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Can Someone Please Tell Me If I Am A Player?

One definition of a player (male that is) is one who seeks romantic or sexual satisfaction from several women at a time without having any intentions of commitment to any.

Now only just 4 weeks ago I was single that is I had never had a girlfriend till then. Suddenly I find myself in a love triangle with two girls whom I know really like me and want to have relationships with me. All this happened after a friend of mine who is good at picking up girls gave me some tips on how to get almost any girl I want. While I am yet to have a romantic experience I don’t want to believe I am taking after my friend whose lifestyle is not appealing to me.

Before now I have been faced with all sorts of stereotypical profiling of girls especially Lagos girls such as being too money conscious, manipulative, promiscuous and pretentious no thanks to my friends who had indoctrinated me with such axioms as

1. All the girls I see around me in Lagos are photocopies of Sharon stone and Cosy Orjiakor.

2. There is no true love all so called love is puppy love

They even have an anthem they sing among themselves about Lagos girls. I can’t tell you the many nasty things contained in that anthem but it really demeans Lagos girls.

My friends who now think I am a man are planning to host a party for me which they want to use in welcoming me to the players club? They have advised that I should spare no one that crosses my path as all Lagos girls are either after their interests or want to use me as a pawn in achieving their interests. They further advice that having landed two girls in my kitty (quoting one of my friends) the next step is to chop and clean mouth.

My first question is this. Am I really a player?

My elder sister was once a victim of a player and I know how painful it was on her. I wouldn’t want to hurt anybody

But how do I handle the situation with the two girls? Do I tell them to just be friends, avoid them or see reason with my friends?

I personally am not sure if I am in love with either of them but I am attracted to one of them more than the other.

I welcome advice, comments and criticism but please no insults.

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Thank you all for your replies. I love you all. yea I am now convinced that I am not a player. God bless

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@Topic

Bros, u are not a playa, but u have just been introduced to the game.

What u do with the skills u are now acquiring will determine whether u are indeed a player or not.

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If you were a real player then you would not have to ask this question. And if you do not like your friends influence on you, then like the above poster said, get new friends. You are mature enough to have a mind of your own, do not let other peoples thinking influence you.

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morenike09

I said no insults please. You are free to criticize my style but the shior thing is unacceptable to me. By the way sly and paulipopo are two different people.

You are definitely not paying attention. I want to get your opinion on whether or not I am a player? I haven't called myself a player. If you can't answer any of my questions then just sharapp and let others have their say.

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but you already know the definition of a player it seems and have even written a definition so you should be able to work out whether you are one or not Tongue

How has that helped me?

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