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Can Just Friends Be More?

For three months I dated someone. This why my first serious relationship since a four year one almost two years ago. I found him comforting, sweet, and goal-oriented. The challenge was/is that I'm away at school (5 hrs). It's difficult since we met a week before I left for school. We tried to make it work, but he gave up. We still talk once a week for about an hour. We hang out almost everytime I come home.

I just don't know what to think. I've asked, and he's said, "I just don't feel that way about you." I believe him, but somewhere in the back of my mind I think he's not sure yet. When he ended it, he asked if we could take a step backward and just be friends for awhile. I'm so confused. I know better than to be hung-up on someone, but I haven't felt so strongly about a guy in a long time. I date a lot, and I have a pretty good idea about qualities I look for in people. Is he just being nice or could there be more there than just friends?

I'm scared because I think I may love him, and I really don't want to get hurt again. Anyone have advice

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Bro - This a 2006 topic and to top it up, your post is even so freakin' off topic!!!

Can't you start ur own thread?

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I am a very lively and jovial guy, but extremely shy. I could mix with a lady if introduced by someone else, but I cant be the first to start a conversation. I am really sad bout this. How could I be helped?? I see lots of nice beautiful ladies, but cant even step up to them. Dont know what to even say,

pls, I despirately need help from this cage.

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i think u should 4get about him since he said so, cos relying and waiting n hoping can leave u hurt afterall!

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if you dont bring yourself to do it now, you'll be hurt more than you're hurting now

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thats what she cant possibly do! no will power!

this is the time to leave the guy, dont talk so much with im on the phone, work on ur outlook to help ur confidence and move on, if he doesnt come back chasing u, i have to re-evaluate my psychology skills

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great!!!!!

i guess she should just let go he's not worth it

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simple, she is goin out with a guy, she loves him(even if she feels she doesnt) then she wants to take it to the next level but he, like a man is, does not want that cos it will wreck his game with potential admirers and at the same time, he isnt sure about these admirers so he wants her available for him till whenever he is sure about them then, he will either end the friendship or put some fire to re kindle

how did i perform?

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ask me to explain rhoda

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this is a bit confusing

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First Question:How Old are you?

If that's the way he feels about it right now though, I can assure you there is little you can do to change things. He may look or sound calous now, but trust me(From Experience), He likes you too much and really won't want to hurt you, so accept what he can offer while you hope it's not another girl somewhere.

If you are in school right now, abeg, face your book, he can wait, if he's really yours, even if you spend 1million years in school, he'll be there(if he's yours).

Take care Dearie, keep more neutral dates, and you shall enjoy your youth.

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