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Can Opposite Sexes Be Best Friends?

do u think a guy and a girl can be real best friends without any sexual intents? i mean girls we all hav our best friend who we tell our every secret and bidness. tha question goes for both sexes, do u think ur best friend can be tha opposite sex or do u already hav an opposite sex as best friend?

please don't give a yes/no answer, try and give tha reasons behind ur answer.

like me, i wud say not really cos i've had some guy friends whom i like with no strings attached but they always wann@ be more than just a friend.

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YES, its very possible if they both share a same mind

and if they will both see the other as a brother or sister.

I've had such relationships b4, nd till date will respect each other

for it.

even though she's married now, she still sees me as her best friend

and her husband knows it, even wen she's misbehaving,he calls me

to talk to my friend.

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to: 2fine4u

i have a best friend who is a guy and we've been friends for years!!!!

he has his girl, i have my guy, we tell eachoda everything and there's no that sexual tension or whateva hanging on the air(as far as i know)!!!

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Re: Can Opposite Sexes Be Best Friends?

« #5 on: 21 June 2006, 12:54:44 »

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I personally do not fancy that girl-girl best-friend tingy

girls are trouble and nuthin else! they're full Of jealousy alwayz bitching around and back-Stabbing.

I have loadzz male friendz than female friendz and besides guys Can be the best Of friendz, I've got this friend who's just Sooooo he's Older and whenever we're chatting and im bout to say sumtin Silly he just goes like ''Rhodalyn! and immediately i know i got to Stop what im bout to say and he Says it authoritatively, U know like a big bro Sort Of thing but we Used to talk naughty Stuffs Sumtymes

gurlz are gurlz and will alwayz be gurlz!

maybe the ONES U HANG OUT WITH, but i beg to differ, all my girlfriends dnt Dam or back stab cos we are bigger than dat, lol

our policy is, if u have something to say, say it afterall, its ur opinion.

some guys also backstab(i know cos i have two bestfriends dat are guys) sometimes, they say what d are not suppose to say n like girls, apologise, u may think i hang with the wrong crowd, my point is, EVERYONE IS NOT THE SAME, SO STOP LABELLING EITHER ALL GIRLS AS ONE OR ALL GUYS AS ONE!!!!

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Yes.But must be a frndshp dat has been built right 4rm childhud days or while stil in secondary school.Why?Cause we guy in terms of thought,luking at d future are far ahead of our female counterpart.A butiful girl who is in her late teen or early 20s' tink she's young & hav all d time in d world & so do nt want 2 be hooked up 2 a particular guy.Am speakin 4rm experience.I hav a girl of 19yrs old who is my frnd.Am 26,i luv her & i knw she luv me 2 but she wants us 2 be just gud frnds.Am nt okay wit it caus we knw eachoda in sch(uniben) & its bin a yr nw.She tels me of guys who toast her & hw she prefer guys as frnds than her female counterpart.I dnt nid sex 4rm her caus i dnt believ in pre-marital sex.Dis she knows & i tink is 1 of d reason she liks my person but dnt nid a comitment.4 me i nid a girl i can call my own,a frnd who i can talk 2,advice,encourage vice versa.1 who wil stay all tru life.Am lukin at d future already but she is lukin at d now.So sista,get a gud fellow sista as gud frnd 2 be on d safer side.Frndshp grws wit time.I knw girls are sumtims trobule 2 demselves bt dere are stil sum gud ones.

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Pposite sexes can be ral friends but both need to be really disciplined to keep at that level. the truth is it can work if both just have mutual respect for each other and are nor on the same level. i.e if you know that there is nothing in the other party that will ever make you want to go go down with him or her. i have had two good male friends. one at school and the other a friend i met by chance. the one at school had a lot of respect for me and till today still sees me as a sister. the other wanted a relationsgip and i tot i could just be friends with him. we enjoyed each others company in both friendship but with the second it got beyond platonic, something i still regret till today. it isnt easy to keep opposite sex friensship at platonic level because the closser you get the more you want to dspend time together and the more tempted you are especially wwhere you discuss intimate issues. it is quite tempting. so be careful.

