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Distant Relationship?does It Last And Is It Real?

This thing has always disturb me and now i have decided to bring it on this fast growing forum.

pls i will like u great forumite to please help me shed more lights on this.

one patner in a country and the other one in another even among undergraduates dating in different schools.

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people y'all need to get this.

IT DOESN'T LAST AND NEVA WORKS!

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If you are not sure about distant relationship, why don't you and your loved one buy webcam via instant message (Yahoo Messenger, MSN Messenger, ICQ, AOL-AIM---all of them are built-in webcam connection) to hook up? It is only way to build great confidence to each other.

Read the bible scripture: Proverbs 3:5-6.

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Different strokes for different folks, but if I read between your lines, u may not be able to cope with it.

My advice; Don't start what u can't finish, Understanding, perseverance, determination and trust keep relationships together despite the forces of distance, but pls try to hook up from time to time for absence heightens love, but presence strengthens it.

#Candid Submission#

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Understanding with matured mind is all u need

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Understanding with matured mind is all u neem

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My Dear,Long distance works oh but it is very very hard and stressful,you just have to be focused,I am in one and have been there for like 3 years now,not easy for me as a guy,you know,though I won't lie,I really wish you luck,please do not over work your heart by thinking where is he now what is he doing,instead use this time apart to build on yourself,if it is school or your work,so that if he comes back,he will see that you are better off then when he left you.Hope you get.

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one thing i can say is it lasts and lasts. and from personal experience, u achieve no real closeness. u spend time missing each other and talking and talking and there's no action. after a while the words begin to sound hollow and u wonder if u have something real. then he's a guy and it's only natural for his eyes to wander around, esp in a foreign place. i had one for two years and i was shocked at the end when i realised i barely knew him and he hardly knew me. the second one was much better, but the network usually frustrated us and all that stuff. besides i got tired of watching my friends go out on dates and to the movies with their boyfriends and i cldnt tag along. i met someone else, got close, called it quits and moved on. though the previous guy hurt me, he admitted to cheating so i cldnt trust him anymore.

it can work but it'll take lots of patience, sacrifice, trust and credit. if u knew him very well before he moved, and u were already really into the relationship, then it will probably work. but if it's still young, it wont stand the test of distance. so good luck.

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It is sweeter than anything i can ever imagine

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sorry, i already found one

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Brother Thank You. The Fact That Some Failed. Doesnt Mean Others Will.

Sister I works and is a reality within matrimony. What happens when you are married and your hussie or wifey has to unavoidably be away. Sometimes for a year? Dont mind the weak willed. Thed do d same even in matrimony.

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Those are rather four (4) words.

3 words - It does work!

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3 words - it doesn't work!

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@kachichi

am happy for u o,at last u are married to the one u waited for.

but make i no lie its so expensive to maintain a distant relationship cos of the rate of international calls,but all the same am coping its a matter of time i belive.

but you all know that atimes the mind does some wandering and wondering what the other patner is doing at a particular time or moment and if one shld let that get too much things u dont wanna do starts coming up.

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well i think it depends on the individuals involved.

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Ahhhh i understand you girl, it's only natural to be scared and it is hard work making long distance work but if both of you are committed 100% to making it, it will work out. I sure hope he does try his best too. Goodluck girl

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yeah iice,

its just that am kinda scared about the saying out of 'sight is out of mind'

but at the same time i will try all my best to make it work

i hope he does too

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LOL babonboard, some can't but i know some who have gone without for long periods, its just a matter of discipline. And i don't believe that all girls can wait, because i know girls who get their lil fun on the side when they away from their boyfriends.

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yes i understand,but u all know that on the gal's part there is no problem but for the guy i dont think they can stay a week without thinking of sex a

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Distant relationship is real and it works, but it is dependent on both paties involved.i am in one and i hope that sooner or later we will be together is just a matter of time.even when u are in a relationship with someone that is close to u doesnt guarantee u great relationship if u understand what i mean.i believe both couples should follow their heart,if u are ment to be together no devil can stop u.

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well it's realllyyyyyyyyy hard oh for mi personally to maintain one not in this world where pple jst open they mouths anyhow and talk isht and trust is really limited.ma guy the thing hard sha.

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It works for some, but in most cases it does not work. I dont hav a personal experience, i am just talking from what i hav seen from other people's experience

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i really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really  really love it

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it depends on the people involved and yes it can definetly work.

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I don't do them but i know there are couples out there doing it and maintaining it. I say it's hard work and stressful but if you are upto it, then do ya thing. Afterall what doesnt work for one may work for another.

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It could last depending on the parties involved.

If they don't get suspicious or listen to bad advice, it could work and yes, it's very real

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