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Being Single Is It Worth It?

Just getting over a six year relationship which really took alot out of me.i've been single for 6 months now and d perks of being single ve faded away.nobody just me.no calls or sms 2 check on u.no pre-intimacy.its psychological torture. There is nothing 2 b happy about being single trust me

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I love being single myself, it is worth---4 years so far! I stay celibate!

So far alot of my ex-flames whine about their loved ones who are wrong for them, regret themselves letting me go in the first place. None of those girls they date with NO MATCH like me. I won't give them 2nd, 3rd, 4th chances. Because they ONCE ALWAYS cheater!!!!

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I worry that you have not utilised your six months of singled-om wisely. It seems you may have used the time to get over your chick and not to rediscover yourself.

Every relationship we encounter takes something out of us and leaves something within us. The beauty of break-ups and singled-om is that we have 'alone-time' or what I would refer to as 'me-time'.

[center]This is the time to delve within yourself and repair the damages,

discard the habits that settled because of the comforts within the ex-relationship

and then build up on the underlying strengths that may have been instilled into you as a result of various situations.[/center]

The whole point of this is that you become someone who is more focused in what he wants from a woman and a relationship. It also makes you more aware of your weaknesses ans strengths and helps you utilise it for the profits of your future relationship. In other words . . . .  it makes you a beta man.

You're missing the pre-intimacy and the text messages. . . . . . not a very good advice but you could date and flirt. Flirting is pre-intimacy as long as you do it wisely and pull out as soon as it's about to cross a line.

I don't know if this will help you but the thought crossed my mind as i read your thread.

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What i mean is that when u have had someone in ur life for so long, they more of less take over ur life and u take over theirs too. Thats what i mean by 'what is left of it'.

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Whats left of it ke?no talk dat way oo,thats -ve,except i dont get u sha.

anyhow i realised its a very good thing to do sha,and lik you said dont stay far off fun/trips

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You are so correct on that Tommy - when u dont think about it, it has a way of creeping up on you sha.

Avoiding the temptation is the biggie there.

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being single is ok

no hassles

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Omo tell me about it, i know that story only too well.

The bad thing now is that i have trust issues.

I dont know sha, myself i just put maself out there cause u cant just stay single forever, well i suppose when u dont expect, love comes but the question is when will it?

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2 confess I am in that state now myself,

I fink stayin close will make it difficult to beat the temptation if u know what i mean,My funny self actually put a date 2 how long i wana be single,but i guess i ll adjust d date soon,lol

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Well I dont seem to know about you, but i do enjoy the singledom, its a free feeling, but different strokes for everyone. Apparently, it seems like you feel complete having someone with you and a 6 year relationship is not something you can get over that fast! Just take a chill pill and with time you might get over it, depends on how you see yourself getting over it, being single is good, tend to know that~~

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