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Can U Marry A Man That Is 12yrs Older Than U?

Am in love with a man that is older than me with 12years and he wants to marry me, do i go ahead with the marriage?

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dude, u dey find informer trouble ooo

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If you say that again, I will know you want me. And if you don't then I will marry you.

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For those of you saying love is blind, my own is not. E dey see well well.

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@topic

Love is blind, so i can marry if he's 12years older and i'll be madly in love if he's rich. damn!

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age should not be a problem but with d ladies u never know,lol

know of some 60 year old men dat can still tap some

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i know love is what matters. but think of a woman in heat and her hubby cannot perform, and it's not a passing phase. flee temptation, and flee its causes

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it depends, age is nothing, its the looks and the lovin

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cover yourself with the blood of Jesus, and run away. By the time you hit your 40s, and getting more sexually inclined, he cannot perform again, and baby, you sure are gonna cheat on him, so if you don't wanna ever join the league of them unfaithful wives, take a walk out now!

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hey u can marry him if u love him.

my father senior my mother with 11yrs and we are very healthy

now am 23 while my boyfriend is 40.i love him and anything can happen

so do what ur heart says

good luck

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you see, the both of you just suddenly became friends.

I like that, at least if you see each other face to face you will respect your selves,

Good luck, I wish you guys a happy friendship.

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Zignor,

What did u give to Easybaby that is making her to kolo like this for you?

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Zignor, longest time o!!! u wan make i die?

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hot chic,

Pls can we chat one and one? my addy is ngojoygurl@yahoo.com, hook on any time u are online let's chat, so that i can tell u some other things pls!!!

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@ Godsgirl

You  are right,the truth is that sometimes i think older guys are much more stable

@Poster,

I actually think 15years is a lot,sometimes you never knew you could find yourself in this type of situations but actually you do,my concern is just that if you aint got any problem or doubt with this,you wouldn't be posting it here,have got to be sincere with you,something in your mind tells you its not right,something in your mind tells you something is wrong and thats why you are actually here seeking people's advice,

The truth of the matter is,when it comes to relationships and you are actually in love,you don't bother about this,you ignore what people people will say and concentrate on the relationship,because you actually the one in control and you will go through the pains and enjoyments all by yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anyway that was just my point of view but you are in the best position to decide,you need to know what you will like to do and stick to it,if you think it really bothers you,then don't go into it and besides,have you considered reasons why he is yet to get married at 40,has he divorced his previous wife or something,how long have you been with him and are you so sure you know him quite well because a lot of things has happened in the life of a 40year old man and i bet you know that,

All the best girl,

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Not neccsesarily, The attraction could have started much later in life, maybe due to circumastances. For instance I just realised the other day (when I analyzed myself in this area) that My attraction to older guys could have started between age 14-16. When I traced back the events of that time period, I realised it was the time when younger guys (my age) were in so much "heat" that during after school lessons, My classmates (the girls) would find their names written on the walls with an illustration of their pubic area. Such immaturity just had to have done it for me. Most older guys, I am sure had gone through that already and might be more stable and patient in regards to sexuality.

From age 16, I know I was definately interested in marrying a man much older. One of my reasons was: The chances that he would wait for me were much greater,

Agape!

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15 years difference is outrageous. That must mean when he was 25, he liked 10 year olds or when he was 20, be was attracted to 5 year olds.

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Love is all that matters, so what has age got to do with it? As far as yours truly is concerned the older, the better.

So girl, follow your heart. You deserve to be happy.

One thing: don't do it cos of pressure, and don't do it out of pity.

Goodluck and invite us to the wedding!

Guys, what do you think?

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There's nothing wrong in marrying a man older than you by any number of years. All needed is that you love and respect him, and he be ready to do same, and treat you as an equal to him.

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ooh ooh dat daddy.anywayz i can marry a guy 12 yrs 20 yrs.all join on luv.

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I honestly don't think a website or online forum of faceless people is the best place to seek advice concerning something as important as who to marry

@Poster,

You are the one who is going to live with whosoever you chose to marry. We can't really advice you on this. You pray about it, talk to your closest friends and family and above all, if you are deeply convinced that you want to spend the rest of your life with this man, go ahead.

One way to analyse this is: Imagine the man is old, frail and sick. The kids are all gone from the house and you are left alone with him. Will you still be happy to tarry in his presence, love him and care for him ?

Whatever answer you give to this might be a pointer to what you should do ?

For the sake of it, an age gap of 12 years is not really that much, the only snag being that the guy is already 40. That is no longer a young man by any standard

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Zignor,

Is true!! age has nothing to do with wisdom.

