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Can A Girl Choose a Husband on Love Alone?

Originally: Is love enough for a girl to choose a guy for marriage?

I heard enough back here today on the radio about that stuff. In fact, I don't know what to think anymore.

If I say the guy must be a "made guy" then what happens to those who are not? If I say he needs not be,

then what happens to the needs of the woman? Because for sure , one thing I know is that "women like to be women"

You know what I mean. What do you think?

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Girls these days rarely marry for love. they consider what the guy does, his Ride and his crib.

if he's rich, ahhhhh then love is in the air

The truth is that marriage is not all about love.

There MUST be something good on the ground to sustain the marriage, or the love will just vanish into thin air. The only thing that will hold the marriage will be the children.

ask most married couples and they'll tell you.

Love comes and goes.

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Other pertinent issues made love playing a supporting role but some are still old fashion. I wish we were in the 19th century.

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Marriage definitely goes beyond Love. Love is one important pre-requisite but not enough to sustain a marriage.Ask those who are married and they will tell you this. Financial capability of the man of the house is another consideration for women to consider very well. Get me right,i am not advicing women to be materialistic here.All i have said is that the would be husband should have future prospect in his field of endeavor and never thing he could just lazy around and expect manner to fall from heaven as in in the days of children of Isrealites. Gone are those days. Even the present time Isrealites works like anything to survive. Consider your would be partners family background and situation. Consider also his personality and try to indeptly investigate his/her family background to determine what and what is associated with who ever marries from such family. Try and know his/her genotype and RUN if both of you have AS genotype. I know what i am saying here and i am sure many others would. Conclusively,love alone is not enough when it comes to marriage.

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love will NOT pay my bills

love will NOT feed my children

love will NOT make my house cleaner

love will NOT make you a good husband and father

love will NOT make you a provider and protector

love WILL keep me warm at night and make me feel secure - but how long does the nigth last before daylight bring reality?

i will marry someone i can work with, grow with, build with - someone God fearing who will respect me and be a positive role model for my kids - someone who sees me as partner and respects my opinion, ahardworking ambitious man - and then ultimately someone who loves me

so LOVE is not the ONLY inregredient and i dare say not the MOST IMPORTANT - SECURITY is the most important ingredient in marriage, but love comes close

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When a man or woman embraces societal norm and forgetting their first obligation which encompasses all human understanding and putting their own understanding to the task, find it difficult to comprehend Godly understanding resulting to their own struggle of survival in life.

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define love; if a man truly loves a woman he will do what he have to in order to take care of her. when you truly love someone you would do what ever it take so that love can survive. if a person is not willing to make such sacrifice then what love do you have for this person.

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word to yall sisters, dont choose husband on "i am following my heart " crap alone, i dont actually believe in the notion that gurls like money too much, find a guy wey if take care of u, comfortable and rich, and plus love , u got it alll

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hey girl hold it there, , beauty is in the eyes of the beholder remember, ?

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As a man, to be on the safe side, make sure you some financial stability before you go out to ask someone to marry you!

And check out Does Love Have Anything to Do With Money?

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dat was good for the girl......? , she is blessed.

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This is a topic that caught my attention.

At about 20 minutes ago, i was speaking with my old time friend whom i learnt got married. She was a WAKA about if u know what i mean, yet she got married to a Pastor. Every body who new this girl was suprised. She has all kind of men then as dates. She dates guvnors, Bankers, Buisnessmen, Generals and all big shots in the society. She had a proposal from a big man olod enoguh to be her father, she was winding up to go the alter with him when the Pastor show up, She made her choice to go for the Pastor because he is young, handsome and yet very serious. She just told me the Pastor interest her because she felt they could build life 2gether. He respect and adore her.

When she took this guy home for introduction, all her friends rejected him and maltreated him because he has no much money and cars. Today thesame friends envy her because the Pastor is almost worshipping her. she is very convienced that he loves her to the extreme. He is vey supportive and do not complain of anything she choose to do. She is very happy with him around her. They are already into small biz that is payying off and he is already building a house for them in Abuja (a small place though).

This thing is all about prayers ands believe. If a woman is choosing a man and she is very objective about it and prayerful for sure God will surely see her through. There is no need to consider money as a yardstic because the man with money might not love her like the one without money.

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Eh? Let her go and rest jare. I want to have my peace if you don't.

Enjoying the discussion, yes and that's all.

