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Can You Sleep Over In A Boyfriend's Place Or Live With Him?

I feel its not good. Most ladies do it and they feel it's normal and most guys allow it. Or what do you think?

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Wow i now see the reason why you want to use me as an Arguing instrument. i saw your Profile on MSN and you stated there that you love those who can Argue, you are beautiful though and i like your pic, but you no serious

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then the Respect, you Don't need to check the Dictionary for me ,that is a coy idea, this is a forum where everybody is entitled to his or her own opinion. well it depends on the kind of guy you are dating, some guys see ladies who Sleep or live with a guy as slut and some guys doesn't. [b][/b]for more info i have a boy friend , thank you

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Am sorry but if your mother is still poke nosing into your personal affairs then from what i have been learning you are definitely not free to do as you please. If my mom is here with me i don't think i would be living on my own let alone use that word *pokenose*, see i have learned that if you can't handle whatever that comes with having a boyfriend then don't have one, If you are a virgin and don't want to have sex until you get married, stay away from boys, if you want to stay celibate for a while don't have sex and so on. As far as anything happen, *sheeeeeeeet* seriously please you need to stop thinking like a baby, with the way your thinking i would have to say you are still a virgin, and if you are please when writing another reply to this post please address your opinion to virgins. This is 2007 in this world that i grew up in, having sex or sleeping over at your boyfriend is not a crime, rather it is your choice. Could be a good choice or a bad one it just has nothing to do with respecting yourself or anyone else. See for your self thier is a difference between this two.

Morality :- is the principles concerning the difference between right and wrong

Being Respectable :- means to be regarded by society as being proper, correct and good. Thank you!!

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It all depends on individual's ethics and believe, sleeping over is not a big deal. if u ve had sex

with him, what's d differents if u decide 2 sleeep over. Infact, u guys might end up nt havin any sexual intercourse.

1) It depends on the level of d relationship.

2) If u still stay with your parents, you're definitely going to say no 2 sleepin ovr in your Bf or financee's place. Esp if you're that type that is nt allowed 2 stay outside late in d night.

3) Even if a girl decides 2 sleep ovr mayb 4 d wknd or a night, that's got nothin 2 do with disrespecting oneself because u ve d abilty 2 control wuteva  happens dere, its nt like u going 2 stay with a stranger or something.

But if u now decide 2 move in with d guy then that is nt d best option.

It also depends on d circumstances surrounding d stay though.

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Sleeping ova your boyfriends place has nothing to do with respecting your parents or your family or whoever you feel the need to respect,

Most of the time when you do sleep ova it is about understanding each other, and agreeing to whatever. Living with him i pesonally like my freedom a lot and i don't want anyone telling me wat to do with myself or how to live my life.**which is exactly why i live alone* Am a full time law student and i got a part-time job to take care of myself while am in school. The problem with us young/single women is that we just gotta know that it is fun to have a bobo, as long as you don't let him be the topic in your life for you.

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girsl its high time we girls stand tallllll and say no to what is not,

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Sleep over yea, notin wrong wit dat. but living 2gether is nt a good idea at all.2 much event will get in the way of the realationship. and he might just get tired of u. sometimes men, guys jst want to be alone wit dem selfs and friends.

So its ok 2 sleep over but nt ok 2 Live wit. (My Opinion)

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it is common and good to spend time, that could be a weekend, Friday to Sunday, with a Fiance, or a serious date, you dont start the relationship by spending nights, you grow to that level, as his committment increases, and the relationship gets stronger, you have to know yourselves, mariage is a life time matter, i de inside marriage, so i can advise.

Full cohabitation is bad, dont pack your things to live fully in a boy friends house,

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My point is dat U should not take it halfway. I will make make love to him but I would not sleep over. I dont understand it. If U make love him to him U can as well sleep the nite

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I cannot,i repeat cannot spend the night with my boyfriend let alone live with him.

Its against the rules.

Its high time we earn our respect as girls

Enough of this intimidation such as if u truly love me,

Love is respect, respecting the wishes of ur girl.if u love her u won't force her to do what she doesn't want to.