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Let me borrow the words of Chris Rock: I have a few girls as friends but they all happened by accident! they are some girl i was trying to f-uck i made a wrong turn and i ended up in the Friend Zone

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i dont think we'll ever get past friendship 4 many reasons excluding genotype and stuff i'm like 5 levels hotter and she knows we wont last long coz there can only be one manipulative Dam in a relationship.lol

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@ henry

Had a female best friend who was my wingman before, nothing we didnt talk about. i dated her friends willy nilly but secretly, she had a crush too not minding all of her friends i had dated. She was always wondering what was wrong with her that i couldn't date her. We almost got close too close for comfort someday, but i had to stop myself cos i knew deep down i only wanted her as my friend. Hence my saying that the friendship has a time limit

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I think its possible but I either the girl will secretly have a crush on the guy or the guy will secretly have a crush on the girl. , .

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Yes na. One of be best friend is a guy.

I feel comfortable Calling him when I'm feeling depressed, well sometimes.

The dude is one cool geek though.

As long as you guys have no feelings for each other, you can be best friends.

Making him an Indian helps too.

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yes it is. guys will always grab on something that's not their property. no matter what.

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@ poster, they can but it has a time limit of some sort.

Cos after sometime, she will wonder why you go after other girls and don't want to date her. (Talking from experience)

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@topic

Of course they can!

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Oh sure they can.

But very often we misunderstand our mutual feelings!

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It's possible but sexo will be like stench in the air. If you guys don't do it, it may choke the relationship

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It doesn't always happen that way , there are some exceptions, though rare. It's a mind thing.

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Yes a man and a woman can be best friends with no attachments or sexual incounters. I have a man that is my best friend in the whole world and i love him to death but to do anything with him wouldnt be right to me. I mean some people can have a best friend of an oppsite sex and they are best friends with benifits. Then i think that it would be different. It just depends on the two people and the way that they tell each other that they want their friendship to be.

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@MILITIA,

I got a problem when African folks who live in abroad thinks nothing good can ever happen in Africa. If these things works in America,Europe,Asia, then it can also work in Nigeria and other African nations. My reformed mentality didn't start in the United States Of America, it was there right from child hood days in Nigeria. It might interest you to know there are some Nigerians back home who are well cultured,matured, and globally sophisticated mentally than most American folks.

I once had a female best friend for over five years till she got married to her husband. I played a great role during their courtship. She had actually met the guy through me, yet we were/are still best of friends. All through the five years we never kiss, nor had sex. It was in Nigeria not America. Please, let us believe that something great can also happen in Nigeria,nay Africa.

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thanks jare, same also goes to you

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@Enitan2002

Edumare bless you o!

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@ everyone

can a predator become friends with its preys?

It's ok to be friends with the opposite sex,we cant do without them.

But to be bestest of the best of friends thats not possible.

Just imagine, am in a wonderful relationship with the best person i can ever think of after my MAMA, and u expect me to still have someone very intimate outside there (opposite sex), whom i can discuss anything under and above the sun with.Then why do i have a soul-mate?

Since i can discuss everything with my 'baby', i dont see any reason i should have another girl as my best friend.

MY LADY WILL BE EVERYTHING TO ME, SHE'S GONNA BE MY SISTER, MY MOTHER, MY DAUGHTER, MY CONFIDANT, AND ABOVE ALL MY FRIEND.

so that settles the matter

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Yeah, it's possible because my best friend is a boy and I don't see anything wrong wit it.

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i have tried and at the end of the day they or myself want more. as for now the only close friends of the opposite sex i got are my cousins

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what girl to girl friendship is the best

u guys can paint each others nails

bake sugarplum pies

gossip about other girls and guys

sleep in hte same bed with out worrying about getting jumped

take showers together with out gettin jumped

and chances are ur girls friends are better cooks as well

girls will hold ur hair up when u are puking after a long nite at the club

tell u, honey u aer not that fat, even though u look like a baboon

comfort u when u are sad

and watch out for cops for u while u slash his tires, break his windshield and poor sand down his gasoline tank

Last but not least, u can always share their clothes so in reallity u have three to four combined wardrobes.

the only thing a guy friend is good for is paying for the bills when u guys all go out to eat. getting a guys point of view when u need advice about a man u looooooooove, and last not but least change ur tires. See when u get a male friend they only have limited warranty. and sometimes they are sold to u broken, and confused. clearly they were in teh friend ship aisle, but somehow they want to end up in the boyfriend aisle, so u toss them into the 3 for 1 discount bin because that is where they all end up anyway.

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sure they can, as long as there's no physical attraction

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Ouote of ToyM28

I should add here that you can only speak for yourself O!!!

