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Can You Love A Married Man?

Hi guys, pls i need your views on whether its REALLY possible for a young unmarried lady to fall in love with a married? your sincere views will really be appreciated. thanks u all

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nope! cos i cant share my man wiv no one.

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Yeah, I think it's very possible to love a married man and for a married man to love another woman.  Prince Charles' relationship with Carmela is the perfect example. 

They fell in love while he was still married to Diana.  Several years after Diana's death, they are now married.   So yes, it happens all the time, but alot of men will not act out on their love for the mistress if children are involved.

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loaded wiv cash or not, i cant do it cos i want my own man to myself,

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Can You Love A Married Man?

it possible, but I will never see my self loving a married man expect circumstances put me in that stituation

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I know what you mean

if you mean, Some men will be silly.

i understand.

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@gamine,i want to state categorically here that alot of guys come and share false information, maybe to show themslf as been good or something close to that but for me i believe this is a forum where we should learn something concrete from one another and as such i try as much as possible to relay true and sincere experience,atleast am sure other might have learnt something from me not matter how horrible.

To put the record straight,i have a wonderful wife in all ramification from ibo tribe even though i am yoruba,she is sweet and ever wonderful but sometimes "men would be men" if you know what i mean.

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@gamine,my name says the truth in fairness and sincerity,atleast we are here to share our experience and i just did but i hope that isn't too much?

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it's possible though even when it's not right,i am married but met a lady who knew i was married infact she met me at the pool side with my wife and kid and we dated for about 2 yrs,she loved me so much and it took the grace of God for me to make her understand i had to call it quit,it was difficult though because infact friends told me it was because of money but sincerely and deep down she wasn't even asking anything from me until i do force it on her maybe because she is working but i know friends who have girlfriends who are working and who still milk them flat.

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loving him is the same thing as either wanting to date him and have him to myself,so my answer is no cause i would get married someday and i don't want any Dam loving my husband.do unto others what you want to be done to you.

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It is foolish the way we lie to ourselves and expect others to believe the same lie. I cannot change the way any one thinks therefore I won't try. What I will do is speak on the facts. Love is an act of SELFLESSNESS that requires a person to constantly do what is undesirable to him or her for the sake of the one he or she loves. Like a mother dieing for a daughter to survive. A father going hungry to see that his family is fed. This is the basis of true love and is the type of love it takes to make a relationship work. This is something that you have a choice over. You choose who you love. Love doesn't come up to you with a gun demanding that you love this person. Love is a choice. Everything in life is. Choosing to attempt to love a married man does not mean that you have successfully done that. There is nothing that a single woman can offer a married man except sex and sex is not love. When he is done busting his nuts, he still has to go home to his wife and kids. He won't leave them for you. This saga has continued for centuries and the wife and kids always win the man over and the single lady's life is always messed up. The single lady goes into deep depression when she realizes that she was only being used. The women in Nigeria are somewhat lucky because there is a chance that man will marry her as a second wife if he gets her in a family way. In America, a man can only marry one woman and if a woman finds her husband cheating she can kill him and the woman he's cheating with. I think that you can love a married man if you are his wife.

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[i] yeah,i guess so, if u choose to let your heart be drawn towards that direction then you could easily fall for him, falling in love is not something you decide,it just happens, what matters here is not whether or not you fall for him,while it is easy to fall for a married man,it is not right,but hey with the direction our world is taking , it could as well be fine,but in such a situation it is nit wise, you are bound to get hurt in one way or another, YOU JUST HAVE TO TAKE CARE.!!![i]

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Boi, thats something.

Plssssssssssssssssssss my dear sis, dont even try to get invovled. its possible u fall in love with a married man (atleast we fall in love with pple we see in tv) but pls dont remain there. Its not advisable at all. A sisters friend did d same especially cos the guy is rich. got her a nice rented apartment and alot to money. she tot its the best that could happen (that was a year ago). just six months ago, she came crying, her "husband" is having an affair and not sending her again.the same cane used in beating the first is being used on her.

So pls sis, dont even think about it.

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you all, don't you think it is dangerous for a lady to love a married man.

Here the thread is 'Can you love a married man' not can you love a widower' it is not easy at all to go for a married man you ladies, And i would really advice ladies to stay crystal clear out of married men.

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Honestly, that possible, but you've got to be very carefull cos it very hard to handle.

remember very love goes along with jelousy, and you can never be happy seeing the man with his wife or even hearing about her.

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Since the status of the married man is not known from your question and that is, if he is still married, a widow, etc l support the fact that there is nothing wrong in a young lady falling in love with a married man.

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and so my Bible looked from the Hill towards the lazy man and said; go to the ant's house and learn how the little thing knows how to work for food for feed family for winter.

and so I look from the hill toward the foolish people who think it is adventurous and fun to sleep around with other peoples spouses and say; "if your married, giv your wifey or husbandy to another person for test. if your single ask your mum to sleep with your boy friendz. this will help you learn the best answer to your foolishness

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Yes It' very Very Possible. sometimes most Younger Ladies get deceived by single guys and this in turn hurt them a lot but when they know that this guy is married they play along knowing fully well he is married.

