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Can True Love Be Found Online?

Today, singles all over the world are kissing fate goodbye and looking for love online.

This is hardly a new phenomenon. Online dating has been around as long as the Web made it possible for two people to communicate. Now, millions log on everyday to search through profiles and photos of total strangers, hoping to find that special someone.

Of course as long as there has been online dating, there has been a stigma attached to it. Five years ago, had anyone told you, “We met online”, you may have tried to stifle one or possibly all of the following:

A giggle

An awkward smile

A look of shame

It was the equivalent of saying, “I’m desperate, and the ticking of my biological clock keeps me up at night.”

However today, with the bombardment of television ads and word-of-mouth praise, online daters are coming out of the closet. And no one is more into the trend than Christians.

I didn’t believe it until I began researching for this article. I took a random, informal survey of several graduate school students, encouraging them to share their thoughts on dating online.

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You cant be truly in love with someone online, but u can find someone to truly love frm the online thing. I hope u understand?

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"No" True love can not be find on-line because it is the same way she will be communicating on-line with another person over there, "They are called on-line toasters". Secondly it is only communicating on-line, you can't see her face or take a look of her, may be she so ugly to call you friend, you can also invite her.

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it exists, i believe in it too

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I wish i could find someone online. But the problem's that after geting to "know" the person she doen't look "it". unlike u seeing someone u're attracted to and getting to "know" she may also not be it. many times the physical is as important as the mental,character and chemistry too.

But if you think you're a pretty girl and know that you're pretty inside and outside, then hook me up. I am physically what i am mentally. i am actually my picture too. Try and see what comes out of it. oshioke@gmail or simply leave an offline on yahoo(oshiokee)

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i feel you my guy i feel you

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i believe love can be found any where , but the truth in it can sometimes be questionable ,so allow time to judge & u ll see the true colour of ur selves

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yes true love can be found online.

I met my husband online over a year ago.

I was in wales he was in london, after 2 months of online chatting, we met then he moved closer, then we moved intogether after 3 months we got engaged and on the 14th of feb this year we got married in owerri!

I'm now waiting for him to come home to me as he is still in owerri waiting for his settlement visa!

so yes true love can be found online - you just need to be honest about who you are.

xx

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Yes really, true love can be found online.

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yes if u really know what u're doing

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maybe but e go tey. try wooing the chick and you girls make yourself avaliable at your area and you never can tell how easy that will be.

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True love online?probability 2 me is 5% depending on d partners. But one thing i am sure of is dat u cn meet extremely nice people cos i met this Ghanian guy n we became friends bt we aren't dating.

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Oya, spill the beans (without giving too much away of course), what happened?

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Don't worry about that -- I write code most days from morning till night while posting on Nairaland in-between.

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Excessive typing can cause RSI (Repetitive Strain Injury I think) of the wrists. Staring too much at the screen aint too OK either. Lets not go off-topic sha.

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Thank you very much t4 -- I've been trying to nail this into their heads. Most people ho look for "love" online are either very very shy people -- or they are people who have never been able to get into a relationship.

Concerning shyness -- nobody is shy in front of a computer. I can vouch for that because if you ask people who know me, they'll tell you I hardly ever talk -- I can't stand crowds whether they're all-male, all-female or both. I'm very quiet by nature but I can express myself on a keyboard [I joined 4 days ago but look at my number of posts!].

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Sorry Z,

you cant even judge real life personality by someone's online personality.

Many of these people who are loudmouthed "fighters" on nairaland do not even squeak in real life crowds. they can not maintain steady eye contact. In other words they are in reality extremely shy people. Why? If you are taller than me, it doesnt matter online.

Gisting on the phone is a slightly better medium.

The online sites are properly called "Introduction" agencies. The dating agency realized long ago that its value lay in the fact that most people living in the modern insular urban societies lack opportunities to be introduced. When we lived all our lives in villages, there was no need to have intermediaries. So to increase the chances of your finding a mate of the opposite sex, actively pursu opportnities to be introduced offline.

Ask your female/male friends to introduce you to the opposite sex. Ask your boss, your teacher, your staff, your cook, your maiguard , geddit? Why choose only online introduction agencies.

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If you're looking for love and you simply scan people's photos, then I pity you. Everybody puts his best photo on he web -- that's a fact [I'm guilty of that crime -- I don't look anything like that in real life]. If however you've seen the photo but only chase her becase she's humorous, etc etc, then you stand a batter chance [depending on whether she doesn't find you wanting].

I once met a girl at a bus stop and she had a body to kill for. I just asked her for directions using my best english and she turned to the person besides her and asked her what I had said [in Yoruba] -- turned out the girl didn't know one word of English. Beware!

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Have you ACTUALLY met her?

I ask because you sound like you have been carrying on this affair via phone. 90% of human communication is body language.

I am not saying the two of you may not be one of those fortunate online love stories, but we are naturally more interested in relationships that are physically being carried forward. When the two of you met (and perhaps bed), she may be disappointed, or you may be.

