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Cohabitation And Trial Marriage. Is It Good Or Bad?

Cohabitation is when two unmarried people decide to live together. It seems to be more common than it was in the past. I know some people that cohabit and they call it a trial marriage. They live together for a few years to see if they are compatible and then if they are they get married. If they aren't then both parties go their separate ways. Some peope are so adamantly against cohabitation but have 1 million children out of wedlock. LOL!

Do you have any experience with cohabitation and what are you opinions about it. Do you think that cohabitation as a trial marriage is valid or is it a waste of time?

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Best thing to do. Marry, don't marry. He will still cheat, so why bother. Just have an open relationship.

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i never said it is bad just cannot be bothered with it

i rather go ahead and marry her than live with her

an x number of years. it is a personal choice

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I guess I'm marrying an Asian super model or a really cute Igbo guy. I can't risk my baby's cuteness for love lmao

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cohabitation the way i understand it is

living together for a long while isn't it?

i have no problems with spending wkends

together but to say living together for 2 years is

marriage is funny to me you might as well wife the girl

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So are u saying a man and a woman cannot spend a night together until he's paid the bride price??

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no it isn't

you have not paid her bride price

nor said i do in front of God

so it does not count

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That's cuz Mexico is right below y'all so I can see it.

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co habiting is like a marriage. But in this case it might be a temporary marriage if the love didnot result into marriage. But I think it is not good at all.

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if you like a woman enough to cohabit with her just marry her outright. why try it out when you may as well do the real thing? cohabitation doesnt give you the incentive to try to work out potential problems in your relationship.

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i never said they did

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Ramen noodles don't count.

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i am actually a really good cook

thanks for your suggestion

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Can't cook? I suggest you find a good restaurant right now.

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I say if you want to see how life with your lover would be like before you marry, go right on ahead.

But for me, I enjoy my privacy. Don't feel like given it up anytime soon. And like a lot of dudes just be messy. I hate a dirty place especially since I'm a neat freak.

And I don't do free services.  I don't cook, clean, or whatever with a 3kt Aquamarine Wedding Ring. hehehehe

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i see nothing wrong with cohabitation in my own opinion. staying one weekend, one week or one month is not different to cohabitating.

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i did not see that bit

this isn't the 19th century though

have food on the table? that's extreme

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I think cohabitation is not really a good idea. I think that if you give the dude everything for free (without marriage) the situation is not likely to end in a marriage. It would kind of be like well she's cooking for me, cleaning and doing eveything else so why would I waste my money marrying her. Marriage is a trial anyway so I don't really see a  need for a test run.

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what kind of men do you hang with

lol couch potatoes? haven't they got jobs?

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That's BS. The average woman does that and more but y'all never appreciate it. You couch potatoes watch football all day when you are not at work and somehow expect the house to be clean and food to be on the table waiting for you. Like I said, I don't have time for that now so don't come live with me. I'm too busy partying with my friends.

I know right, my husband is about to be home.

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cohabit? NO!!!

If i'm not married to you pls leave once its 10pm . . .

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i never asked anyone to be a maid

but a woman is a home maker

i do not mind cleaning and cooking sometimes

but do not sit there and never cook or clean

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I'm sorry when the vows were read, I don't recall it asking me to be the cook and/or maid. If you don't know how to cook or clean too bad but my job requires me to travel a lot.

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that is what you all say

but when you lot get into the house

to cook and clean becomes a problem

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Depends on what a person wants, but trust me, I think it'd better to cohabit for sometime not 1week or 2, like 1,2,3 years depends though. . . . considering how difficult it is to get divorce these days and the expenses involved.

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He can come sleepover but live. . . no. I don't want his drama after I breakup with him. There's nothing wrong with it, I just won't do it.

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We're not living with them yet, they already think we're suffocating them.

Some people just need space to think about things before marriage. abi?

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Sociologically speaking, marriage is waning, the rate of cohabitation has been on the increase and is still increasing.

IMO, I don't see it as a waste of time, 'cause you live as if you really married.

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I agree it's a bad idea i'm sure it has its advantages,i will definately never do it.

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Living with a man before marriage is a very very very very very bad idea.

Men get lazy and tend to believe that because we are playing house that is all that is needed.  Who needs to get married when we act like a married couple, is how most men reason.

You can still figure out if this is the person for you by spending the night at thier place or spend a week.  But each person should maintain thier seperate space.

It was fun looking at the way he lived before we married.  I was able to visit him in his own space and he was able to do the same.

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Live with a boy? Eeeeeeewwww!!!!

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there's no hard and fast rule to it. whether a woman cohabitates with her partner or not, the risks of heartbreaks are forever lurking around.

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i wouldnt want to say its good or bad,

but i cant live with say a boyfriend or fiance for any period of time

its just not in me

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why are you shocked?

that is why men need to learn how to cook

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it is a good experiment.

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