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Do you guys want to know the truth

girls fall in love with married men cos they are romantic,caring

and loving.

you know they are only seen once in awhile and that makes the attraction stronger

Single guys please do sometin cos this whole issue is turning to sometin else!!!!!!!!!

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2 cut d lonng story short, DDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDont evr in ur life fall in LLLLLLLLLLove with a married man, 4 those who couldnt be bothered reading th elong threads

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I wonder what we are still discussin on this issue, because honestly speaking it got to be clear to everybody out there, that there is something wrong in that. Otherwise we wouldnt open a thread for it, when we know exactly there isnt anything wrong in it (morally and practically) and our actions are not questioned by anybody.

It is really sometimes funny, how we are tryin to fool and deceive ourselves looking for somebody helping us to wipe out our pangs of conscience.

If it is not something that is practically impossible - definitely you can love a married man - then at least it should cause you morally some headaches. But then in the first place does it take you a minute to fall in love with a person or some time. I guess some time, so during that time, you are supposed to find out, if he is married and if he doesnt tell you the truth, we just discovered then another reason for dumping the guy.

Even if some out there, don't see anything wrong in that and practice it, tryin to excuse themselves and defend their actions because other people do the same thing, must you do everything what others do? Are you not an individual with your own mind and body?

My personal opinion and I guess, some here will share it, if you want to be respected by others first of all respect yourself. If you dont want some certain things to happen to you, then dont do it others. Because when your own turn of marriage has come and something like that happens, I am sure, you will not laugh or tell your wife/husband to bring the person home, they are free to live their love life in your presence.

Just another last question: Just imagine your best friend already married, discovers her husband or wife is cheatin on her. Will you tell him/her, my Dear, na so life be? Take am easy, go find your own spouse you take cheat on your husband/wife? Just because you dont see anything wrong in that. I really doubt it.

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@CHILUVGOD8,Can you have sex with a married man? Yes. Can you enjoy it? Yes. Can you build a real future with a married man? No. Can you realisticly love a married person the way that his/her marriage mate should or does? No. Will you suffer as a result of adulterous affairs? YEST

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Out of desperation, we can do anything.  I doubt any one wants to know the truth in this issue but here it is anyway.

When you give your marriage vows, (regardless of if the marriage is arranged or not)  You promise your love to the person with whom you exchange vows for the rest of your life.  Secondly you promise God that you will forsake all others.  

It is not biblical for a man to have two wives.  In the book of Leviticus, the adulteror and the adulteress were put to death because they were no more good.  If they were not put to death they were cursed and their souls were cut off from their families.  In the book of Samuel, King David, ( a man after God's own heart) was cursed and lost a child because of his adulterous affair with Bathsheba.

Lastly, Jesus speaks about this in the book of Matthews and says that in the last days, seven women will cleave to one man and beg to bear his last name.

Ladies, the relationship between a husband and wife is sacred and very private.  Do you know that 65% of married couples are living with an incurable STD, other than AIDS?  Do you think that a man devious enough to cheat on his wife and lie to  his wife would tell you that he and his wife have done certain things and  are suffering certain things.  NO!   I have a friend who lost everything behind a married man and when it was over, he went home to his wife and denied the bastard child that he fathered and she was forced to have an abortion than to suffer the shame of mothering a bastard.  When it was over, she discovered she had herpes.  

Don't be so loose.  This thing we are talking about is running rampant in America here and the people suffer.

One thing that women make a mistake in is that they mistake sex for love.  It has been scientifically proven that during sex, a woman's body secretes a hormone called oxytocin and this makes them think that they are in love.  When reality comes crashing in so that they can't deny the facts, they become depressed.  

Can you have sex with a married man? Yes.  Can you enjoy it? Yes.  Can you build a real future with a married man? No.  Can you realisticly love a married person the way that his/her marriage mate should or does? No.  Will you suffer as a result of adulterous affairs? YES

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eno go better 4 ppl may de date married men, do u know that u are destroying a family there, what God has joined 2gether , let no man put asunder

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Love married man? Never. If you love married man, someone else will love your man as well

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its not surprisin tha we hav many wicked ladies out there - after invitin terrors thru their lifestyles, they look for someone they will lean on to die. yes i mean you husbands snatchers.

is there a "love" (lust) tha is yond control? (laughter doesnt throw someone to the earth but man throws laughter and himself to the earth)

isnt it your imagination that ignites lust and even pure love from the bottom of your heart? you dont see a mammy or pappy water and declare "i love you!" .you giv it thoughts and 2nd thoughts before it begins to grow.

if am wrong, why do you claim to love but only someone whos got wealth, beauty or other areas of your interests?

but always shun someone else whos dyin to hav you all bcuz they look odd to you. isnt it controlled?

shame, the reward is not jus goin to confess at the church in order to catch a man wen its too late but the curse lives with ya.