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o.k night.

but you are wrong about me denying anything.

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No matter how both of you deny the truth, i know u are enjoying this. I need to sleep, I have to swim tommorrow morning. Buh bye.

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well nowadayz i think the yardstick 4 luv is d size of ur wallet, so the luv factor plays second fiddle in chosin a husband nobody wants e go betta this dayz

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Okay. Just for your sake gina. De-king thank your wife oo, if not eh..!

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Okay u want me to start, abi na continue?

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hmmph. I reserve my comment

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yea..i still wanna be flower gurl for u guyz

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@De-king i put it in red so you will notice it first.

@kazey you know am right,so stop saying all that crab about ladies benn predictive.

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gina, I knew you would give the answer you gave. Like most girls would do.

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@ kazey i will choose the handsome and poor man if ilove him.

the same thing goes to the ugly rich man if i love him more than the handsome guy i will choose him.

Do you know this is love and it has got nothing to do with money or physical look,

real love is unconditional love.

my point here that i will choose the one i love most whether rich or poor.

whether handsome or ugly.

[glow=red,2,300]i hope you got my point and pls pass it to De-king cos i know he is snoring right now[/glow]

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Good question kazey. gina oya answer.

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ok Gina who would u choose between the 2.

1. A handsome, poor man, that treats you nicely? or

2. An Ugly, rich man, that treats you nicely?

Both treat you properly, and they fit in the same criteria except one is rich and ugly and the other is handsome and poor. Your preference please?

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@kazey thats your opinion o.k.

for me love comes before any other thing

yes we girls talk about money when we talk about guys as in boy friend but we are talking about marriage here.

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Okay wetin una ask each other to do?

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sorry to dissapoint you but I don't?

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Dude..be real...you know u feel it. Smell it.. feel it, live it. Just do it (nike[the company..not nigerian name oo] slogan)

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sorry hot-angel, I can't hear any. I can even feel a thing.

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The only gina I know is a headache. So you see, I can't even imagine that. hot-angel plsssssssssssss drop it.

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hot-angelllllllll what? which gina are you talking about? Kai!!!

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wel i cant marry a guy cos of his money

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well,70 percent of todays women dont think so, maybe u are talking like dis cuz u are just a

teenager, i will hear what u'll say when u hit 21.hehe

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o god..! arriage is always based on depth of de love and not for money..a person dat is not in his/her right mind will want to marry for money..its not right

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ha. Most girls love for love. But most girls don't. I don't judge all girls -- but if all girls were like me, Men need to start running.. Although everyone has a different personality.

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Olive juice?!

On the topic now:

Certainly not!

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Personally, it all depends on how you explain or understand the meaning of "LOVE" in marriage there are so many things you look into not just that word love although love will be there at least to reassure the marriage but there are so many other things a woman should put into consideration before getting married to anybody

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Marriage isn't all about Love. Any girl that says "I am marrying this man only because i Love him", is a liar. There are so many things you put in consideration before marriage.

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These days the fact that you love somebody isn't reason enough to just jump into marriage. You have to take other things into consideration. Marriage entails much more than people think.

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I'm not married yet so these are ideas and beliefs that I have so far about my future.

According to the topic.

For me marriage is more than love this is a life long contract and partnership. We must be able to work within union together, We have to be compatible in some ways and we have got to strive for a balance in our relationship. We must be friends and able to communicate openly with one another.

He must have his life, I must have mine and we must have one together so that we don't loose our selves and our individual lives must not conflict too much with our life together. There are goals to meet together and personal achievements that we both want and need.

Example he may love technology and I may love community development these are very different but we must find a common ground to support each other and meet the bigger goal.

I'm not saying that love isn't important because you have got to have love for a person that you're going to be with. I'm just saying that it's not the most important factor. Love is an emotion and emotions are not stable because they change all of the time. One minute you think you are in love and the next you don't. So for me it's not stable enough for me to make it the bases of my choice for marriage. Besides, now a days we have to really define love too, so is it really love and if it is then what is love?

This doesn't mean marriage would be perfect it just means that you have an idea of what you are looking at and have a base to help put things back into perspective when the hard times come. Most of my friends and family are married so I get to listen and see many things. I try to learn from them and I know I will have to experience it for myself to have greater understanding of how it really works.

It's better if you know what you want but it can be complex if you are not sure and that's with any relationship.

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