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Can U Be In Love With Som1 U've Never Seen?

its almost six months now that we've been communicating. i met her around october 2008, on glo chat and the distance is so so far apart (i'm based in minna and she is in lagos). we've talked durin xtracool and i discovered she is a nice girl, though a bit lousy but i like her. she calls me almost everyday and shes already called me twice 2day. i dont have any hope of going to lagos soon.

guys, i dont know wht my nxt step should be. HELP!

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Yup! I am not saying that people shouldn't meet online and form relationships but how can you love someone that you haven't met not knowing if you are loving a man or female? I know homosexuality is becoming a norm for mainstream society but if you are heterosexual and you are online chatting with the same sex person...how would that make you feel when you finally meet?

Webcams and phone conversations isn't reliable. You have men sounding like women and women sounding like men and trannies these days starting to look lie real men or women.

You can't never be too careful.

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That your mammy should have swallowed instead.

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true.

lots of crazy ppl out there.

make sure you know who you are letting into your lives.

meet first, then decide.

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@OP, You can't be in love with someone you've never met. You are simply in love with the ideals you have about the perfect significant other. You need to arrange a rendezvous for both of you to meet forthwith and chances are that your so-called profound love may change with proximity with the aforementioned girl. And I think you are simply fascinated with the things she must have told you about herself which you feasibly have believed. So my advice is, get to meet her, get to know her and get to love her.

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of course is dat not why pple waaaaaaankkkkk?

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of course is dat not why pple self-service?

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i swear! i jst met her Ooo. 3yrs after.

She waznt as i expected bt she still try sha.

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what is this SINGLEPARENT tryna say?!

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Lust grows and foolishness is created.

I can love someone without seeing them, but being in love requires physical conversation, personal bond, and time work.

Loving someone is different then being in love with someone.

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Love grows..so I wont say..you are not in love..maybe a level of love...yes..its possible...

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Let's take it a step further.

OP is 20 yrs old, probably still lives with his parents in Minna, has no money, is scared of what his parents think, is in love with a 16 yr old illiterate in Lagos and now he needs our advice.

Simple answer in 3 words - 3rd Mainland Bridge.

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lolz...long time palz. Am now in Lagos finally since last Dec. bt unfortunately her numbers has nt been available for like months nw. and we've been in contact bfor she suddenly vanished. now am stuck. Will have to exercise little patience cos i dnt have her contact address to even locate her. well dtz it sha. missed u guys

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what do u mean by a bit lousy

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Falling in LOVE is not by communication but it's by pyhsical appearance, trust and understand. Communication is just a way to keep standing in love. Although she can be intresting on phone but the question you need to ask yourself is that What does she looks like?, what does she looks like in her home and her environment i'm talking about her behaviour to her parents and the neighbour? does anyone even talk about her in a good manner? does she even have any manner at all? if you can find some answers to these question about her then you go in love with her.

IF YOU ARE IN LOVE NOW IT IS SOMETHING ELSE WHICH IS CALLED LUST

Just be careful about phone gals you are a man. Use your senses (sorry being rude) but Just use what God gave you as a man.

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johnnygan

u de feel me

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I don't see wat the big deal is about this, u guys are still young (I think u are), keep talkin 2 her, I'm sure she feels the same about you, convince her to send you more photos and when the time is right y'all ll get to meet and fall in love the proper way

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Listen guy, you're 20 and she's 16, and you're still with your parents,

right? Now with the distance as an issue, there's absolutely nothing you can do for now. If you're in school, get some cash and invite her over (to your school and pay the expenses!) and see what happens. If you're not and there's no comfortable place to host her, then it's an impossible situation and nothing can be done so relax and let it go. You'll fall in love with someone you can see and touch soon. And one last thing, try to control your temper. The replies you give to some of the posts here are a little bit harsh and they sound childish. I hail.[color=#006600][/color]

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But come to think of it a brest at hand is worth more than two in the braisser

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Na wa o see wetin free Night calls dey cause.

Goodluck to u in ur Blind Date.

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i ain't seen her pic but we do talk on phone

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My Guy, that babe is too young for you!