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Do u guys know d meaning of love? Sorry u can't a married man. Except u want ur fingers burnt

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Of all the people you see it is a married man you are going to love? pls girls i want you to try and redirect your steps cos you are making a very big mistake and also commiting a very great sin.

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Not all girls but a majority though. Most don't give a damn. But if a girl is sensible enough, she's just got to realise that the man aint meant for her.

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of course its possible wen u let urself. love isn't just some kind of bug that catches u unawares, u know wat u'r getting into. but its very wrong, how would u like some1 'stealing' ur husband wen u'r married? wat goes around comes around, u know!!

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Word, radiant!

Exactly my point! That he is married should make you withdraw!

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Naija boy, did ya read ma post at all? Thank you!

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Zarah sweety THAT is your own perception of life Aight?! Since you are comfortable with that idea, LIVE with it.

I'm not denying the fact that such exists, don't get me wrong, but it definitely aint something i'm gonn indulge in. There's every possibility of loving a married man but as long as he's married, that's a no no you withdraw!

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Zarah sweety THAT is your own perception of life Aight?! Since you are comfortable with that idea, LIVE with it.

I'm not denying the fact that such exists, don't get me wrong, but it definitely aint something i'm gonn indulge in. There's every possibility of loving a married man but as long as he's married, that's a no no you withdraw!

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Zarah sweety THAT is your own perception of life Aight?! Since you are comfortable with that idea, LIVE with it.

I'm not denying the fact that such exists, don't get me wrong, but it definitely aint something i'm gonn indulge in. There's every possibility of loving a married man but as long as he's married, that's a no no you withdraw!

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While it may not neccesarily be healthy, it happens. Let's face it, as mentioned by zarah, Nigeria is a polygamous society, and that in itself will always open the door to these kinds of situations.

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It's a real crying shame to see that most people on here aint real at all,I'm a married man and I have many girls especially under graduates proclaiming love for me,mind you I also have married women in my congregation who wanna get down with me!!! You can fall in love with a married man because with love you don't see it coming and boom it just hits you that's why you gotta be real disciplined and caution yourself early cos you'll be on the losing side 9 outta ten times, love makes no sense has no rules and is a respecter of no one,

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You can deceive everybody, but you cannot decive your conscience which is the custodian of your destiny.

You can only be infactuated (i.e loosing your sense of reason due to love) to maried man. For goodness sake, we are Afrcan's, i think they should start teaching moral instructions in our universities to avoid this trap of the enemy targeted to derailing your destiny.

Be careful who you date, so that you don't regret ever meetig them in the first place.

Cheers,

Gentle Babs.

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@dominobaby, way to go, wats ur flavor

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Ok then @zarah n Naija, since you are up for competition i guess you'll be ready to accept the fact that some other lady out there too wants a lil competition with your spouse.

What goes around comes around!

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its foolish to think you can love a married man. what do you want him to do about his wife hmm, okay you think divorce then he would surely find another person to love and then divorce you to. there's a saying in my language, the cane wey husband use flog the first wife just dey on top he fit carry am anytime and flog you to. Also my girl friend tells me that if you see a man and a snake kill the man and leave the snake cos the wickedness in the man is greater than that of the snake. so beware

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Love is life. i see nothing wrong loving a married man. By the way what is LOVE? who created love?

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Its very possible to love a married especially if you are dumb. Becos i don't think you should be so carried away to the extent of falling in love. Men! wake up girl friend. If tells you he'll marry u its a big lie .He just wanna use u and get the best from you. So please slap your self and wake up be4 you get your self hurt.

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Nawa 4 my ppl, what are doing with a married man to start with? abi u wan be second wife ? or u want the man to leave his wife and then marry u?what goes around comes around, dont go further with ur so call LUST coz u might end up hurting urself and then breaking the dude marriage oooo, place urself in the dude´s wife position, how would u feel? sister bounce, wot u feel 4 him is not LOVE, maybe it is infactuation or lust

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The answer is simply NO,i can only admire a married man,but to love,NO NO No.As a single lady with bright future, i dont have future with a married Man,why then should i go ahead and fall in love with him.

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hmmn!!!!!!!! It's possible  but that's rather crazy, as crazy as love is though. Girls shouldn't fall for such love, it's not acceptable in most society and  i think those that do it do it for money, and that's not good.

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If u are doing this for money be sharp about it.         If you think age is no more on your side and young unmarried man don't fancy you again, love the married man with your whole heart. But you need to know if the man really wants to marry u or ,          Be careful with it all because the housewife can be mad at u.                     If u have a hopeful unmarried man asking for your love and you are probably turning him down because of ur pot bellied "ajeku", then you are VERY WRONG.

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While there is nothing bad in loving someone, married or single, the problem is the extent to which you manifest that love. The question that should be at the back of your mind in any relationship you enter is: what is the purpose of this relationship? If you intend having a romantic affair with no holds barred, you can go on, but put yourself in the position of the other woman. What if it were you? Secondly, sometimes, we start off a relationship for the fun of it and it ends up being serious. What if the relationship you have with this married chap becomes serious and one thing leads to another as always, then, 9 months later,

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