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Different Religion But He Proposed: What Should I Do?

I have been heart broken, betrayed and rejected, but the right person walks in, and loves me just right, most of all, i admired is there but the problem is he is a moslem and am a christain, he has proposed to me, but i didnt give him any answer,pls wat should i do, since the people of the same faith are ful of lies and betrayal. pls every contribution or view is accepted.

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is really nice if u should think through wat olaniji said concerning the kids and, dont delve into it just because u want to prove a point or as an act of revenge, but let it truly be cos of love.

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David, how many people did you love on nairaland?

@poster,

raising kids is no problem as long as both of you have iron out the grey areas. Personally, I think it is both challenging and fun to marry from the other side of the religion.

I have a yardstick for measuring success rate. And that is probably why I am always optimistic. If the two of you can consciously fall in love know you differ in faith, then, it is possible you work things out.

The odds here is that A "strong" muslim lady won't marry non muslim. By "strong" I am talking of someone who breath and speak quran. A muslim man however can make decision quickly whether he is islamically "weak" or "strong". However, he can't marry unbelievers.

The mistakes most of fanatical christains made is branding muslims as "unbelievers". That is not just silly but irrational. Muslims on the other hand branded christains as "people of the book". Christains are never regarded as unbelievers all through the quran. They are given respect. On the other hand, some selfish christains had made it an occupation to classify muslims as "unbelievers" even when the bible didn't mentioned "muslims" in it description of unbelievers.

I strongly believe that couple dating from other religions must resolve the issue before getting married. Once this is done, third parties should be shut out. As they would stop at nothing to create disharmony between the couple.

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A man that is proposing to me now is a Sabbathtarian the White garment church, and me i am a catholic so what will i do i still try to draw him to catholic but he refuse but what can i do is where u find ur love. And i know he loves me too. so if u love him go ahead it is your life if you know u will find happiness there is nothing wrong in marring a moslems

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I'm sure you've heard it all.Follow ur heart but keep it in mind that someone will have to sacrifice his/her religion for peace to reign.How you want ur kids to be brought up matters too.Gdluck.

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David, I knew you would come

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I am really impressed and grateful on the responses i ve gotten so far, but to be honest with you guys, you have shed light on some stuffs i have not had a deep thought on like the issue of the kids wit their unbringing. I am so grateful to y'all i'll just pray to God to direct me.

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@june12.

Why do some people regard men on the other sides as unbelievers? The people that have problems dealing with difference of Religion in relationship are, to be honest, those who are yet to understand what it mean by God. If God is in one religion only, the all other religions would have been in disarray.

To a mind with wisdom, such pronouncement is needless. I have deep knowledge of Islam and Christainity and a bit of tradition. My understanding thought me never to condemn others as unbelievers. The irony is that some sections of christains even consider other section as unbelievers, even though they read the same bible!

My point therefore is simple, NEVER CALL OTHER RELIGIOUs as UNBELIEF.

@poster,

in truth, this kind of issue is hard. The battle line is drawn between love and religion. Faith and wisdom stand in between. The strongest wins.

It all depends on you. On your background. Somebody would have to sacrifice for the kids. Try and talk to your man first. Listen to him and his ideal about this. Let him see into the future. Let him tell you what he see.

Never marry, muslim or christain, just because you have disappointments in the past. Always be sure that your decision is the best you can think of.

The truth I must tell you is that if you marry a muslim man, your kids would carry muslim names.

There is this weird couple I once know. Christain husband, muslim wife. The wife call their child SIKIRAT, and the husband call the same child ESTER! You can imagine how hot their home is. Strangely, they are still together today. The husband won. Why? Because he is the head. But they maintain their respective religion till date. They settled the child name by using yoruba name. YETUNDE!

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Sorry about the christain men Statement, didnt mean it like that. Am so sorry.

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daryl my mail address is jibola_4chick@yahoo.com

and my number is 08061244965

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DARYL, AM COOL AND YOU? CAN U JOIN ME @ YAHOO MESSANGER SO WE CAN TALK IN PRIVATE, IF U DONT MIND

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Hey Jihibola! How u doin?

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hello daryl, waz up am jhibola , care to meet me?

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if you know u really luv him, 4get about muslim or christain thing, see i will be frank with u, there are no husband out there any more, we are very scares, so the one u see now plz hold him tight inrespective of the religion cos b4 u know it another despirate girl will high jack him 4rm u.

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Babe, like the others said, is up to you to decide. and ask urself if you are ready to face ue family, unless they wont mind. Have you not thought of not taking them to church or where will u take them to, pls ask urself questions and think again pls. i know how you feel after all you must have been thru, just take it easy and be strong okay. and all the same follow ur heart and no one can advice you like u

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I agree with @aisha2 and @efuah has said it all.

Helpful tip to make your relationship stronger despite of religion and stereotypes at below link:

7 Reasons Why Females Get Hurt In Relationship

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-94423.0.html

10 Insights You should take steps into serious relationship

before you get marry her/him

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-95533.0.html

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I will advise ,based on what my bible says.

I have a lot of muslims friends and I respect them.

The bible says that we should not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. Marriage is not just physical,but it is also spirutual. How do you pray ?

How do you bring up your children ?

Look for the right christian congregation and look for the right man.

Most importantly, wait on God.

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Yeah follow your heart also consider the implications.Are you going to have the support of your family(or you don't care),are you sure his family would accept you? I would be very honest with you it aint easy but it could be easy Pray to your father in heaven. All the best

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My dear, I feel your pain. I am a Christain to and for a long time was involved with someone of different faith. Its true, most of the Christains dont treat women well, Moslem Guys have a ay of making a woman feel special.

If your are in love ith him, Put sterotypes aside and build a relationship if you feel he is right for you. I have always said race and religion should not be a barier to love.

In the end you kno what you want. Follow your heart dear. Good Luck

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