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Hi everyone,

ngojoygurl, pls d age gap is excellent, u need a man dat can take gud care of u, dat is mature in all ramificatn. 40yrs is jut a number to be frank, u need a man dat knws d worthy of a woman at dat age, gathered enough solid experience of life n is read to settle down 4 gud, properly focus n moreover, sm1 dat has gotten to a level in life dat he will nt compromise God's standard. marrying a man at watever age is nt d main reason or wat to lookout 4, bt d man's believe, passion n standard as a person.

ur little interractn wit zignor i hope he will nt get u confused oh!!! dis little lets chat secretly let it nt lead ot a little confusion to d man dat is seeking ur hand in marriage oooooooooooo.

babe, we need a mature hand to handle us nt a babe-man dat cant read or understand women signs, if u knw wat i mean.

pray seriously concerning d values n nt necessarily d age pls. We re serving a God of d POSSIBILITY. age doesnt count to me, bt dat doesnt mean i shld marry an 80yrs old man anyway.

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bebe2007,

Thanks baby! i consider pple alot but i think is not ought to be that way. I will change and start following my heart.

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The older the wine, the better the taste. If you guys flow, why not. MARRY the guy ok. You love him, dont you? so whats the biggy? you care too much about what pple say, thats a problem for you to address. Follow your heart babes, it will lead you to the right place. Good luck.

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trendy,

Girl don't mind him, he just kept me waiting since afternoon.

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No wahala, we will surly inform u in due time. rice and drinks dey hungry you? longii !!!

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No wahala, we will surly inform u in due time. rice and drinks dey hungry you? longii !!!

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wifeypenth,

yes i know that age is just a number, but somebody told me one day, that am going out with somebody that is old enough to be my father, that's why am worried.

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Age is JUST a number,as long as u both love eachoda!

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Zignor,

I have been online since morning.

You are just busy toasting one babe on nairaland, nawa for u o!

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Age is JUST a number,as long as u both love eachoda!

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Where exactly are u in Nigeria? am in Abuja.

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Zignor,

My email and yahoo chatting ID is ngojoygurl, if u are online now hook on let's chat.

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Zignor,

I want to know u better! hope u don't mind?

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Am not a girl so i wouldnt know

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Zignor,

Must you talk here? you and yr contributions are not needed here pls, busy body!!!

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go ahead and get married if u love him nothing do u!

but if he were younger i would say

Never!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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why not?its not as if l will be marrying his age l will be marrying him

whats important is that l love him for as long as we have the same interests l dont see why age should be a barrier,actually in our culture there is a belief that you should get married to an older man so you can have a good life

so its all a matter of choice

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Zignor,

What makes u think that what i posted is true, animal that doesn't know how to talk to human beings and who told u that the man is rich? you re so lousy and jobless, very negative human being.infact you have mental touch, you need a phychiatrist, big foooooooooooooooooooooooooooool!!!!!! 100 times,

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. . . , . . , What makes u think that what i posted is true ?

. . . . . . , .who told u that the man is rich ?

A Confused person. . . . , . . . . LMAO

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Zignor,

U are a fool and an idot for calling me a gold digger, and what makes u thinks that what i posted is ture? animal that doesn't know to talk to human beings. See u zombi that is calling me names, go and tell yr sisters that, FOOL!!

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love is dynamic, if u sure u luv him and he does why not,but 4 me age difference should be within an acceptable range.

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the most important thing is that do u love the guy? Is there chemistry between u? and can u tolerate his bad habbits as well as he yours? u r the most important person when it comes to making up ur mind about the guy, because, no matter what anyone says to u regarding this in the end it is u who is going to live with him. So dont let anyone make up ur mind for u. Ask urself what made u to fall in love with the guy, if it is worth it go ahead and do it, and so long as he is a nice and good enough man for u not for any other lady. "What is one man's food may be another man's poison", wish u all the best both ways, that is if u do decide to go ahead with or decline his proposal. But make up ur mind fast, cos he wont hang around for too long, there  are many fishes in the river waiting to be fished out, and u may lose him b4 u know it.

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what does ur family think about it? if they support u,then thats fine,if they dont it might be a big problem.they might think he is trying to influence ur decisions,

one of my mentor`s husband is 16 years older than her,even at 40,she still speaks about him with so much love and affecton.i pray that for you.take care

Marry him if you feel the conviction in ur heart.

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Mandora,

Hey girl friend, are u saying i should go ahead and marry him?

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I can have never been involved with any guy less than 8 years older than I wat counts is not his age or urs bt d fact dat u guys do well 2geda

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ZIGNOR :what are you? spoilt old man, am sure you must have destroyed alot of young girls life, thats the only reason you could condemn someone coming out life to seek advice. this is a forum where one could be counselled not insulted.love is something you cant control.the guy is a mature guy and he is focused.wat is there if she feels a sense of security with him.The bible says in the multitude of counsel, there is safety, it is either you agree or disagree, dont insult her because she is a good person

This is :

Her friend and collegue(name withheld)

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if u still find him lovable and attractive pls go ahead. happened to one of my uncles in his 40th year and the Lady is 25 yrs old from his childhood church. after 8 yrs, they are still enjoying their marriage. POray very well, then proceed.

Cheers.

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We were friends and that was how it all started, i was not actually collecting his money cos i did not put my hand in his pocket, i only accepted the once he offered me!

But pls 40 and 25 is it okay by u!

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