If your husband is cheating on you, you may think that he doesn't love you anymore. However, the recent studies show the opposite!
How to understand the psychology of the man who is cheating on his wife? Perhaps, you will find this special psychological study useful. Most likely, if you are interested in this topic you think that your husband prone to cheating. Moreover, you are probably thinking that the man who cheats and lies is dissatisfied with his wife. Well, in fact, not necessarily. According to the research conducted by Rutgers University, 56% men who have cheated on their wives claim that they are happily married. They are greatly satisfied with all they have and are not looking for a breakup, but still find themselves in bed with other women and risk to spoil the relations with their wives. To understand why men cheat, read these 12 facts about infidelity.
Fact # 1: Most men still love their wives when cheating.
A husband, who is cheating, didn't stop loving his wife. However, he is probably unhappy with the current state of their relationship. Infidelity usually occurs in the phase of "companionate love" when couples begin to settle down and have children. While the marital relationship can still be strong in many areas, the romance may disappear. In this case, women complain about the lack of romance while men suffer in silence, believing that they can't get what they want from their spouses. To avoid this in your marriage, make time for sex and discussing your hopes and dreams.
Fact # 2: Men usually cheat with women they know.
The men who cheat usually don't pick up random women in bars. Many women think that all of their husband's mistresses are whores, but this is not true. The relationships usually start with simple friendship. In fact, more than 60% of all affairs start at work. To prevent this, and to save your husband from cheating, make sure your husband feels more attached to you than to his partners at work. Good tip is to always go to bed at the same time with your husband and cuddle.
Fact # 3: Men cheat to save the marriage.
Men love their spouses, but they don't know how to fix the problems in their relationship, so they search for something outside the marriage to fill in what they don't get enough in the family. Then, they can live happily ever after with their wives without problems. So if your husband is cheating, maybe he's just trying to save your marriage.
Fact # 4: Men hate themselves after cheating.
You can think about cheaters as of people without conscience, but they tend to despise themselves after infidelity. So, cheating for men is also a test!
Fact # 5: Cheaters often become more playful with their wives after they have an affair.
When a man starts an affair, he becomes hyperactive sexually and his libido awakens. His wife is still the partner with whom he feels most comfortable in bed. If you notice a sudden change in sexual desire of your husband, be on your guard. If the cheating goes too far, the husband will then start to move away from you.
Fact # 6: Women cheat just like men and their infidelities are more dangerous.
A study by Indiana University shows that men and women cheat with the same intensity but the causes of cheating are different. Women are more likely to cheat for emotional satisfaction. Online cheating without any physical contact is the most destructive type of infidelity.
Fact # 7: A wife often knows that her husband is cheating.
Women often live with knowing about their husband's cheating for the sake of their kids or to avoid humiliation and divorce.
Fact # 8: A couple will not find a way out when the husband affair is in full swing.
If the husband's affair is in the midst, no conversations or scandals are able to stop it. Therefore, the best tactic is to be the woman that the man once loved. Most women tend to turn from a loving girlfriend to a nagging woman. Of course, men are certainly not attracted to such women. Even if your husband is cheating, continue to give compliments on his sexual abilities and don’t shout about the towels in the bathroom on the floor. That is the best advice.
Fact # 9: Cheating can often fix a marriage problem.
Is the cheating of the husband the death of the marriage? Not always. Although new relationships are exciting, they can revive the old marriage. People often begin to understand who they want to be until the end of life, and that their new relationship is not as perfect as they thought it would be.
Fact # 10: Even after rebuilding the marriage, a husband may still miss having affairs.
A man can love his wife and have a desire to save the marriage. Unfortunately, this does not mean that he completely has no desire to "get crazy" and have affairs. Again, acting as you did at the beginning of your relationship is the best tactic.
Fact # 11: A cheater knows he's hurting the woman he loves.
A person can be fully aware of the negative impact of cheating on his wife, his family, or himself, but still continue to cheat. Why? It is all about the perception. If a man feels unwanted or undervalued, his desire to find someone who will admire them will still win.
Fact # 12: The wife is not guilty if her husband cheats on her.
Understand this: if your husband is cheating, it's not your fault, no matter what people say. When a person is cheating, he makes a conscious choice. The phrase "she pushed him into the arms of another" is just a common expression, not a reality. A man cheats not because the woman isn't good enough, but because their marriage isn't what he wants.
In conclusion, we would like to give all wives a good advice – do not worry too much. Men cheat, but they still love you. The same can be said about wives cheating on their husbands.
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