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Can U Stay Friends With Ur Ex?

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After all the BS? Well the only reason we can be friends is so that i can get at her friends

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I'm not too sure about a second chance. But if there's someone else in either of our lives it's best to be distanced.

Though Something could emanate from a friendship with an ex but it is rare unless no one is sure of why they really broke up in the first place. That causes confusion and resurrection of feelings.

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j-girl, don't u think something solid could still emanate from such staying together? Afterall, there is this saying that 'once there, you can always be there again'. what is your view(s)

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Friends with exes? Why not?

It's just that there will have to be some kind of distance between myself and himself so that it wouldn't be a case of us falling back in love or becoming confused of where we stand.

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I love to quote good contributions. The end of the relationship, to a large extent, determines ones position.

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@ EVERYONE,

A famous romance expert once said and i qoute

"FRIENDSHIP CAN DEVELOP INTO LOVE, BUT LOVE INTO FRIENDSHIP, NEVER"

It's not that there wont be no talking, no exchange of pleasantries, but there'll always be a limit comapre to what you do with some other opposit sex which was never your EX but has been a friend. OK,

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I am really not much interested in being friends with my exes. In fact, I do my very best to avoid them for at least the first year after the break-up.

Most times, I believe they've gone into the world and seen that there's actually none in the whole wide world better than me so they're basically wanting to get back together and that's not true friendship.

Well, I'm currently friends with one of my exes, I'm avoiding one right now (not picking her calls not going around her place and not replying her texts) but I'm hoping we can get back together sometime soon.

The rest, they're all my arch enemies. They broke up with me simply because I was too much of a nice guy. Well, now they know what the real world is like.

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it depends on the circumstance that led to the break up and also on if i have gotten over him

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Not really cept for one but that was a mutual breakup for unavoidable reasons. Other than that, no can do.

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remaining friends with ur ex depends on two very important factors

how the rlship ended

how matured both of u are

the second is the most important bc  some of us can be really swallow in our views

such pple are beta kept at an arms lenght

i love to make and keep friends but sometimes, it pays to keep away from some pple

even ex!

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Of course one can remain friends with one's exes!  Especially if you were together for any length of time--consider that you've developed shared interests and commonalities.  

Friendships and romantic relationships are two very different concepts.  However, they can seem to overlap with some people.  My take on it is that I never want to miss an opportunity to have a friend--and who better to have as a friend than somebody who already knows, and accepts, my weaknesses?!

I realize it's anecdotal, but my ex-girlfriend (nearly 4 years) and I are very good friends.  We sometimes get together for her sons' birthdays, holidays and just a bite to eat, every once in a while.  

So, if iice is a "freak" then I suppose that I, too, must be known as such!

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I'm still friends with my exes, even them that choose not to remain friends with me

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I don't think it's necessary. Besides she doesn't have a child for me so why should i mainatain contact. usually exes use it as a ploy to get back at you or come back to you.It's best left where the past belongs. Do you know the meaning of a "friend". if she was a friend then we wouldn't be exes. If say keep in touch or contact, that makes sense. If i have a GF that's a friend, then most likely would end as my wife

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@ MP007 can u stay friends with them

it depends . but probably not

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Takes a lotta maturity and depends on the kinda person you and your ex are. Also depends on the kinda relationship y'all had. It'll take time don't rush it. coz I'm sure somewhere along the line you've both said things that hurt (females r excellent at doing that) and you'd be tryyna get back or just holding a lotta anger. IT'LL TAKE TIME Usually the 1 that tryies to bridge the gap is usually the bigger person. Calling once in a while jus to check up on d person won't kill you. Make sure you don base for ur side first coz e no get how the person'll always be part of ur life (thats if the relationship was serious enough). there r a lotta factors here that matter but I think you know what to do. Pride would have been a major factor is the breakdown and will still matter a lot whether it'll work as friends or not. take ur time see how it goes.

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not at first but after some time

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