I am sure many people saying that online love is tough here have experienced what is tripping you. I have. the girl had posted a pic of her model shoot and she had such a sexy voice I actualy thought this was . Men, I burnt credit yarning with this girl. Finally we met in person. Anyway, I was just looking for friendship on that site and we are still friends (sand I employed her for her sexy voice as a receptonist) but the stark difference still jars me when I remember it. My boys (who knew about it) kept yabbing me cos of it.

Update us when you two meet sha

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Online true love could be found, depending on the of how the friendship was developed.

I am currently in-love with a chic I met online. She is crazy about me. I get about four calls from her everyday, and we planning to met before the end of the year.

We were open to each other in the beginning not having in mind to date, our first chat was about our career and how one could move up.

we became interested in updates about our moves and achievements. We are already thinking big, will be setting our first company together soon, she is older anyway but i don't care about that because I have found someone who cares about me as much as my family does. She has introduced me to members of her family, at least they know me by my first name.

Oppp! she is calling me again.

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you have to very careful with online dating cos there's so much deceit on the net. i remember an experience once where i finally met the guy and gosh i had to just quickly find a way out of the situation cos he was not what he had seemed to be

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True love can be found in a million places,online happens to be one of them.I don't know any1 who has experienced it but i believe it can happen.@t4cash u really think "hot" men and women don't engage in online dating?Well i think all kinds of people do it regardless of the attention they get,some jus do it to have fun and/or because they are not interested in any of their numerous admirers

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It depends on your standards. If you want to marry a trophy wife, you have a problem.

Hot women don't generally hang around in online dating rooms. They have enough trouble spurning the attention they receive everyday offline. I think its the same with hot men (except the shy ones).

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I know and I have seen people fall in loveonline,

but I'm not down for that crap.

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I've been bitten online before When we finally met he was nothing like what he had been portraying himeslf to be Many slimy snakes out there in cyber land credited to bunkbobo

If you will becos of this run away frm online love men i don't know what might happen if that is where ur luck is.

just try some more and maybe it will work out

i will say lets try it together

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yeah i very much believe in it

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Based on my own research, I think the majority of people who hang out online for dates are people who're scared of the real relationship -- or who've had very bad experiences with relationships. The idea is to let life go on and to give it another try. Contrary to the "married and lived happily ever after" theorem, most instances in live do deviate significantly from the curve.

CyberLove, for example is possible between two people who are very chaste and don't consider giving it a try in real life. On the other hand it leaves much to the imagination and either party might think the other must be depraved to have dreamt up some things. And one thing to note is that both parties in an online date tend to think of the other as perfect, trying to conceal all flaws.

By the way, your pet peeves are most likely discovered in a physical meeting. If you hate girls who chew gum, I can assure you you probably never will discover this online. Nobody ever wants to pass him/herself off as the "only bad person" on the internet. Face it -- if a beautiful bible-thumpin' sister approaches you on the net ad you're shall I say interested, I'm sure you'll dust off that old bible that's lain in the corner for ten years and begin trading bible verses with her. It really doesn't matter whether you know what you're reading - the point is you'll have the bible open in front of your screen while you type.

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You do realise that every one else you meet in your life, outside of your family, is a stranger at first, right? Right?

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It is really great  adventure that has worked out for so many people. love is a very perfect gift from God ,  you  can't control it especially when you are in dire need of it. it is so natural that you don't know when you fall in love. And it can be at any time ,with any body no matter where you met him  or her.  It is  a big mystery.

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I see no reason why people can't just be honest when they meet people online. If both parties are sincere, then there will be no shock when they meet in person.

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The odds are against that happening. Everyone can pass him/herself off as charming, honest etc online. Nothing beats getting to know the person in person.

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Can true love be found online? I believe you can make 1st contact online and it develops into love when you get to meet the person offline.

I have a cousin who met her husband online, they eventually met face to face after 3 months, dated for a year, and have now been married for almost 4 years with 2 kids,

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It depends on who is looking for love. I think you can meet someone online, and your vital statistics are very appealing, and your "First date or First meet" will seal or break the deal. The online thing is just to find a connection, more so than "Finding Love".

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falling in love or in lust i myself i don't believe in it.

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Hmm! Yeah it certainly does.

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In my opinion, there is no harm in meeting someone online but it will certainly be dumb and silly to fall in love on line. Afterall it takes two people to have known each other to an extent before falling in love can be deemed to have taken place. So how then can one fall in love with who you have never seen or known?

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yes ooo like 5% chance

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Well for me, I think its the sickest thing,Cyberworld can be so deceptive.

Well ,I've got a friend who is into one right now(still watching where it will lead to )

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thank God it work for u but i still nd one to get along with me so any introdution to one will be appreciated thanks

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The first the contact I had with my wife was done online. Today, we are happily married

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love can be found any where, as long as love still exist it can be found. ones theres a communication, and u guys get to talk, u will fall in love,

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It depends,but i dont think i can fall truely in love with a stranger .

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you're right dammy, anything is possible

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YEAH but very scarce,

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I guess 'falling in love' means different thing to different people.

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