Guys, can you marry a girl that was single or gang Molested.
Most babes I heard were Molested dont even look it. They still march around in their work or play. You cant pick out one girl from one group and say, maybe because of her composure, she has been Molested? Some things are impossible to detect on the outside. If I want to marry and meet some charming babe that looks too happy with herself, of course my first question to her will not be, have you ever been Molested?
I can go ahead and roll with her, and we could end in the altre, her past is her past and that is why I support Debosky's position. But if I am privy to the fact that one girl was Molested, and she knows I know, it might put her on the defensive about me. And it will be risky fo me to marry her. I will not marry her because she may even take any slight change in my character to be apathy towards her_ because she was Molested.
Exactly - treat the opinion as just one and move on. Instead he is becoming the subject of the thread instead of the issue itself.
I wouldn't classify them as 'victims' - they have passed through a terrible experience, but remaining a victim will only limit you. I can marry someone who has gone through this experience and has managed to overcome it significantly that it is not the controlling thing in her life preventing her from moving on. She might have scars alright, but she has essentially moved beyond the incident. In that regard I can marry such a person, but if the person has not overcome it, I fear I might not have the ability or character to help the person through it from scratch.
Tweed, you were too blunt and such words were so raw. How can you say that to someone hurting. I will not marry the molest victim if I know about it, for the stigma. If you dont then there isnt any probs. Marry her and there will be peace. I know many big people in the society that were Molested, my friend married one and they are living happily. Its not about the molest, its the way you make them look, like criminals. It wont surprise me if you are one serial Molester yourself. You sound like one.
Dont let me start on you this slowpoke tweeter! Calling someone hypocite when you are worse than an animal. You are the lowest of the lows, lacks feeling and should be cast into oblivion. What am against is hating molest victims, its not their fault most times. Your type will marry someone gangraped by forteen men and you wont even know. She will lie and you will accept it.
I said if I know about it, if I dont then there isnt any difference between her and all others. Like I said before stats say that one out of three girls has been forcefully had against their will. That is high and most guys will still marry them. When love don scatter your head, you go remember molest or not?
If I know the girl has been Molested, I may not marry her, but I will never make them feel bad. It may not be her fault, and she should not be ostracized just because of that. Another person will find her attractive in another location and marry them, even ashewo dey become new chasis when she change location.
Sharon said some women lie - Tweed says he can't marry molest victims and feels they should be ostracized. That sounds like two different cases to me.
I do not support his views, but if a thread is allowed that asks a question about whether you can marry a 'victim' or not, then I believe you should be able to answer in the contrary without being banned. Then again, that is simply my opinion.
Doesnt matter, Sharon made a comment once stating that some women actually lie about such so as not to seem easy(which is true) and apparently he was banned immediately, why shouldnt this jack twit's character be esp his is just so nasty and pretty much saying they deserve it.
You and other dudes might find his daft rant funny but if others are "punished" for less, he should also be dealt with. Simple
I don't see why people should should be banned for holding contrary opinions.
The thread has asked a question and he has stated his opinion. He never said he is in support of molest, he is only unsympathetic - which is his rightful prerogative.
I do not find his opinions acceptable to me, but at the same time, censorship or calling people silly names (as people have done on this thread) never made them change their minds either. I would rather try to convince him to see the other side or ignore him.
that jack tweed guy is obviously a kid.
definited under 18.
i think there is an age restriction to be on this Romance section.
its not kiddies avenue boy. . .here we discuss sensitive issues and give sensible responses.
in short, lil man, go and read ur books. Junior WACE exams are soon coming!
i don't see anything wrong in marrying a molest victim. it doesn't necessarily mean it was the lady who was Molested. besides it's not as if the victim consented to such an act. we are all humans and we all have one emotional trauma or the other, it's just finding someone who understands the situation.
jack tweed you are a silly heartless jerk, its because of you that girls who are Molested tend to commit suicide, If it were your daughter or your wife that was Molested, what would you do kick them out on the street, you don't know what if feels like to have gone through such an emotional rollercoaster and the kind of damage it leaves behind, You are not a good person and i hope god touches you
yeah i really agree with MRbrown, what some has done to her in the past has notting to do with her present or feature cause am sure she did not ask for it that way you cant blame her, of a true experience ma x babe was and is a rep victim but it still dose not stop me from loving her even b4 i left her so its ok
@jack tweed. You dont have to be that heartless! Since you don't have sisters, what if your mum was Molested? Will you deny her, walk out on her? Will she be so disgusting to you? Will you cut her off because she was Molested? Guy, try and be humane, realistic and not egocentric! You sound like a lad! Sit down and think!
@jack tweed: You re typical black man,,,I will marry a molest victim as long as she is not the cause of the molest.what do I want to do with a molest free woman who cannot capture my dreams and goals in life except that she has not been Molested?I will simply give her to jack tweed to marry!
Check the link below and tell how you feel after reading the story there?This just just happened 2days ago.A mother and three of her daughters were Molested by armed robbers right in there house!
i think it will be unfair to visit the consequences of someone past on that person especially when the person is not the author of that past. simply put, a lady that has been Molested has been traumatized enof, she doesnt nid stigmatization or discrimination. especially not in the area of love