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Can A Man Love A Woman And Still Cheat On Her?

Is it possible for a man love a lady and still cheat on her?

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possible but its not healthy

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SMH...See plenty Cheaters. Una never change.

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The answer is a big YES

I used to ask myself how possible that was; to love someone and still cheat on them, but i have grown older to know its a big YES.

What many people get confused with is COMMITMENT and LOVE.

If you love someone and you are so committed to the individual and you are disciplined, then you will not cheat.

If you love but not committed, then you will cheat

if you love, committed and not disciplined, you will cheat.

and to get newbies confused the more, you can be committed, disciplined and not in LOVE and will never cheat.

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Yes.

It can happen both ways.

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That's not real love then,it is called ''fallacy love'',Cause if a man loves a woman deeply,there's no way,he would cheat on her.NO WAY!

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I don't believe in making excuses on behalf of men. It is in their nature to cheat, bla bla bla. That's all bull. I will personally shake my head at any woman who believes her husband/boyfriend can still love her, even though he cheats on her. What is love? Love is patient, kind, and long suffering. For Men who think it's ok to cheat on their wives and still love them, go back to the drawing board. . Something must have gone wrong somewhere!

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it cn be possible,many@ times,d person might nt be contented with wat he has,n each time is been caught,he kept apologizing,then i think he needs a divine intervention

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quote by: saintchux

I completely agree

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it is very much possible i'm even one of them

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This post is really anoying. we all know its the mans nature to cheat, they see that as normal. But if a lady cheats its something else in Africa oh.Time shall tell. We shall soon change that notion

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yup.

sex 2 a man is a physical act,

unlike most females  sex&love are intertwinned.

a woman may endure sex with a man she doesnt like/luv, but a man can enjoy sex with any feamle, ugly, short tall ewtc.it doesnt change anything

but when a man ''truly loves a woman'' he wudnt cheat on her.

its now left 4 u to differentiate btw luvs n truly luvs, LOL

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Due to the fact that a Man can make love with a woman, without any emotional attachment, it is possible for a man to be in love with a woman, and still  cheat with a whole lot of other women.

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If your definition of love has to do with deep, godly commitment, then it is only possible when the man stops being god-fearing!!!

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@poster

Yes a man can love his wifey/girlfriend and still cheats,

It is their world

They are polygamous by nature

But a sensible and respected man will never rub it on your face,nor give u any slightest clue to suspect his cheating

A wise man draws a line between the love for a wifey/gf and that of cheating companion

He doesn't mix the two feelings, yet he is inlove, and he stil kwns whose his heart beats for

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@post

Very possible and quite frequent. Mostly in a "no-sex" relationship.

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it is a trick question i tink it depends on the individual

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NO NO NO.

IMPOSSICANT

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Nope! that's not possible. If a man truly loves a woman there's no way he can do get much less glance twice at a lady passing by,

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@ poster, in response to ur question, as far as am concerned its impossible.

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It is not possible cause when u r truely in luv to cheat on ur partner is like as if u r stabbing urself which u wouldn't want to do TRUE LUV DOES NOT CHEAT

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i believe it is very much possible, cos some guys are fond of cheating on their spouse, so am not surprise[color=#006600][/color]

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if u genuinely love , u won't cheat even if u have a million opportunities of doing it and not being caught.

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the question has two answers, if the man has self-control for himself he will not cheat, but if no self-control then he will cheat

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@omodada ani omo daaa daa ni e se. you are absolutely right oh honey pie,is just that people haven't realize that yet

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Ok guys, love or no love, a guy who beats his wife belongs in a mental institution.

The men and women that kill their kids and then commit suicide love their kids, but its unacceptable behaviour.

I mean, the Molester thinks he loves his victim right?

Love is a choice

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Its a choice to be patient, kind, not insist on ones own way, etc,

Its hurtful and disgusting to cheat, and creates mistrust and messed up kids.

Many Naija women feel trapped by status, being "Pregnant & Barefooted"

Frankly in Nigeria there are no consequences to this behaviour.

Try that in the US/UK and you will be

a) homeless

b) paying childsupport

So if you want to carry on, change the law and see if guys dont learn to behave.

There are no consequences so the disrespect to many women continues.

Of course I am blessed that most of the men in my family have never done that and those that have hang their head in shame.

When a girl has a one-night stand with someone else? does she still love her man?

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what we often refer to as "love" isn't in fact, love. ideally, love shouldn't hurt. eric benet says he's never loved anyone like he loves halle berry, yet he cheated on her repeatedly. true love (as in the man-woman thingy) exists in about 1 out 0f 500,000 cases. watch the true story, "beautiful mind". johnny nash and his wife found TRUE LOVE.

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well shadex it means u can't get smfing n hv it.just like u spendin urmates money butu had urmoney den u spent it n don't won't urmate to hv d money back basically dats wat no it means

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What happened then? did he come to his senses?

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This thread is amusing with the amount of

response and most people defining love in their

own ways.

I wish to say there is no definition for Love.It all depends on individuals perspective as

in how you want it although the society has made it look live LOVE is a sacred thing like

SEX use to be.

How many of us really understand LOVE?

How many people can actually LOVE in totality?

I conclude the word love is to big so don't even contemplate it because

LOVE = HATE

which is not suppose to be

While

FREINDSHIP = PARTNERS

b/cos there is room to figth and make up.

So i conclusievely say that a man can love a woman and still cheat on her while if she finds out that love should see them thru which in most cases it tunrs to hate while in friendship there is a better understanding and most likehood to make peace.

