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Boyfriends And Girlfriends Says I Am Selfish And Stingy, Any Clue?

Dear Naira Landers, My girlfriends and boyfriends say's I am a very selfish person, Stingy and self centered. But I don't really know why they choose to label me like that. I am the kind of introvert I don't really like associating much with crowds. Any where there is crowd I don't just feel comfortable e.g. clubs, party and so on But I have a typical method of having my own fun. The worst part, some thing happened of recent and my elder Brother said it to my hearing that I am selfish and wicked. Naira Lander’s would you spend your cash unnecessary when you have not budgeted or give out cash when no one ask for it.

I need to know how I could improve socially dealing with people around me. Any clue to this please drop me some hints.

Thanks

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Do you see yourself as being all those things, if the answer is yes, then you are, else they are seeing you differently.

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It's the truth

Haven't you experienced a situation where everyone accuses you of something which you didn't do?

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@ MMichael, r u being nice, or telling this man the truth, because I believe he's here to get sincere opinions.

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Maybe you are the type that spends all ur money on girls but you can't even give a guy one kobo just because they don't have bobbi. From what you've said i believe you are stingy.

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@Poster, Don't mind dem o,they might b saying all dat poo because they no fit manipulate and use u to their own advantage.

Abeg just be urself.

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I dön't know u but my friend who answering d same nickname as u is very stingy,and wicked.

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Nor mind them. Until you have given them all you have, you are always bad.

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True. If everyone says the same thing about you then it most likely true.

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What other clue are you looking for.

someone said,

if one person says you look like a Horse

ignore the person.

IF Everyone says you look like a Horse

GO AND BUY A SADDLE!

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I am not moved by what people say,i do only what i can do for my people and not to be bankrupted because of anybody.Anyone that says you are stingy is also a stingy person.

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Oh puhleeze! The people sef that like saying tend to be selfish and greedy.

Some of them are what my ex calls cockroach friends - telling you, you 'get nice car, i fit borrow am? - and 2 weeks later, they still cruising in your car and forget that it belongs to someone else.

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Also, apart from hanging out, do you help out friends/ family with cash or kind , or why would they also include the word wicked?

are you in a relationship?

I have a cousin who is over 40yrs old and does not have a girlfriend (even friends) simply because he is all these things you have been called - he always feels everyone is out to get something from him.

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For once I agree with you even though I am not keen on you hooking

up with cream de la spawnie.

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heavy interaction with peeps online inhibits ur physical interaction with people.

so if u log off nairaland this minute, log off any messenger client u might be running, pick up the phone, call a few friends and tell them u'll be coming over i think u'll be one step closer to solving ur problem. cheers.

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the thing is people always want to take from you and when you say no, the label you as stingy and selfish. i got that crap from my family telling me i was selfish and stingy and i asked them to tell me when they asked me for something and i did not give it to them, i am the kind of person that puts myself last, if i have it i would give it to you, when they could not come up with a reason then i told them never to call me selfish n stingy, bcoz i am not gonna kill myself for nobody.

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