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Can You Spend Years Dating Someone You Know You Can Never Marry ?

some pple amaze me i was talking to a friend's brother last nite,he has been in a relationship for six years now

so i asked him wen he was going to make it officia,l dat we wan chop wedding rice o only for bro to shock me

he said "who will marry anne ?? not me as soon as am ready to marry i ll find my bride"

to say i was shocked is understating wat i felt, this guy acts as if she is his world,they live together do everything together even run the same account

they are planning to open a hangout spot together and yet he does not have future plans for her

Geez to think innocent Aunty Anne doesn't know a thing even refers to him as "my husband ". . .

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Whatsoever a man/woman sows, that he shall reap.

I have seen it happen within short spaces of time..

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Why not save her by telling her ?

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very true o,no wonder.

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oh no, I think it's better for a man to love the woman more, and not the other way around.

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well i have been dating my girl for 3years now.though am not yet ready to propose officially cause i want to date her for 3more years but i have made it clear even to her my intentions. u can date for ten years and still marry it depends on what u want as a person. some women date men that don't like them maybe is getting something from them but for some dating makes u understand ure spouse to be and for me i don't think i can marry another apart from this girl of mine even if it takes me 7 more years what matters is the luv

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That man got to be joking maybe he doesn't want people to know that he's getting married to anne.

If he doesn't marry her, well, I think those are the kind of guys that suffer at last from the course they gets from the ladies they wasted their time and their body.

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Nothing spoil, you can just have fun with him or her. just for the moment.

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I have seen that happen,i think its 12yrs and the dude is living with another woman and the lady is worst of it,she's a good woman in all ramfications but i just don't understand why the dude walked away,she's trying to find her feet now.its a complete and total waste of time,energy and ruining of one's life.

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nope, its a waste of everybody's time, and can be emotionally tasking especially as it leads to nowhere eventually

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I wouldn't go into a relationship with someone I don't see as a potential husband.

It's Like building a House in the air. Waste of ma precious time.

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a lady should be able to ask the simple questions and get direct answers.

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i don't wanna date someone i don't see myself marrying. i don't date just for the heck of it. utter waste of time and effort.

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ok ooooauntie annie is coool, i wish her all the best----pls let me know wen he finally dumps her so i cn gloat---jst kiddin

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lollol wouldn't that be silly?

no by the way

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she should be in her very late twenties cos he is too and i know they are in the same age group

i wouldn't tag her a fool cos she has met his family and maybe that has given her some sort of assurance

its just going to be painful whenever he decides to leave her and she is really going to hate us all

even yours truly who is not family

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pls how old is auntie ann

no offence but auntie ann is a fool

as the song goes, he can kiss u where the sun shine, but pls dont let him waste ur time

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Guys do this all the time. Its unfair to trifle with another's emotions and indeed their future.

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It happens, it is a vicious cycle. Then whoever he finally settles down with would not love him as much. It is life but I hope she realizes sooner than later.

What men fail to realize is, its always better for a woman to love you more! Women will always get chatted up by men but if she love you, it will be harder for her to stray. Uncle know what his doing I believe.

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I'd rather date someone for say 2-3yrs and we get married and let the sparks work itself from the courtship into the marriage

those who do the 6,7,8yrs courtship get bored and if one of them happens to meet someone new who prolly does the same thing the partner does

would get carried away because the lil' excitement from such person ll bring sparks back and then they leave their life-long partner its just not it for me

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Would marriage now make the sparks appear?

Dating is what you make of it.

If you continue to systemically ignite and re-light the sparks as you go along, there's no reason to be bored.

Moreover, the more enduring relationships are ones where the lovers grow into the best of friends.

It's not only guys that are wicked - ladies too.

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i personally wont date a guy for donkey years

it gets boring and the sparks dissappear even before we do the introductions

but guys can be wicked o his folks know this chic o and vice-versa

evrybody is just waiting for them to make it official and now this

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some guys can be silly u know, they don't know that KARMA IS REAL!!!

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nope

it aint none of ma buisness only thing i can do which am doing is begging him to reconsider

or break it off with her if he is really sure he wont walk her down the aisle

told his sister to talk to him too

thats all i can do o

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He is the one putting on the shoes and he alone knows where it hurts. It’s pathetic sha because women have expiry date when it comes to marriage. Now what are you going to do to save a sister from this imminent misfortune, spill the beans?

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i just really pity her she is so lovely and beautiful i dunno why he cannot marry her o

cos he dinna give any tangible reason just dat he can't marry her

and to think they are age mates who knows maybe he ll just wake up three years from now and just tell her he cant marry her

and by that time her biological clock woulda ticked past good marriage she 'll prolly have to settle for less

too bad

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Personally, I can't do it. I consider it a waste of both our times. If I know for sure it's not going anywhere, then why invest so much time and effort and energy into something that's going nowhere??

But I know lots of people male and female who are in relationships just for the sake of being in a relationship (or for the "intimacy" or because they're used to the partner in a "the-devil-you-know. . ." sort of way) even though they know it's not going anywhere.

A lot of people cannot be single o. . . So they have their person who they're just with for the time being either so they're not alone or because they actually do like the person but there are too many obstacles (usually to do with family or religion or culture or something) that are in the way of it ever leading to marriage.

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eeeeya

alot of men do it

its a shame the women dont open thier eyes and smell the cofee

there are soo many aunty annies in this word!

i cant even date for soo long!

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