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I couldn't have said it better earthrealm.

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from my point of view, its NO

if am ;dangerously inluv with a gal', i aint gat time 4 any other chic,

though some guys could stil cheat , its an indiviodual thing

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YEs is possible becos an african man is polygamous by nature

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I think if a guy is truely in love with his girlfriend,he have no reason to cheat on her,love is all about commitment and sacrifice. That's how i feel.

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u know wat? u can't love her and still cheat on her. Yes! if u love her u will not cheat on her.

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I think the crux of the matter here is your definition of Love.

I now see that you view love in terms of the mythical version.

I personally do not believe that love really exists.

The love as described by most believers of the fantasy love is one that precludes anything else, not even a lustful glance elsewhere. This kind of love I believe is only found among pyscho's and bunny boilers.

I would actually like to do a real life social studies test.

How many of the believers of this mythical love actually are in a relationship right now where the male is in love and hence will NEVER cheat?

I want a list of nairaland peeps.

Then I will take the next step.

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Are you trying to saying that we should accept whatever a man tells us (about what he feels or is capable of) no matter how preposterous it is? If that is the case, then both sexes should be able to run around doing all kinds of crazy stuff and when pulled up on it, respond as follows: "Oh you don't know what it means/feels like to be a man/woman." I betcha some people will have a field day if and when such excuses begin to wash.

The question is, "Can a man  love a woman and still cheat on her" I believe the women are answering because they are part of the equation (and are giving their opinions as to what they would believe if faced with such a scenario). Take women out of the equation and the question will cease to be.

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Here is the link for the quotes in my previous post. I meant to include it originally.

http://magdalenefoundation.com/nature-female-promiscuity.html

Chimps have a similar social structure to hens/cocks, basically an alpha male and a couple of females, yet we see what the DNA tests revealed. Testing hens offspring  might reveal a shocker too. But that is just as aside. We will work with the assumption that the rooster fathers most if not all of the hens offspring.

That a lot of human communities were polygamous in nature or follow this or that example in the animal kingdom does not in anyway help the argument that a man can love his wife and still cheat on her.

I will refer you once again to this:

Human society was far from egalitarian and women just began to acquire certain rights (e.g the right to vote) in the last century. Women were even sometimes considered as chattel. Much like in the excerpt above, early man imposed certain things (polygamy/other double standards) on females through exertion of his social power, brute force or indirectly by controlling the resources that she and her offspring require. This had nothing to do with love and everything to do with selfishness.   We all know that some people will do things if they feel that society permits them. These people will cheat without compunction because they feel that the woman is not going anywhere, that she will have no worth as a divorcee, will not be able to remarry or be self sustaining, and has no other options.

Love is not selfish and a person who is truly in love will definitely rate that love higher than some random shag. Now the minute a person begins to think of taking a chance, it shows you how low thier so called "love" rates. Maybe a man can like his wife or be fond of her and still cheat on her, but love? Nah!

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@ Justmoi, Thanks and well said.

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@ justmoi,

merci. I also appreciate your effort.

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A lot of men who cheat on their wives are those who would kill whoever it is that gravitates toward their wives unnecessarily.Why?Because they love their wives with a passion!For real n9ja men they call them "my queen".So the problem of extramarital affair is not necessarily lack of true love from men but covetousness and probably lack of discipline and of course seeming temptations, may God help us!!!

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another point:

why are so many women answering this question on behalf of men?

No ladies should pretend to know what a man feels or is capable of.

I would not be qualified to answer the question if it was about women, so why do you ladies think you know what it means to be a male??

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JustMoi, the point were your argument falls down is the fact than Mankind's past has followed the example of the hens moreso than your examples.

Look at the history of humans and you'll see that polygamous behaviour among the men in the past is well established as oppossed to polygamous behaviour among the women.

No one is trying to justify anything, it was asked IF IT IS POSSIBLE.

If the question was IS IT RIGHT, then that is another argument.

But you ladies are equating the possibility of someone loving you and yet being ABLE to cheat with ACTUALLY cheating and saying it is okay.

I agree with everyone that CHEATING is NOT RIGHT but that is not what we are debating.

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For all those talking about hens, cocks, lions and  making animal analogies, here is something to ponder.

Female chimpanzees are promiscuous and sleep with numerous partners while in heat. In adaptation, male chimpanzees grew huge testicles and release copious amounts of sperm all in an attempt to increase their chances of being the father.

Examples of females not being monagamous abound in the animal kingdom. E.g the bonobo's, macaque's (sp), countless bird species etc etc

I DO NOT CONDONE CHEATING BY HUMAN MALES OR FEMALES. This is just in response to those who seek to make animal analogies and imply that it is just a physical thing for men. If one were to follow the same FAULTY REASONING, then it is just a physical thing too for women.

The male of the species need to recharge/replenish after each  after one sexual encounter. Females don't and can keep going , including with multiple partners. Are we to now say that women were built to cheat? NO!

Humans have very large brains and in my opinion are very different from the lesser animals , A man who loves his wife will not cheat on her and vice versa. All this talk about men being able to cheat, while loving their spouses is just an attempt to justify selfish behavior. Trying to use an animal analogy to make a case for that, is pointless because there are numerous other examples to counteract the point that you are trying to make.

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It is not possible for a man to love his wife and cheat on her.

I totally agree.

Btw, good job @ Nia and Faa.

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@Michy, when you are in love you are having fun, so there is no need cheating for fun, when you cheat you are not in love

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