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Can U Marry Someone U Met Through The Internet?

my friend is in a dilenma, she met a guy thru the internet and this guy is seriously asking for her hand in marriage, he calls her all the time and he is not in nigeria now but plans to come back to arrange their wedding.he has only seen her pix, what do u guys think, is he for real or just anoda naija scammer?

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@Poster how old are you. And I equally have cause to believe that u'r jobless or are u on leave.

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To some is ok but i don't see it ok, i see the person as a coward and unsocial. To me i can never consider it.

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@ topic: True it works for some and not for others; there are 2 sides to a coin.

Personally, I CAN.

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its nothing wrong but it goes beyond pix and sweet calls if the guy comes hom let ur friend take time to know him let them court for like 9mnths .then if she is still satisfied wif him ,let her carry on.

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Yes now

Jeez!!,u been wan yab am?

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You are definately right

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I am glad to inform you all that we just did our church wedding here in the U.S. on the 16th of Feb. and it was a huge success. Our family members and friends came from different part of the state. I am now a legally married woman in the U.S. I wish all internet lovers good luck on the love life and pray it should be of a huge success soon.

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Mr Pataki, I'm good, thanks. Hope life's treating you and the missus ok?

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I had a crush on my first guy as soon as I saw him. Later, our way of contact moved to the phone. I already had an idea of what he looked so adding other aspects was just natural. The love kept increasing.

I first had my first contact with my ex through phone and I didn't feel him when we met. In fact, i got fed up and broke up.

i had other crushes but I never dated these guys (part of the life of an adolescence). They all charmed me at first sight.

Since i know myself and know what i like, I won't waste time trying to experiment mystery.

Just saving time and energy.

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Yes Milord!!!!

You have to date for a while like you would if you met by any other means. I recommend dating for at least 2 years before getting married.

Don't you like a little mystery in the whole process? When you finally exchange photograghs, you would have had an idea if it is a "workable" occurence.

I love the chasing and chatting part more than the physical encounter itself, since once you cross that line and become intimate, things kind of dip a little like you are on the "Texas Cylone" or something------- then struggle for legitimacy afterwards.  So keeping the internet thing going prolongs the doomsday of saying goodbye if things to not work out.

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I may sound shallow, but first impact is what matters to me. I need to be charmed by his looks before I can develop any other feeling!

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i'll have to agree that you have some good points but sometimes explaining yourselve over the internet is a lot harder than meeting the person in person. for example, they may explain the way they look to you one way but when you see them face to face, you're like damn.

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Personally yes, I can.

What folk don't realise is, marrying someone you met on the net, is no different from marrying someone you met in say, a bar, social event, work etc.

If you met someone you'd chatted to / spoken to online / phone, and you felt you wanted to take things further, obviously you'd meet somewhere. At this stage, you're at the stage where you'd be even if you'd never touched a PC in your life.

If after meeting, you both felt confident enough, then you could have a few meetings, meals, then start dating in earnest.

If you met someone at a social gathering, you wouldn't just marry them, you'd date for a while. So, it doesn't matter where I met a lady, I could marry her, if we "clicked".

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@topic

Never say Never, we could meet that special person, anywhere.

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man must poo for somewhere.

you meet in the moon, in your bedroom, location isnt got any content. what matters is the person. are you not aware demons dey go church. afterall satan was in heaven

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where i meet my wife shouldnt be a prob. what matters will be the events after the initial hooking up.

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Meeting on the internet , talking on the phone and exchanging emails are one thing, meeting the person in flesh and blood at least once before taking the plunge is highly adviced.

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Some years ago, It is generally unacceptable for couple to meet on the street and start dating. If you take a lady home and tell your people you met on the road, you would be castigate. To them, you might have picked up a wictch or roaming living dead. The tradition is to marry people you know or people your parents give you.

As time went by, we finds that youths started overiding that tradition and starts romance on the street, dance halls, supermarkets etc

Later, newspaper came in and many couple actually meet through newspaper. Be it pen pals, or friendship or direct romance ads. It is pure ignorance that would make anyone deny the aforementioned dating methods.

We all know that compare to newspaper, letter writting, internet is an improved communication method. Yet, due to some entrenched myths and scepticism, certain people never see any good in it. At any rate, we are slow to change. That is why we are backward. Five years ago, most of us never believe one can make money online without seeing the man you are dealing with. Today, thousands are scrambling for the opportunity.

To the topic, internet dating and marriage is not just real but realistic. Like sensible people have said, it depend on the people. It depend on them revealing their real identity and of course, if it must lead to marriage, they must meet. It is all about communication. Right communication for that matter. It is all about attitude.

I need to remind you all that every evils associated with internet datings also applies to your offline datings. Therefore, anything is possible.

My advice to wannabe internet spouse is TO LOVE WITH YOUR HEAD FIRST AND NOT YOUR HEART. That way, you can be in total control.

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the fact is that anybody can marry anyone met thru any method, but this case is quite silly. the guy over there wants to marry the girl over here. they've not seen each other before except thru pix. i doubt if they really know theirselves not to talk of each other. i'll just say dumb move!

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thats how a cookie crumbles,

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where you meet a person doesnt matter

its what you create with such person that counts

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What has where I met him got to do with marrying him?

Sure I will.

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uhm. . . . . . . . .

*monitoring this trend*

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loving a girl on the internet is Human and getting married to one is Divine.

