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Can You Date Someone You Can't Marry?

Sup fellows,

Just wanted to bring this topic out today, l hear most guys say l can date a lady but when it's time to marry, can't marry her or ladies say he's just there for now but when it's time to marry, can't marry him. So share ur opinions.

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hi,

Dating is not Courtship, the early we know that dating is actually geting to be friend with someone the better, but if the emotional parts come in fine. Dating in actual sense means geting to know people, making friend with someone, it doesnt mean we are courting. Yes we can date someone without marring the person because you are not in courtship.

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No not again though I have I have done it.

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Why date someone that i cant marry.Or else if i just won chop walker, chop clean mouth,dem dey call am mark register,make i just register ma self and i walker

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Doesn't this just drip of sarcasm?

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@topic

sometimes we get into a relationship thinking it will end up in marriage,but along d line everything goes sour

so we just cant know cos not every relationship leads to d altar or brings out d "i do" word from our mouths

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yes you can, as in only date those you see as a potential wife/husband, he/she may not be the one but it doesn't hurt to observe indept and more closely

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Brilliant!!! You deserve a medal!

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Can't say, cos not every date ends in marriage.

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Not at this old age of mine.

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hell no,wats the point, unless its a booty call and you both know wassup

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i dont see the point.

Why stress?

I go out a lot on dates with no strings attached.

i think thats better.

but if it turns to a "date" situation

i have to think of the future

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if they havent got the qualities for marriage, then they havent got the qualties for dating.

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It easier for a guy to date a girl they can't marry than for a girl to date a guy they can' t marry.

It also depend on their stage in life. Most girl at 25 and above wouldn't want to date someone

they can't marry. I can then, but not now.

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MAYBE yes

But it will be a quick 1

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Please stop quoting me!!!Okay

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i will not date a girl i CANNOT marry

it will b dangerous for me

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[center]when you are together you would find out if u can marry him/her,  You can't just see someone and say thats goin to be your spouse, go into courtship with whosoever you want to marry, then study the person vividly for sometime to know his or her likes and hates before you draw a valid conclusion either to marry or not to marry.by so doiny you are entering into another school of study in life,cos when you carbbage-in ,you must surely carbbage-out.That's just thay.[/center][color=#000099][/color]

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when you are together you would find out if u can marry him/her, You can't just see someone and say thats goin to be your spouse, go into courtship with whosoever you want to marry,m then study the person vividly for sometime to his or her likes and hates before you draw a valid conclusion either to marry or not to marry.by so doiny you are entering into another school of study in life,cos when you carbbage-in ,you must sirely carbbage-out.That's just thay.

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The catch is, how would you even know you don't have a future with him when you've not dated him & barely know him!?

Could you please enlighten us on this!?

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Hell no, why date someone I don't see a future with in the 1st place. What fun is there jumping from one guy to another, that is why some females are labeled with negative names. You will know a serious man when you see him, a man who is ready to act like a real man, and not all these small bobs that are calling themselves men.

My dayz of dating are over, my plan is to get marry 2years from now, might be early sef

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No i sure cant.

I have no time to waste and what if during the course of us dating, i maybe get pregnant?

There is no way i can be with someone i dont like.

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y not, but i no go brok am o

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I only date those that have the qualities I need as a wife

Cant date u if I know there is no slightest possibil;ity of marriage

Infact cant try making luv with one I dont love deeply as a possible wouldbe wife

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Na wah O! Which kain simple question be this?

Of course! In fact I WANT to date someone I WILL not marry.

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Not every relationship end in marriage. And gals who always carry that in mind seem to date more men cause they get disappointed when the man is not making advances they look some where else and thrust Nigerians many will promise marriage if they gotta get you but at the end hit n run. Therefore it is wise that one gets into relationship intimately with lots of caution and prayers that one day the man will propose for real.

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Seun,

Why should a woman help you to achieve your dreams?  Is she your mama?  Are you looking for a woman to be your sugar mama. 

Y'all,

Of course, I can date someone I have no attention of marrying. However, I don't lead the man on and give him the impression I want anything permanent. It is according where I am at in my life.

95% of the men I dated in the I would not dream of marrying.

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Yes why not? Personally i can see a lady from get go and know that she is not my wifey material, but i would still approach her and it can go 1 of 2 wayz - Date but never fully commit/marry or we can grow on eachother and the relationship lasts. You just don't know what God's plans are!

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How can you be so sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with someone you haven't dated?

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Date has been turned to a different thing entirely. If i'm going to date someone then that will be the person i'm going to spend the rest of my life with.

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yes off course u can date some one u cannot marry,u must date someone cos of marriiage

but wat u feel for the person

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one have to date to choose the right partner. i can just get married to a stranger.

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Shags is not all plus it might be just mutual parting. Some people just want comfort abi a shoulder even if they know they are not meant to last together. Fear of being alone. Yes the unusual is hard to imagine.

@Topic least i forgot, isn't wonderful when you can meet someone (maybe just by looking at the person) and tell straight off that you will have to eventually marry that person but if not marriage then you will not date the person. . . loony bin is more like the destination.

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Its not advisable particularly if both of you know that marriage is not possible as was my own personal experience. Its like both of you are intentionally lying to yourselves. Mine was just called off some days ago and though I feel the pain of the breakage, it don't hurt much cos it wasn't meant to last.

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You can definitely date someone you can't/don't want to marry. Just because you're dating someone doesn't mean you have to marry them. Dating exposes you to different experiences, a lot is about learning about yourself and finding out things about the opposite sex, things you might (not) want in a future partner or spouse, and characteristics you look for in a future partner (things that are within reason, anyways), interest in certain activities that you might not have been exposed to, and it's a good way to make your mistakes (and hopefully learn from it) until you decide to settle down, (if you decide to get married later on). I think it's always best that both people involved are on the same page, though, if you know for a fact that it's just a temporary fling.

Communication is important so you don't complicate things with emotion or hurt other people who might be looking for something more like a long-term commitment out of the relationship.

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Amazing. . . .changing her life style? planning her future? Yeah she must be really something to appreciate all that. Goodluck

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this woman just like to yansh around

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