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my best friend is a chick and if i could do that why cant anyone? we tell ourselves every detail of our lives like our problems, sex with our hubbies, families, joys. we hang out too. and everybody is cool and happy about it. of course at the beginnin emotions started creeping in so we had to tell ourselves the truth. IT AINT GON' WORK!. so we are always there for eachother.

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yeah i will love 2 ve a bsetfriend whos a boy but most of ma bestfriends r girls i guees it eaiser 2 talk 2 a gal i guess but i might give dat a go no biggie

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Yes they can.

Two of my BFF are Male. We have known each other for well over 15 yrs and have been inseparable.

I would trust them with my life, wished I could say likewise for my female counterparts, who seems to be only interested in gossip, bad-mouthing and jealousy.

One of my male BFF wife is having a difficult time understanding why her husband's best friend happens to be a female, however, I believe with time as her level of maturity grows she would.

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Yeah you can be best friends with the opposite sex with no strings attached and ve got one like dat and we are really close and i share my problems with him and he is been helpful i dont even fancy aving girls as my best friends cos they are sometin else sometimes

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yES IS THE ANSWER. i HAVE MANY GOOD FRIENDS OF THE OPPOSITE SEX, NO STRINGS ATTACHED.

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Please my sis, enlighten the kid. matured minds indeed. Look, I'm a guy and I'm sure your mind ain't half as matured as mine. I promise u if u carry on at the same pace with her, one day go be one day. been there, done that.

I still repeat, if i were her guy, I'll put u in a wheelchair for some months, at least

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Shawn Bee,

I'm just a normal human being like you are,and i must tell you i am serious about it.

We are confortable with each other,even her boyfriend is comfortable with it too.Common man we are of matured minds.

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you can have all the friends you want before u get married. but once u do opposite sex friendships end

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Yeah my bestfriend is a male we use to go out but then we stopped sha, Sha sha I think one of the reasons why were bestfriends is because his always there to listen to me and ish, I feel so comfortable with him.But I'm not inlove with him like that sha.

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definitely

i'm sure diddy knws

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Who says it isnt possible to best friend with the opposite sex?

As for me my bestfriend is a gal and we like each other very much that every body thinks there are strings attached.

Talking about the sexual thing, Yes at the early stage of our friendship the were lots of times we both lost control that we went into deep kisses that we almost made love but later on we outgrew that and nothing happened henceforth.Though we still kiss till now but not more than friendship kiss.,, You know!

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Absolutely, they can be Best Friends

i have male friends, who are very close to me

but the thing is

people love to talk

when they see u hanging out

or walking with a guy

to them, the two of u are dating

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I've always find the opposite sex as my best friends, cos male friends seems to be more secretive and aint ready to share what they have, but tlk about female they end up f**kin.

To me opposite-sex can be friends without sex, i don't know about you!

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Nosa am happy u feel me cos 4 real like u said it aint easy at all, ps tell the house oo

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i think its very possible for a guy and a girl to be best friends.there musn't really b strings attatched.

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Men I've tried it a lotta times but we always end up having sex n 4 me I'ld rather have guys as pals so I wont fall into temptation

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my best friends have also been girls and i love them for their openess and sincerety.

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It is very possible, maybe not best friends but very close friends.

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i know that they will eventually make love /sex

now note thar when one of them now decides

to move on the other feels deprived

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well i do not know how u guys see this

well from my own point of view its almost impossible

cos from best of friends it will lead to somethin deeper

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hell ye opposite sexes can be besfriendz ma besfriend iz a guy nd i tell him everything. ive got more guy friendz dan girlz coz girlz can be b*tchez sumtimes

nd ye derz alwayz gunna be dat thought of bein more dan friendz

trust me itz better 2 stick 2 bein jus friendz

sumwhere down da line me nd ma besfriend tried ta be more dan friendz buh it dint quite werk out

we still as tight as eva nd i gat sum gurlz hatin on me cuz we so tight nd dey think we a couple

even ma ex boi had a problem wit him. . .buh truth be told i wudnt let nobody nd i mean NOBODY come between me nd ma besfriend. i luv him ta def

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My best friend is a guy.And there are no strings attached.

At a point in time, u both wanna try the 'thing', but truth is it never works.

So the answer it YES a boy and a girl can just be friends. And further more BEST FRIENDS!

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