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now this guy wants to come down to Nigeria and meet the parents of the girl, is not as if this girl has seen him yet. what do u guys think should the girl allow him to meet her parents as soon as he comes into Nigeria or maybe the next time he comes in? meanwhile they have been communicating through phone, and this girl is 26, what should i tell her to do? please I need your useful suggestion.

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@Alert, the thing is that he could come and meet the parents - that shouldnt be a problem. Its just that she has got to be careful - if she could actually go and visit him then its cool but if not then i dont know.

Like its been said, let her take a chance, there are some its for and some havent had any luck.

Let them meet - first of all she better pray to God that he displayt his flaws to her so she can know who she is dealing with.

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got a friend that met his wife on the internet. He was in the USA and she was in Canada.

They were chatting for while, then they exchange phone numbers, then he came to visit her

then she went to visit him. Before u know it . . she transfered her studies there and they got married last summer.

Now she is 3 months pregnant.

sure works for some people and it doesn't work for some.

all about connecting with the right person.

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Yes i can, sometimes love is found in the least expected places, i don't think the timing matters, the quality of a relationship is not determined by the amount of years involved, i have seen many cases of people who have dated for many years and after breaking up, in just a few months they met the love of their lives and got married to them, as a matter of fact, i now shun long relatioships, it seems to give room for flaws, the good thing about internet dating is that since there's no physical contact, the feelings are  more mutual, you both know that you are not after each other for sex, you talk more and get to understand a lot about the person before meeting him or her, and when you eventually meet, getting along wont be difficult.

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Maybe Yes

for me,marriage can be from anywhere reasonable

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@ poster

YES! i can

infact, it is happening very soon.

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@Topic i doubt i could

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My dear niceuzor, you better believe it o

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The same had happened with my brother, cousin and best friend.

Yes, it is possible

Throught internet people have time to know each other better and face to face men used care about go to the "end" without care about knowing ourselves deeper

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I am presently married to the man I met on net, he is a U.S citizen and I am from Nigeria and he was the one that introduces me to this site cos he loves Africans and their culture. We dated for 3yrs knew much about ourselves and family and we got married in Nigeria when we saw that we truly love each other and we are happily living together as husband and wife.He is still the loving caring guy he has been when we were dating on-line. As there are gud guys on net, so are bad ones too. Just look before you leap. Merry Xmas

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But ur friend shuld think about the reason he is so desperate to marry her.

Maybe he is a social reject where he is at - or just mental.

Your friend should seriously think.

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It depends if you actually got to like the person so my answer would be yes. Anything is possible.

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@odiaseo, you mispelled my username.

@all

Don't expect to process all those characteristics before marriage, work out accepting few bad flaws like @odiaseo has said it all.

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heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey na fire be that ooooooooooo if u try it now fire go burn ur hand,i think both of u are too much in a hurry,pls endure some times 2gether b4 anthing of such.

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quite a list ospry. I do agree with them except the last item though. I believe no sex before marriage and that there is nothing like sexual compatability.

However, you may be quite a task to find a person that processes all those characteristics before marriage. Some of them may be a must for the person to have had while others he or she may have potentials to develop. We are all work in progress so don't expect a perfect mate.

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TOPIC: Can You Marry Someone You Met Thru The Internet?

Yes, you can marry someone from the internet you both met no matter where you both from by starting with a friendship FIRST, then later date each other face to face meetings (meet in public place in the crowd environment such as shopping mall, bookstore, coffee shop, social gatherings, as well as private at home using webcam/video conference, or internet phone) on the following insights you should feel the right soulmate in order to get married at below:

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[li]Trust[/li]

[li]Spirituality[/li]

[li]4 Characters[/li]

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[li]Humility[/li]

[li]Kindness[/li]

[li]Responsibility[/li]

[li]Happiness[/li]

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[li]Personal Hygiene[/li]

[li]Communication Skill[/li]

[li]Personal Habits[/li]

[li]Strong Connections[/li]

[list]

[li]Good Chemistry and Compatibility[/li]

[li]Shared Common Interest[/li]

[li]Shared Common Life Goal[/li]

[li]Deeper Emotional[/li]

[li]Sexual Compatibility[/li]

[/list]

[/list]

From my own experience, I prefer person from locally within 25 miles radius of my residence location area on the internet better than long distance in half way around. Now i am no longer interested in distance dating anymore.

Finally, actually it is 50% long distance relationship make work and the other 50% does not work well! Good luck!!

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Humans are created as social beings hence the need for face to face meetings to establish a strong bond. The internet has made the world a global village making it possible to meet people worldwide. My advice to the person involved is that you do not take the relationship serious until you have physically met the other party.

Photographs can be manipulated, and how can you be sure you are actually communicating with the person in the photo. The person may be lame, blind, disfigured or even mental. Don't let your situation be a perfect script for a home movie. Sometimes just the fact that a person is abroad cause people to abandon common sense. People marry unsuspecting ladies and turn them into sex slaves when they get abroad or even rituals.

You need to evaluate the risk involved and then make up you mind. The person abroad may be genuine and have noble intentions but you need to be careful.

Here are 5 things worth considering when choosing your spouse

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U can marry someone u meet on net but u ve got to get to know such person and u can start as friends, then gradually if there is that mutual feelings for eachother u can decide to date. one can never tell where one will meet his/her spouse.

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If one does not have any problem been in a long distance relationship, why not. To me, it doesnt really matter

where you meet the person. Just don't rush into marriage with somebody you met online. Spend lots of time with

that person. Date for at least two years. Internet has really expose a lot of people to meet people of their liking

that they wouldn't have had the opportunity to meet in person.

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