Girls, USE YOUR HEAD.

Love is not blind before marriage but it is blind after marriage.

Peace!!!!!!!!

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Some ladies may not see that as bad but i can tell you for sure that guys don't respect such ladies.The are better ways to know your partner than that, no one is perfect,lets say u dont find a life partner of ur choice after dating 5 guys-so u r going to cohabit with all the five cos u want to know them? what da, ?

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i think i support the idea of sleeping over but i don't really likle ladies that live with their boyfriend

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I can sleep over @my boy friends place but living with him is out of the question

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Sleep over to his place dont wanna live wit him yet

cos he dont know what he wants.

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oops i mean not even your fiancee!

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well it doesn't mean you can't make love to your lover,but it doesn't have to be overnight,it's a disgrace to the parents cos i think it's not their wish that you spend nights at mens homes not eveb your fiancee

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I'm not trying to despise others,I'm not for the idea of staying with my boyfriend not until we get married.

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one of my Univ teachers called it :

Legalized fornication.

Playing house: to the women who agree to such, its a 60-40 bargain and they(girls) are on the 40 percent side.

Ive seen cases of guys finding a new beau while they were living in with a girlfriend(with whom they had been sleeping with). At the end of the day, 'moving out' and feeling used and abused were feelings too heavy to handle and too hard to express. Usually, the only person available to console such ladies were themselves.

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Hi People,There is nothing bad in Having a babe come chill with you over the weekend especially if she is the one you plan to marry, how else would you know if she can cook, Discover the true her etc.

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well, i'd support it, as normally, nothing is wrong with it "in itself". but, when self-control becomes an issue, i think i'd rather we stay apart!

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where are the OSU or is it OOU babes,

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I feel its all about individual if you feel comfortable with it then ride on but don't do it cos others are doing it follow your conscience.

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Very nice topic. Well, just like many have contributed here that it enables the lovers assess their compatibility and sincerity of love. Who plays with fire and not get burnt, 'body no be wood'. There's no way you would live in the same room for few days and you will not experiment your "sexual compatibility". And if that is the case, how many people would you live or better still sleep with should it not work out? Based on African mentality, what then makes such ladies better than whores?

You understand, appreciate and cherish your intended spouse better when distant from immoral familiarity. Few cohabitated relationships that eventually ended in marriage are more or less marriages of inconveniences or unavoidable circumstances.

As you lay your bed so you lie on it,

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Nkem

That's the problem. When you see too much of what's inside you'll never want to get in.

If you spend 10 years perusing and interviewing, I bet it would take more years to make up your mind.

Go back in time, let's not delve into whether it was suffering and smiling, our parents stayed longer in marriage. This I guess is due to the fact that couples only begin to discover themselves after the veil (up and down) is lifted.

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stay over yes why not ! but if he has not committed him self toward the next level i dont think it is ok to live in.

i dont have to be there to let keep his heart!

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Why buy the cow when you can get all the milk you want for free.

Corny but true.

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u need to come to london or the uk.many girls live with their boyfriends here not to talk of sleeping with them.i think they bliv its a way of being close to the real thing which i dont think is safe cos d guy head fit touch n e time and that na disaster for the babe.

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yes i can,but we must have been gone out for more than 6months and gotten very intimate

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i can sleep there or even go 4 wkd,bt to live with am when him never do anything 4 my head? no way.

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good day i wnat to ask a qustion.if a guy is dating a girl and the girl later get pregant for another guy what do you think the order frist guy to do ?thank you

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well my name is chuks and am from dellta state i was just going ture the site when i saw this site naria land i i dont think if it is bad for a girl to sleep in his boyfrind place all i think is that it is better for the two of them to know each order better thank you am you can reply me back am still online or you can send me a mail chuksreal2005@yahoo.com

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i think its a good i dea to live 2geda 4 a while to understand each other, beta to loose2months to finding out the thruth abt a person than to spend an eternity in a hellish marraige with the same person

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@ vikky

It depends on the people involved too:

-if there are insults, who's to blame? are you sure you wanna spend ur life with a man who keeps on insulting you? you think that's normal? => therefore, it's good u've experienced it, cuz u'll know what to expect.

