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Can A Guy and a Girl Just Be Friends?

Originally: Can a Guy and a Girl Just Be Platonic Friends?

Okay so I'm a girl and I have problems with other girls. I find it hard to get along with them most of the times because, like we all know, girls have attitude - bitchyness, the whole works (well some of them, not all).

And me am just a laid-back kind of person and sorta tom-boyish. I flow better with guys and most of my friends are guys. But the problem is, most of my 'guy-friends' always want to take it to another level, which usually changes everything and tends to mess up the whole friendship. They just can't leave it at being 'just friends'.

So I'm curious. Can a guy and a girl really be platonic friends? 'No strings attached', that type of thing.

And if your a guy/girl, do you have a girl/guy that's like your closest friend? And is it the same with you all?

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I have this same question on my mind, but I dont see anything wrong with being just friends with the opposite sex, but most people say there is everything wrong with it. Its all about "mindset", I have male friends, lots of them, they know their boundaries with me, we are getting along fine and I care little about what people think. Its my life, not theirs.

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A BIG yes. I have many female frnds I maintain platonic relationship with. And we play like mad. People call me their husband. So what's the big deal?

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Must u date every female frnd in ur life? Sure,tis possible,no strings attached,platonic frndship,u can hv a gurl as ur best frnd who u both can share ur problems nd get help 4rm each other,its all bout undastnding

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No waay eeeeeeeeh!!! Except they are parallel in nature, its either they are not straight (gay and lesbians) or a certain condition is holding them which they can only define themselves.

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Well...it's possible but difficult... I have a female friend who I like so much..We're very close but jst friends....She has a long time bf I jst broke up with my gf....but I'm eternally friend zoned and I like it like that....Though she's attractive....The only thing in the world that will eva make me date her is if she tells me that explicitly which I doubt will eva happen...And I'm not looking forward to....Cos I dnt want to lose a good friend to a break up.

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No unless if the guy is gay.

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lol every guy i tried to be frds with has tried to sleep with me.

so my answer is no we can't

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I have a frnd i met in schl, @ first i wanted to date her bt she said NO, so i backedout thou i cudnt bear it, i tried evry means posible bt she rfuse. Nw we're gud frnds but d@ doesnt mean if she brings it i won't it but i don't presurize her anymore & we're rili gud frnds, we talk abt evrytin, i min EVERYTHING, BUT if it comes it comes & if it doesnt come segobe!

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Yes definitely, In my experience some of this girls tend to turn you to assistant boyfriends later on expecting same attention their boyfriend (who is not probably around) from you. At such moments I know the time is up for me to move on.

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One must eventually lust after the other, and the relationship breaks down.

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Yes. But you will surely scare away his girlfriend(s) to be.

My wife almost took off b/c she thought I was dating such a girl, but it was platonic. I took me months to convice her nothing was happening.

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The woman will decide that!

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I 've got more female than male as friends.

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Well i have gud friends dat re guyz some hav tried to take it to another level,some re just so cool to the point that its too gud to be true.i have a guy friend 4rm wayback in sec sch,we re so tight that we hardly keep secrets,he's my bestest friend,so its possible i thnk it just depends on the individual.

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try and get guys who have girlfriends already,that way it can work,but free and searching no way!

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NO!he is looking at u bt not seeing u,listening bt not hearing u.men just have a way of dirtying everything up,dats jst who they r .they can't help being themselves

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A little Intro to my self: I am not from Nigeria, so some of the lingo is kind of forign to me, but i think i can understand everyone for the most part,

I am a guy, and i do not know how to be a girl's friend at all. Any time i speak to a girl i have a feeling of needing to impress. I feel it right away and i get nervous, ( of course the girl cant tell, im very good at hiding feelings)and i begin to act in a way i think the girl will best like me, instead of just acting myself, I think sometimes if i did act myself no girl i know would be interested in being friends in the first place (I play alot of video games).

I have guy friends that dont play games, but we can still talk, what is the difference i dont know. I think im just prejudging women, but the feeling that i have to impress comes like an instinct, So i guess a question for the women does a guy have to impress you for him to be your friend?

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Guess it all dpeends on how well defined things were at the beginning of the "friendship" Defintion is critical to staying "just friends"

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Yes they can just friends, and this is happening to me. We've been togerther as just friends for more 10yrs now. Shes pretty and nice so am i . But just friends we are.

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of course, opposites attract. And believe me girl/guy or guy/girl platonic relationships have stronger bonds and unspoken words of loyalty.

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A guy and girl can be just friends,, it is called discipline!!

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who says that.it is reall that a guy and a girl can still be freinds,like me,i had a friend whom was a lady,we were so close that when we were in lesson,i couldn't get a girl freind,cos the girls thought she was my babe,and when ever i say i neva had one,it get's them angry,thinking i was lying and it kept on for bout 3 yrs till now we are still very good friends,i have never for ones tried any thing funny,i am a funny guy and girls like being around me,and when ever people see me some think one of them is my girl.so a guy can a girl can still be best of friends,

take care.

Kenneth.

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is it penpals or internet friends?

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No and Yes = maybe

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It all depends and everything's been said. However, men use "friendship" to try and get into a girl's undies. And girls use "friendship" for ugly and broke guys they dont want to be involved with.

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yes they can but its not easy,am talking out of experience.also they should not limit the extent of the relationship

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My dear it possible but very rare,i know how u feel cause i have

male friends too who want to convert the friendship at the end

of the day but not all of them.

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nope a guy and a girl can't be platonic friends, unless the guy dosen't find the chick attractive or vise versa. but tw ;Do people that are attracted to each other friends? nah unless they'll be friends wit benefits

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@ topic, why not?

Of course a guy and a girl can be just friends.

Happens to me all the time. 

Occasionally a guy friend gets carried away in a weak moment, but they can usually recover quickly, most times.

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Yes, a guy and girl can be just platonic friends.

In my work, I've come accross quite a few ladies, we've become friends, and nothing more. My fiancee is well aware of this too, and she trusts me implictly, I hide nothing from her.

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hahah, yes, n dont ask me what happened

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Why will a guy and a babe be friends. I once had a girl i desired as my soul mate but she never wanted me as a lover. I agreed to be her friend. We went to a party and i saw a babe that turned me on, danced together, did stuffs together and i forgot i went with someone to the party. She got angry and left the party and told me never to come/call her again. I told her in a mail/text that we weren't lovers but friends that she shouldn't feel funny. What could have gone wrong with her.

To cut the story short we don't see eye to eye again.

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Well, for me, a guy and a girl can just be friends. But at a point, they develop interest for each other.

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yes my childhood friend is a guy

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yes is very possible i have a girl friend is while i was in school even when she got married her husband knows about our friendship and there is no string attached purely friendship

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I'd believe that for someone else, not u

Omo Eko

I no greeeeeeee!!!!

u lying!

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yes it is possible, depend how u guys handle issues

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just friends? abomination, tufiepa

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why not i have enough opposite sex and there is nothing like thrash,u may fall in luv along d line with 1 of dis frend of urs but u must know how 2sort dis out.

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yeah i think both sex can be friends but they both need to know where they stand with each other.

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YES,DEPENDING ON YOUR INTENTION FOR THE FRIENSHIP.I HAVE MADE FRIENDS OF FOUR,FIVE,SIX YEARS WITH OPPOSITE SEX WITHOUT HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH THEM AND I AN LOOKING FOR MORE FRIENDS.

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