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My girlfriend told me that her ex invited her for his wedding in May. I know this issue has be trashed out (being invited to an ex's wedding), but i want to know it from the significant other's view. When she told me that and asked me whether she should go or not, all i simply said was "if u feel it is right, u can go, but if u feel it is not right, don't go". i didn't mean to impose her onto anything as the decision is hers, but she told me my statement is really "pregnant" with meaning (what she meant by that was i was indirectly telling her to use her senses to decide whether to go or not, which i wasn't) and that she would not go, cos she doesn't want a situation whereby something like this will occur in the future and i would refer to this issue (my girl is the very jealous type and though she doesn't show it, i know she's not really happy when i talk to my ex, which is not often).

this is a guy she told me left her in her dire time of need, when she was in a critical life-threatening situation in the past, and who left her to tend her wounds alone. she had vowed not to date anyother man again in her life b4 i met her. it even took me so much of my time and patience b4 she even agreed for me to take her out on a date. afterwards the guy came running back to her, pleading for her to give him another chance, even calling and talking to her mum to plead with her daughter on his behalf. he later said that he was getting married to his present gf because he was getting older and that forever in his life, he will know he has lost a precious gem.

did i reply her right?

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i am calm; how calm do u want me to be b4 u believe, abi u want me to become ice block?

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finding it hard to reconcile these two statements

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- be willing to fail and rise up again.

- learn from your mistakes.

- stand up for your woman.

- stand up for urself

- When a disagreement arises between a man and his woman, the guy shld keep his cool. there is not need for the demonic side to show his face.

- always take the lead and take responsibilities.

these are the few i can tell u for now.

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i'm all eyez-- show mw what u've got--

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Nah. a guy doesn't tell a lady such. he rather shows her nd then she would decide whether he's one or not.

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i meant my definition of being a man may be totally different from yours. typo.

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u see why i said no answer seems to be the right answer to u ladies? i try make amends, now u come dey talk say my mouth dey drool like dog own. which guy will peck a lady on the cheeks and drench her in saliva? what can a man do to please a lady sef?

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U inferred the negate happiness part but i never implied that. what i meant is that u ladies are sometimes difficult to understand. No vex ok?

Oya give me a hug?

U are unique creatures by the way.

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the way u describes us seems we're a unique species that comes from the outerspace and always negate happiness 2 men

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You answered right, just not complete.  Women tend to be irrational and like to have validation.  She wanted you to make the decision for her roll eyez.  If you couldn't make the decision, she wanted you to make it clear that you will not hold it against her if something happens in the future - validation.

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why u come dey vex like this?

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for me, you answered well. www.myspace.com/naijapassion

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personally i don't believe it is proper to be friends with an ex. she shouldn't be going to his wedding especially not with you being present

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i say that was the right answer you gave her. Maybe she doesn't want to go but needs someone to blame it on when her ex asks which means she might have wanted you to say no.

by the way why is she still chatting with an ex who left her in her time of need?

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what more do u want to say, if u step out of the boundaries of what u have already said u will land urself in hot water, so u are good. the decision is hers and she should learn to accept it like that, that is what adults do.

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Yes, you gave her the right answer. But it is better for both of you to avoid any unneccessary involvement with your exs. It's not worth the stress.

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Sweetheart, knowing what u ladies are capable of doing, i feel he said the right thing. U Ladies are a complex set creatures and no answer seems to be the right answer, neither yes nor no.

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no, that's a wrong answer bcoz i would like my bf 2 tell what 2 do in these circumstances--

as 4 d exbf of ur gf i feel resentment in ur words meanin u wouldn't want her 2 go 2 d wedding-- but the answer u gave her means that u wouldn't like if she goes but u won't oppose 2 her-- and that when she comes back u will be mad at her.--- this is what i read in ur answer-- so think abt it.

if u really were'nt borderd abt her going u would have just given a straight answer.

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I see nothing bad in the way you responded.

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carry on wif the babe, nothing do her

but shes jst Jealous she aint getting married b4 dat silly ex~

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She's ur gf so dat's an ok response.

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