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Can U Maintain A Long Distance Relationship & What Can U Do To Make It Work?

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it can work but only depend on the two people involved in the relationship, they must be commited, faithful to themselves, and understand the situation they find themselves, they must communicate often, it require time, money and commitment to make it work

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spend 1500# on calls everyday

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wow - all i can say is there are some pretty encouraging women out there!!

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mennn i kant say if mine is workin  or not so i nid ur views on this, as well, well i am into one which is 1yr 3months, shes based somewher and i am based elsewher, we c like 1ce in 2-3months and durin that time,i happen 2 see that she gets alot of toasters and guys arund everywher in her fone,some even claim 2 b her missin rib abi na shes his missin rib, so annoyin,i happen 2 b in a serious relationship rite in my home town so it dosnt really bug me bt i really love her as well,she claims they are only wastin their time and does her best 2 keep me away 4rm her fone but no matter how she tries i stil get to check whatsup wit her,she doesnt even delete the msgs, she is the daughter of a wealthy man in her state so i guess thats whats kippin me wit her, she lacks respects,maners everytin i enjoy nothin just the beauty, all d same we just still dey 1kin so what kinda relationship is dis,she claims she love me most

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mennn i kant say if mine is workin or not so i nid ur views on this, as well, well i am into one which is 1yr 3months, shes based somewher and i am based elsewher, we c like 1ce in 2-3months and durin that time,i happen 2 see that she gets alot of toasters and guys arund everywher in her fone,some even claim 2 b her missin rib abi na shes his missin rib, so annoyin,i happen 2 b in a serious relationship rite in my home town so it dosnt really bug me bt i really love her as well,she claims they are only wastin their time and does her best 2 keep me away 4rm her fone but no matter how she tries i stil get to check whatsup wit her,she doesnt even delete the msgs, she is the daughter of a wealthy man in her state so i guess thats whats kippin me wit her, she lacks respects,maners everytin i enjoy nothin just the beauty, all d same we just still dey 1kin so what kinda relationship is dis

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@poster really its not easy am in one am based and work in ibadan while my babe is in Delta we hardly seen since her last visit 3months ago its best to not go into one if u not ready. As for me its like my relationship is about to hit the rocks.

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Majority do not work.

For it to work, honesty and trust is d key.

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"for long distance relationship it has 2 be based on trust dedication ad honesty, communication helps d boost"

@ eudora, we for start one oh, Abi U no Think So? 08064733891

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I once had a long distance relationship (for a year). Now it has been four years and we're still together.

1) Trust your partner in whatever he /she does and it must work both ways

2) Be truthful to one another

3) Send each other meaningful and loving and memorable sms or email or letter (Do remind him on how handsome he is and how you really appreciate him)

4) Always support each other and give each other alot of recognition and encouragement

5) Do not be so pushy. Alot of relationship do not work if you contstanly call and sms your guy like 10 or more times a day. . . . . . . . Ad if you go asking so many questions about his whereabouts, he will get very annoyed and might just leave you.

6) Try to make efforts to see each other whenever possible

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Every r/ship is hard to maintain, this one just needs a lil more work.

Not every mode is for everyone

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for long distance relationship it has 2 be based on trust dedication ad honesty, communication helps d boost

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Spend aLL U got on phone calls!

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long distance relationship is quite challenging but if u can earn that trust, it will definitly work. am into one and its three yrs old. these era of free midnight talk and cheap sms, there shouldn't be much problem. the only missing link is the physical contact but its to make u guys strong.

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Guys,t rili does happen, work and survive,it simply depends on d couples.for over 2years my gal has been away(yankee),we talk,chat,play like she s just next house and by morning we'll see eachoda again.

Yeah,gals come and go but as soon as they i tell 'em d truth and they fly,some melt like wax b4 flame.

D truth is IT S NOT EASY.

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I bet it all depends on who is invloved

If you are an impatient person, don't venture into it

If you find it hard to trust people, don't try it

If you are not resilient, don't go near it.

As for me, out of site is out of mind. I need her close by especially in difficult times

My heart will most certyainly tilt towards that person that gives me more attention.

Sooo it a 50 50 game. If you are emotionally strong and physically capable to withstand the situation, you can do it.

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I am in one now and its really difficult. We have been at it for about 4 months.

The worst part is when you start having doubts about your partners loyalty.

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Well, right now, i'm in a long distant relationship that has lasted for three years now and its still working. But men the thing no easy at all. Once in a while he visits and vice versa. I think its based on trust, commitment and love. A lot of us dont know what true love really entails, it has to do wt a lot of sacrifice and u hv to 'suffer' for whom u love ( I used that word for some reason), it's not just a bed of roses. Love endureth ALL things. Anyway, We are still praying that we will eat the fruits of our labour. Cheers

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Yeah

   You can maitain a long distanced relatnshp and it will surely work out for real, i know what am telling you and i can't deny the reality in this fact cos am speaking from Xperince.

