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Co- Habitation Is It That Bad?

Ladies and guys in the house plz how bad is co-habitation, I know is not acceptable in the christiandom.

Plz i wnat to know the implication of it, \

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@ poster,

yes, the worst choice you can ever make.

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^^ its just the whole idea of the world knowing that they are fornicating is the problem

nigerians and pretending! twoir!

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not a good idea, by the way fornicating need not be as a result of cohabitation, you dont have to live with him/her

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definitely bad,it is fornication

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i thought this topic is not existing again lol,

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@post

No its a bad idea it devalues the woman

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Makes d couple esp d lady desperate.wanting to skip d normal gestation period of d relationship,wantin to break d egg before the chick is formed.WRONG!

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What i am trying to say is if you already live with a man b4 marriage he might not marry you as you are already playing the role so y formalise it

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Why buy the cow when u are getting the milk free

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if it is not bad why ask then it means someone knows its wrong but wants others to say it for them

I quit

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i wouldn't do it. i know that people might do it to cut costs, but it's still better for the girl to have her own place.

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na2day im gna ignore u

u can follow me from here to timbuktu

i wont pay u any attention

at the end ur following a username on a forum

ur all immature and pathetic losers

lolz

take the message to ur little wankin buddies on yahoo messenger

i dont no anyone here from adam- lest they start gettin excited

silly little boiz lookin for a mommy

kmt

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i dont see anything wrong with it

u get to know ur partner better

id rather do it than rush and do a silly wedding just to live with my man! *kanye shrug*

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very funny[b] George[/b] of the jungle

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@OP, personally i wont do it, but is nt as if its dat bad.

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@Georg, cohabitation = co-fornication and co-fornication is SWEET YO!!

AIN'T NOTHING WRONG WITH CO HABITATIONS

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No, its not very much ok especially for the ladies.

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Very interesting topic,

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@ OP, I think RichyBlack said it best when he analysed it in the following terms:

It is an experimental non-legal co-residential union. This union is not recognised by the courts.

The union does not require or imply a lifetime commitment to stay together

There is no responsiblity for financial support of the co-partner and most do not pool financial resources(joint accounts) In other words the relationship is like "going dutch"

There should be no expectation that the partners would socialise together.

Clearly the man would expect the woman to commit fornication with him, but there should be no expectation that the relationship would be mutually exclusive.

Legally, co-habitation as a term shouldn't be confused with the "lighter shade" of a hopeful girlfriend moving in with her bf for a time with the hope that it would lead to marriage. But co-habitation is like a finalistic stage where there is no realistic hope on the side of either party and they are merely living, sleeping and in essence, co-habiting. Neither one is advisable for any man or woman, though. But how is it that it's the women everyone claims is losing her dignity? I'm sure the men lose something too when they succumb to such a pact. It lessens their urge to take responsibility, to make their final choice. It makes them less of a man if they can settle for so little instead of taking the plunge and making a wife out of someone. Food for thought, is all.

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There are many different reasons to cohabitate and they may not be suitable for everyone.

- Some people cohabitate because it makes economical/financial sense at the time (especially if they are saving)

- Some people cohabitate because they need to learn how to share their space (many people don't do this well!)

- Some people cohabitate because they don't believe that they need a piece of paper to bind them together

It's a rather pointless discussion. Cohabitation is neither bad or good, it's simply a preference or not. And might I add that responding with "It is just bad!" is plain silly and adds nothing to the discussion. If you think it's bad you are welcome to that opinion, but at least share an explanation of why you think it's so bad.

The most important lesson here folks, that you don't have to do anything you don't want to do! Yay for freedom of choice :-)

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errr wats the topic again?

oh yeah co-habitation. . . .

hmmm lemme clock the big 25, ill come back

btw im with tope on this

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I would love to look forward to that,earlier given & i will defo get bored.

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I am 50-50 with it,I love my space alot ya know i would prefer Looking forward to living with my lady,i prefer the ancticipation.

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U are not okay with it?

I need to know who i get hitched to inside out. . . . .

We are talking about a life partner here, not someone you can kick out after 5 hours.

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Am quite surprised u r ok with it.

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I don't see anything wrong with co-habitation.

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@Sauron

Who do u Co-Habit ?

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For those who keep up with research on social issues, it is well-known that high rates of cohabitation and longer periods of cohabitation are highly correlated with higher divorce rates.

This does not mean that every cohabiting couple will end up in divorce, but just means that they are more likely to end up in divorce, if they eventually get married, than another couple that did not cohabitate.

Any person with basic reasoning skills will easily see why cohabitation is generally a bad idea.

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Sin Na Sin O!

God Bless Nigeria.

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We can see how Banderas has tried to twist this thread into a cohabitation v. unhappy marriage issue.

Well the truth is that cohabitation, which really is an euphemism for living in sin , differs from marriage in the following ways:-

Living together leads to living alone. Cohabitation is much less likely than marriage to lead to stable long-term commitment.