No let her papa break ur head o, Be Careful!

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Lets face the fact.

On your part

1)You are confused.

2)The person you are in 'love' with is the image your mind created.

3)She is still under 18, a child so no 'legal' intimate relationship can hold between you two. so stop confusing yourselves

4) If this girl in question happens to be my daughter, then you will succeed in turning me into a muderer.

Advice: u ar being pushed by lust. Think of your life. find a job and better your life and by that time, she would have been matured for a 'legal relationship. If by then you still feel as you fill now, (assuming u were not castrated before then), then you will know that you love her. FOR NOW, ZIP UP!!!

On her part

She is not sencere. If she is, she would have found a way to make her clear pix reach you, litrate or illitrate. SHE IS IN LAGOS SO TO MAKE HER CLEAR PIX REACH YOUTHIS WOULD NEVER BE AN ISSUE.

ADVISE?,

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@Poster

Your next step is to give me her number while I do to her those things you have been fantasising of doing to her. i.e. fok the living daylight out of her darn Kitty-Cat.

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u r a big mumu, ur just 20 tryin to spoil a 16yr old girl, come which level u dey 4 school sef, how many times u don fail WAEC, instead of u to fink of somethn substantial to help ur self ur here complainin of LOVE.

u live with ur parent, dey feed u, n u wanna enter into a relationship under their roof. fire don burn u be dat. this pure INFATUATION,

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I'm not yelling, I'm just in shock. To answer your question, no that would be really difficult.

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u guys are yellin as though i'm searching 4 a 6th wife. . . . . . . .i'm jst 20, so can som1 say something!!!

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Wow . . . first, you're in love with you have never seen or spent time with and now, she is 16. Just when I thought I had heard it all . . .

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man, ur is weird. that means u've seen her on pix or heard her voice on phone. pls xpalin

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WETIN B UR STRESS NA?

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it's very possible infact i'm in love with my girlfriend's younger sister and we've never meet

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People,

Tell the Boy in Plain Words to leave the Kid Alone, She is UNDERAGED for crying out Loud!

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You can't be in love with someone you've never seen. You've got this idea of the girl in your head and it's all based on what she has TOLD you and that's dangerous. Either arrange to meet her and get to know her properly or cut all ties with her.

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its a tricky one. . . but from my own perspective. . . its a No.

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@poster

the girl in question is young ooooooooo

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SEEK CAUTION YOUNG MAN! or else you will find yourself in Court for Child Abuse and Molestation.

Leave The Kid ALone!

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Yeah. Especially after being brainwashed by that som1

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I am also in the same dilema!!!

That is what technology has turn us to,

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My goodness! Poster, you have got to be absolutely kidding yourself here!

NEVER EVER seen her? Just her voice and free night calls to her, are all that dazzles you? WOW!!!!!

No point to harangue you. If it works out for you, fine. If it does not, you would learn how to go the whole way before committing yourself to any relationship the next time.

All the best.

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alright, i told her many times that she should e-mail her pix, she complained that she didnt have an e-mail add. but later sent me one (a friends own). i sent mine and she sent hers. now, the pix wasnt clear so i couldnt conclude in any way on wht she looks like. i told her to try 2 send another and that has been a problem for her. well, i wont blame her, from the few stories we shared 2gether, she is a bit of an illiterate (i mean 'not used to browsing') and she's also a bit young (she'll b 16 by june) but i dont think that matters. i'm trying my best not to conclude from her voice coz GOD! she has a sweet charming voice.

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yes u can,but by the time the person appears and she looks like juju calabar is then u will truly know if wat u feels for her is love or lust.

i hate invisible women.

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Let me get this right:

You've never seen her;

You live with your parents?

You seem scared of your parents

She lives miles away

You probably ain't got no money, or you'd book a hotel.

Unless I've got it wrong, your dilemma is pointless.

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yes you can be inlove with someone you have never seen

all you need to do is arrange a meeting for the both of you

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~ Invite her over, pay her a visit or call it off! Don't y'all get tired of using technology? ~

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