   All you need is to pray to be lucky with the partner you'r about to meet i.e if you should me him/her, they should range between your expectations. and now that we have internet all around us, u both shuld exchange pics to know ur fate. but if you already know yourselves, the relatnshp can go on so long as the guy is caring from a far the girl will have no choice. i know women very well,  it's what u give and how u gives it determines what and how you get it in return ok? so it works

  the girl am dating today, i met her through muzik africa and i love her so much till date,

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hey u guys are sounding negative why?for once u guys should stop been selfish if u guys can't i can just send the mule and test the field am very available no matter where ever u are gurl

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yeah as long as communication does not end

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it works only if theres trust

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I can actually relate to this topic cos i was in a long distnce relationship and it did work.Though not easy(expensive as well u want to try how much phone calls, flight tickets to visit etc cost i dont even want to remember the money now)it works based on the level of commitment and also as someone said earlier God.I guess my husband really made me understand at some point that he really wanted to be with me no matter the physical barriers that actually existed.Gosh, we used to talk more than people who lived together.We knew what the other was doing at each particular point that people around us sometimes found it annoying(jealousy people).Like i remeber in the run up to our wedding he was talking to his bestman and i walked in.That one now thinking it was news said that he had found the their suits eventually after so much hassle and i said yea i already knew and he's like 'but he just left the shop.apparently we were on the phone througout the suit search with me giving ideas and alternatives.Even my mom used to ask if there was nothing we did not tell each other.We just knew that the best way to make it work was to communicate at all times.Fortunately i used to work in a telecomms firm in naija so i had relatively cheap calls.I am sure if he also quantified how much he spent on phone cards people would scream.but it was a sacrifice we both had to make as well as saving to travel to and fro.It was really difficult but i am glad its over now and i get to spend the rest of my life with man of my dreams.But make i no lie temptations would always arise and it did for me but i guess this where the level of commitment comes into play nad how much your feelings for that person is true.

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honestly i was just thinkin of openin a topic on this cos thats what am goin thru now.it can work but it is hard!my gf and i talk trice everyday but howlong are we goin to do that.she is in lagos as well as me but she is the lock up inside house kind of girl.we ve been on for 2yrs now but i c her maybe 1ce in 2mths.she is sort of ok with the phonationship thou she sometimes seek to ee m.but me?am nt ooooooooo.all the touches smiles etc cant be replaced by the fone.

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It does work,but it depends on the both of you

And constant calling can be the right solution in such a relationship.

But really if the girl is not trustworthy dont think about it.

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That out of sight, out of mind thing finally works to the relief of everybody.for short term separation, it may work.but for long term, Things fall apart, the centre cannot hold, Do i need to finish this quote

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i reli dislike long distance relationship. .

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okay , i'm at your back .

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just keep in touch cos am keepin one

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@ Busta: It seems u r talking from experience! Perhaps it should be avoided but given a trial sometimes when its inevitable!

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hi,

YES u can! tHANKS 2 gsm, email,etc.

D temptation is there i must tell u nut i beleive with self discipline u can whether d storm depending on d individual.

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i've been there and i've done that

word of advice: run run run and scream hell no

a word is enough for the wise ,

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Long distance doesn't work . . . period!

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If it's gonna work or not, it's worth giving a try at least for the sake of love. (If d love is there in d 1st place)

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Long distance relationships hardly last, i spent 4years with my guy but when he transfered to another province, we broke up just like tht, even though we were communicating through emails, it did not work out. i went there one day just to find out he was living with another girl.

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DOESN'T WORK! - not 4 me,

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long distance can work out fine, it just depend on you and your to make it workout. for example am in a long distance relationship for 2 years and it working out fine. The KEY is communication. and we both love each other so much.

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Long Distance doesn't work!

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Bolarge, love the post, spoken wit true sensitivity n realism. Word!

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2 me, it does work! is it the sex thing that would not make it work or what?

so long there is communication, i believe in it.

take 4 instance,u are wedded and your husband was transfer abroad that later, he will process your papers 2 meet him up over there,and that may take him a year plus.

to those who doesn't believe in it, what would u do?

divorce him or what?

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Yes, i am about to start one and i know i am up to the task.

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Yes, I can.

And I do.

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IT IS SAID THAT "DISTANCE IS TO LOVE WHAT WIND IS TO FIRE. IT EXTINGUISHES THE SMALL AND REKINDLES THE GREAT." ONLY THE GREAT CAN SURVIVE, NEED I SAY MORE

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Well as for me am in one already. Just phone her regularly and send her money whenever she needs it

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I really do not believe in long distance relationship. i think it will pull the parties involved apart. if you are in love why would you want to be apart anyway. i thought when people love eachother they would want to spend all the time in the world together. it just doesn't work.

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I can’t so I don’t have any advice to give to you.

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@ topic

maybe phone intimacy can help.

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@ naija116

I get u and understand what u are saying cos i av gone thru it too , holla me @ goldengl007@yahoo.com

Lets talk

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Every r/tionship has some forms of distance in it. Be it hours, days, weeks or years. If your partner can endure, say, hours; it means she/he can endure years. If your partner can't endure any of these then she is not worthy to be your partner. Simple

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I read up something on wikihow on this topic, might be of help

http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Long-Distance-Relationship-Work

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