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Distant Relationship: Happy Ending?

Is it possible to have a "they live happily ever after" in a distant relationship? One partner being abroad and the other being in Nigeria. This is something that is affecting a lot of relationship, have caused broken homes, even depressions and worse suicide. Is it advisable to start one?

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i personally think the problem of LDR is TRUST!!! each person is wondering wat the other person is doing & to be honest it is hard to maintain a LDR cos there will be those days when you want the person around & even the long hrs spent talking on the phone wont help!

If TRUST issues can be resolved then thats fine & i also advice that the long distance thingy shld be for short term! its harder when there are too many uncertainties!!!

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if its a phase, then maybe

but indefinitely, naw dont deceive urselves

im with sistawoman, no point deceiving urselves

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LDR's never worked for me.

Tried it thrice; thrice it failed.

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All nigerians r nt d same. There r

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The foundation of LDR is trust n communication. When these two are there, it won't b bad n vise versa.

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I agree with Sistawoman, it depends on the person you are. Certainly doesn't work for me.

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yes, I'm a living proof

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Nice comments you all. maybe i should just paste a full gist of what i want from this discussion. right now in UK, there are thousands of naija babes here ready to do anything for any guy to marry them. The fact is, forget the issue of he is honest and really love his gf back home in naija, he may just fall for their tricks. And believe me they ve got tricks. I ve witnessed some though i am yet to fall.

Dont these babes have guys at home here in naija waiting for them, probably burning naira on credit and the babe is getting served by someone else. And the guys that do fall, would they have fallen into temptation if there babes were around.

All is that the norms in nigeria too that you can fool around so far your partner is not around, after all the common saying here is "what he/she doesnt know cant hurt her"

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I agree, LDR is a growing reality in an increasily global world , most modern relationships will have some period of LDR , especially for those of us from third world countries where you have to leave the shores of your country to get an advantage in your career. LDR can break good matches but it helps bad matches to break faster than they would have .

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go sista go sista, i will fail nicely well and am sure she will too(if she isnt already).though we are nt too far apart we seldom see(seen her last in 3mths now)but we talk a lot on fone.she tells me everytime she is feelin bored and lonely and when a babe does that often fill in d gap.i try as much as i can to make out time to see her but she isnt willin to sacrifice time cos of school or church or she doesnt just wanna go out and i dont wanna be like a judas or a spanner in aher wheel of prog or a piss off if she doesnt wanna go out.

as for me,i gast keep body and soul if y'll knw what i mean and i dont worry myself aby if she is gettin kicked elsewhr for as long as she doesnt bore me wit stories

so fora LDR what matters is TRUST nad good communication IN THAT ORDER

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I guess it really depends on the type of person that you are.

I could not do well in a LDR but that is because I am a touchy feely type of person. I need the physical contact that comes with being in a close r/s.

I need to feel my partner next to me when I am sick and when i am lonely and when i just need a hug. Being seperated by an ocean would never work for me and would fail in the first few months.

So before getting into a LDR you really have to be honest about yourself, your needs and your desires.

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