solve the problem.she cant force her boyfriend to accept paternity of the child.

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eee yaaaa,it happened also to some one close to me but the girl went for an abortion.i will advice you to leave it

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dont abort the child u dnt know who he culd be in the future,just kip praying,God'll c u tru it all.

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Yea, i know a movie like dat called the pain of love. The girl in question killed herself @ the tail end, how pathetic.

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Plz dnt do dat 2 urself, u have 2 opt.

1. Keep d baby

2. Abort it

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go to alaba and look for a nigerian movie with same story, they are prolly a million of them watch all of them and the one with an end that suits u, do whatever the person did.

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Now why in God's name do people come up with things like this? She hasn't said she cannot look after the baby, she has only said she doesn't want her baby to grow up without a father. Excuse me!

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Sorry dear,you see i dont subscribe to abortion even if it is safe that is synonymous to murder.i dont expect you killing you own flesh and blood.The best thing is to deliver the baby then if cant keep,send her to orphanage home.The man is a fool for not recognizing his baby,it is only God that will judge him.

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You've done all you can with ur ex. He is aware of it, its his decision if he wants to be a part of the child's life or not. However, Its your decision to keep the baby or not. At this stage I'll advise you keep the child. No matter what, children are a gift from the Lord. The child will be a blessing to you in the future, and now. If you decide not to keep the child, you can either abort the pregnancy (pls go to a quality care doctor and not some backroom abortionist) or you can give the baby up for adoption ( less likely for a lot of reasons) or in the care of parents or family where available.

Good luck and God bless

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Deliver the baby and teach him or her how not to have sex without protection.

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