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Choice: Upgrade Or Downgrade?

As a young girl Philo(not her real name) grew up well and as an adult woman, she worked very hard and made sure she lived well, a gorgeous apartment in ikoyi, a cool chasis car(with air conditioning), the she meets and marries Mark(not his real name)she called him her MR RIGHT!, she says they were in love(the truth was obvious to us, mid thirties crises) they get married(in too much of a hurry,if i may sao so myself) then moved to a single room in a face me i face u military barack style house somewhere in downtown ikotun-egbe, Now Philo shares a kitchen with one million hostile looking women/men(some very fetish as well), they share turns washing bathrooms and toilets. Now she and Mark don't get along again (quarrels everyday according to her) she suddenly thinks he's a lazy bum and comfortably unambitious, Now my friend has managed to downgrade her status and she calls me every night to ask for moi for advise and help( damn! i do so hate those free cheap midnight calls) pls how do i help her without hurting her

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He prolly didn't want his woman upgrading him, coz his plan from the get go was to "downgrade her".

Dude obviously had a serious complex problem.

But sha she try for luv o, from ikoyi to FMFU in ikotun egbe, oloun maje!

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(Why did she allow dude to downgrade her, could she not upgrade him)that's the question i hv been looking for a way to ask to her without sounding mean!!!

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First of all, she's %100 real, how she moved i can say she sublet to another friend of ours, why she moved, i truly hv no idea, we all advised against it and begged her to ask him to move in with her, she said he got very upset when she broached the subject to him and claimed he is a very traditional man and that if she didn't love him for he he was then she had better cancel their wedding, i was not the only one who tried to talk her out of it, even her younger sister was against it, she called it love, i'm not exactly a pro-bono in relationship, so i minded my own biz until now, like i said, she called it love

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She was stu_pidly st_up1d,blindly fool!sh and unreasonably desperate!

I despise women with ths mindset.They make singlehood look like a curse

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She's not in love with the guy. It's very obvious

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^^

thats how marriages can ruin some ppl lives~

such over-hyped,

it shud come @ the rite tyme

she shudnt hav rushed in2 marriage

else it kills u faster than HIV,

I pity ppl dat are not even more dan 26yrs old or older than 35yrs old gettin married!

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Beats me how you can downgrade from a lush apartment in ikoyi to a face me I face you in ikotun, surely she and her man could have pooled resources together to move into another lush apartment in magodo (if ikoyi is too expensive)

Me I no fit o, face me I face you ke?

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@poster, kindly explain, expantiate n elaborate how ur frnd got 2 marry dat kind of guy. Was She jazzed? Or wat? Sumtims I find it difficlt 2 beliv dis knd of story. Was she dat desperat 2 get marrid dat she ended up marryg TROUBLE. Ddnt she knw d knd of man she was gettg marrid 2 b4 settlg down i mean his place of abode, income, future aspiratn, vision etc or was she givg d guy money wen dey wer courtg/dating? There is more 2 dis story dan u ar tellg us. Ur frnd ddnt SHINE HER EYES WELL B4 SAYING "I DO".

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