-why behave like a mother? he is looking for a wife, not at all a mother. I know that's a commonly used mistake so all women should be aware of that. Don't be protective!! He's the one supposed to protect you!!!

-you move in in the 1st place cuz you DO plan to get married. Do you honestly think a piece of paper makes all the diffrence? You don't move in with a guy you've met 2 months ago.

-so what if his friends come over? it'd be really childish to tease him then. Can't you just find something to do around the house (in case he needs you) or just go out (see a friend too or something)?? Don't tell me that when ur girlfriends come over he's there with u, taking all the air and making comments on fashion. Common!

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i use to think there was nothing wrong in sleepin over or living with your boyfriend till i had the experience myself.it brings in so much insults and the guy will be so reluctant to tell u that you are intruding his privacy.in the actuall sense he still wants to feel like a bachelor till he deciedes to marry he doesn't need someone behaving like a mother hen,if he wanted that he wouldn't have moved out of his parent's place.you will see all kind of things and he expects all kind of things from you becos he feels there is a lady in the house.think about what some of his friends that will want to hang out will say if you are there they will tease him and even his family will tell u,u are over protective.i will rather advise you to keep your dignity and respect yourself. somethings being out of the way of soo many things and not begin to familiar helps a lot in relationship.i can stay over once in a while,like once in 2 weeks or once in a month thats sensible.Don't feel its your right to be there,let him beg you for it.

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spend a nyt ooook!IF no choice, move in y d rush i tink,

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as for i lived with my boyfriend for three years while in school nd today we are happily married, it can be fun if u find the right person and u both trully love urselves, during this three years i was abe to know if i culd live with him forever and evry passing day was a honey moon for me, i didnt av the chance to notice other guys cos he was there for me, showering me with love and affection!! but i also had friends who did the same thing but lived to regret cos the guys were cheats, they didnt really love the girls just using them to arrange themselves, eating free food nd avin free sex, so i would say b4 any girl decides to live with a guy find out first if he trully loves u and let him be the one to suggest to u to come live with him not u imposing ur self on him.

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for a girl staying over with her boyfriend its not too bad, spending some nights is normal, but living together is not a good idea.

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its a norm at least most girls spend nights with their boyfriend in school and they carry over the habit to bachelor hood.

the issue is this for those who are religiously inclined its not a good idea it causes serious temptation. for those living normal lives they see it as normal since they might get married.

for the sex lovers staying overnight is no question even spending nights is no question.

so different strokes for different folkes.

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i support the idea  ooooooooooo cos its cool cos you will know the person you re really dating and make up your mind there after.

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Nothing bad in it jare

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I don't think it is wrong for a guy/girl to sleep at another's house.This is a new generation.Contact me on my E-mail address "charly_stays at yahoo.com"so that we can gist further on any[s][/s][sup][/sup][size=8pt][/size][font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font][color=#006600][/color] topic.Charles

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White nkem, you dont need to live in a boyfriends house in order to know him well, but could be ok if the guy has propose.

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But it's also very little probable that this would happen. Let's be honest!

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Some guys like the idea of a live in lover cos they now have a cook, cleaner and can have all the sex they want whenever they want it.

Other guys dont like the idea because they have girls for everyday of the week, so moving in will cramp their style.

i just feel you should leave some surprises for marriage. But on the other hand living together shows you if ur'e both compatible. Hey it took me about three months living with my EX to know i cant stand his gutts. So it moight actually be good.

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I feel its ok atleast it would give you guys an INTRO of what it would be like when you are finally married.Its what we all do nowadays.There is a school here in Nigeria that students live like couples.Moreover,it depends on what perspective you look at it from.Religiousl its wrong but Civilization makes it right.

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Here's a similar topic

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-2538.0.html

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