Cheating. Both parties are much more likely to be unfaithful in a cohabitation set-up. This of couse brings up paternity and health problems.

Money. Cohabiting couples accumulate less cash than married couples on average.

Health. Cohabitants have more health problems than married couples. Probably because cohabiting couples are much more likely to tolerate drug and alcohol abuse than married people.

Domestic violence. Women in cohabitation set-ups are more likely be physically abused than wives are. This is not surprising really since the inherent insecurity in such relationships is likely to lead to frustration and nagging.

Children. Let us not neglect the effect of cohabitaion on the innocent products of such a relationship.

Because of the instabilty of cohabitation set-ups, they are less likely to remain with their biological parents throughout their  childhood. This of course would have negative consequences on their emotional and educational development.

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hahah. Thank you my man Chris. The bible knows what it's saying when it tells you "the children of this world are wiser than the children of the kingdom". People refuse to think, refuse to apply the spirit of the scripture.

ALL guys want a woman who is a lady outside, but a freak in bed. But they marry the lady without the freak and spend the rest of their lives frustrated. Or they leave madam (who has neglected her weight, and now appears to share genes with an elephant) and go and start "running things" outside the house.

Or even when they don't want to run things the young delectable girls in town quickly sense an opportunity and move in.

Then you go to church and complain about how "the devil stole your husband"

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Or what is sister virgin secretly likes to scream yes f**k me f**k me and brother virgin thinks that is whorish?

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if you don't test drive, you might want a porsche and end up with a sharp 1975 beetle. There's people's private habits and personal hygene. There's also sexual compatibility to consider.

If you live in a culture where people don't divorce (because society frowns on it, not because they don't want to), then you're cool. I know many people in Naija who are locked in unhappy marriages, and so spend all their time at work, and at clubs and bars in order to avoid going home.

Here are the facts: Love doesn't last forever. Sex isn't always good. Some men/women are extremely untidy/dirty. And for my christian brothers/sisters, it IS possible to be unequaly yoked with a believer.

This lady keeps quoting the cohabitation opinions without doing her research. In the western world, people who cohabitate also share other things - expenses, and very often the mortgage for their house. That article explained that those people tended to get married more because they were tied together financially than because they were in love. Quoting an incomplete article is baseless. Reacting to a phenomenom without knowing the cause is unwise.

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Myth #Three:

"Living Together Before Marriage Increases Your Chances of Having a Happy Marriage Later."

You "test drive a car" before you buy it, so why not do the same with your lifelong relationships. Another one that is heard often is "you try on a pair of shoes to see if they fit before you buy them, why not your spouse." Someone has said, when you test drive a car you don't pack your personal luggage in the trunk or when you try on a pair of new shoes you don't want everyone else's foot odor and fungus already in them. You can throw away shoes without hurting anyone, but you can't throw away a person without hurting them and possibly others. The great paradox is that research indicates just the opposite of this conventional 'wisdom'. Numerous studies (see "Reasons" below) have shown that couples who have lived together before marriage are more likely to disagree on things like recreation, household chores and finances and are more likely to seek counseling than couples who do not cohabit. The scriptures tell us to "flee fornication" (1 Cor. 6:18), and to "flee the evil desires of youth, and pursue righteousness" (2 Tim. 2:22). In other words, avoid all sexual looseness like the plague. The rate of divorce skyrocketing in the last three decades during the same period as the rise of "living together" is proof enough that "trial marriages" are a failure.

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@ OP

christianity apart, the fact that a guy wants to price wahala b4 his time is a total no no, the girl monitors everything u do from hence forth, me i can't fit abeg, if i am want to be told what to do, i will go and get married. I can stand living with a female in the same house, separate rooms as roommate or relatives but in the same room not married, i am not ready to die

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If you can't handle it, don't do it. Simple.

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co-habitation is very very very bad. its degrading and demeaning. and most times the woman is at the loosing end. 98% of times it doesnt lead to marriage. its alwasy better for a lady to have her dignity in place in a relationship.

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Cohabitation is not the best for me. Why i say so is because if eventually, it does not work out, there will too much bad blood between the two. If a man says he prefers to try things out first before marriage what if it does not end in marriage? will all the blame go to the woman? who decides if things are working or not? What is the scale for measurement? I think we should just go straight to courtship and decide after that without hurting someone's feelings or lowering one's self esteem.

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Bollocks. God warns against ADULTERY.

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co-habitation is synonymous to fornication and God strictly warns us against it.

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I don't even believe it's against the will of God. Maybe it's against ancient jewish history. Cohabitation is neither here nor there - it works for some people and it doesn't for others.

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If anything, the sex is good.

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Most people have 'camped' babes at one time or the other.

But was fun then, part of growing up.

What is bad is bad, it is bad because it affords enuff ,

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@ Poster

Don't allow any man to deceive you into going into cohabitation. If you fall in with that then it would lead to the eventual degradation, devaluation, and humiliation of you as a woman.

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