The girl loves me too much but i no even like am.Is it safe to go ahead for marriage?
av got IBO friends that converted to ISLAM sharp sharp before marriage sef,mr poster dnt be gullible when it comes to marriage o, xtian women are obstinate when it comes to leaving the three gods and sticking to just ONE GOD,and if ure not careful they will start telling u about the fake death of the second god,that u can only get eternal life thru him,cos they foolishly thought he died for their sins,May Allah guide you right (ameen)
dnt let her give your kids IDOLATORY names instead of IBRAHIM,ISSA,MUSA,ISMAIL,GADDAFFI,JUBRIL,KHALID,AZEEZAT,AFSAT &CO Ma Salam
As it been explained to you. It is allow for muslims to marry people of the book, either christian or Jews. However, you will need to make her be a complete muslim in order not to affect your future. I mean your children. Morover, Marriages like this, although permitted but also not generalise. Umar ibn Katab forbades some companions during his time forbades some companions when there are lot of muslims girls available.
Also, there are many questions which arouse during marital life, which a man should asked himself before getting marry, such as which religious should the children practice, which festival should they celebrates and the likes. And in practice, how will you sort out the religious difference within the family. Such marriage in the light of spiritual commitment cost more than what a person prepared and with my experience with some family like that, the muslim husband regret in his old age when he realises the truth of hereafter and almost close to the end of his sourjon on earth.
Lastly, if you think you can proceed to marry her out of love nobody can stop you, however, first you need to ask yourself, did you love her for Allah's sake or otherwise and knowing it right that you are taking a big risk and you are responsible for any action you take on your life.
Abu hurairah said the Prophet said,'you may marry a woman for four things, her wealth, her family, her beauty and her religion. But marry the religious woman or you will lose'
It was related that when uqba ibn amir stood upon the pulpit said that the messenger of God said,'A believer is the brother of another believer, so it is unlawful for him to seek to outstrip his brother, and he should not make a proposal after his brother has proposed, unless his brother first give up his proposal'
Love: Hadith muslim, no 42 -
narrated Abu hurairah who said,'The Messenger of God said,'You will not enter paradise until you believe, and you will not believe until you love one another, shall i tell you of something which if you do it you will love each other ? Spread peace among yourselves'
muslim, hadith 24, Narrated Anas that Prophet Muhammad said,,'By Him in Whose my soul, no servant will have attained faith until he loves his neighbour as he loves himself'
muslim, hadith 1768- 'Abu huraira said 'the messenger of God said,'On the Day of Resurrection God will say,'where are those who have loved each other for My sake ? Today I shall protect them in My shade when there is no other shade but Mine'
muslim, hadith 1800
By Anas bin malik that Muhammad said,'Do not hate each other and do not be jealous of each other and do not abandon each other, and ,O worshippers of God ! Be brotherly, for it is not permissible for any muslim to abandon his brother for more than 3 days'
You will certainly have problem if she remains in christianity:
She will be doing things contrary to the teaching of Islam, majority of men die before their wives, what will you do if they are raised in a christian way since you are always off to the office, do you want ur children to be like mazaje and tudor who embraced atheism ? Their fathers were muslim. In ur grave and Hereafter you shall be questioned of ur children's faith.
If your wife dies you will not attend her burial nor will you ever pray for her, see Quran 9:84 'And never pray for any of them nor stand at their grave. Certainly they disbelieved in Allah and His messenger and died while they were fasiqun'
you shall not inherit her nor will she inherit you,
Narrated Usama bin zaid that the messenger of Good said,'an unbeliever does not inherit a believer and a believer does not inherit an unbeliever' sahih muslim, hadith 994.
The ball is in ur court
You are allowed to marry a jew or christian Quran 5:5 ',,,, lawful to you (in marriage) are chaste women from the believers and chaste from those who were given the scripture (jews and christians)
There is arguement , some scholars interprete the verse to come as mistress other say girl friend, Allah knows best, the verse continues
',,,when you have given their due pridal money, desiring chastity, not committing illegal sexual intercourse nor taking them as girl friends or mistress.
And whosoever disbelieve in faith, then fruitless is his work, and in the Hereafter he will be among the losers'
may Allah forgive us and guide us