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Do First Impressions Stick?

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I've met so many people telling me, you're so different from when I first met you, and they refer to things I say and do, as if they are shocked that a person could have a personality and not be one dimensional.

Question:

Does where you meet a person of the opposite sex determine how you will relate to them, this question is for guys, but I guess anyone can chip in if they feel like it.

Suppose, you met a girl in church, your first impression might be that she is a religious and devoted girl, sensible and mature, but if you were to find a picture of her on facebook with an outfit you consider slightly revealing, would your initial opinion disappear or would you tend to make excuses for her; 'she was probably caught off-guard in that picture.' 'she probably wouldn't do things like that.' 'this picture is probably an old one.'

Scenario two, imagine you met another girl in a night club, so you might think she might have a wild side, and has probably had a few flings, maybe even one-night stands and as you're flirting with her later and telling her how attractive she is and was on the night you first saw her, she tells you she's not into that she doesn't want you talking about her like that, and then when you're talking about things that matter to you, she quotes a few scriptures that mean a lot to her, would your opinion of her change or would you think; 'there are so many Christians out there who know all the quotes and don't follow it.' 'she probably was raised in a Christian household but has gone in a different direction now.' 'She's probably trying to impress me, or to make me think she's not cheap 'cos I saw her in a nightclub.'

Basically, does the first impression stay with you even long after you've met??

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The personality matters.

for me,it will stick.

A girl I met at a party and the one

I met in a kirk are meant for different

purposes.

If a girl I met at a party started acting

like a churchgoer, then I will let her be,

cos she is not fitted into mine purpose

of what I wanted from her.

Unless, if there is IOTA of love.

Also, it applies to the one in kirk.

Nigeria Is Blessed.

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First impressions stick when u just met someone for 30 mins-1hour and u dont see the person again.

But when i keep meeting that person, even if its for 1 week, first impression gives way to the real,

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negative.

its not a family thing.

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it depends, if u meet someone for the first time and u continue to interact with them then no, your opinion of them is bound to change, for the worse or the better it doesnt really matter.

but if u meet someone once and you really never talk tothem or even see them, then yes your first impression will stick

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What type of clubs do you have near you??

And it all depends on what a decent girl constitutes to in your personal dictionary.

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Definitely no. Its the first impression even months or years later you'd still be sceptical about doing business with him. As regard finding the opposite sex in particular circumstance and judging from it, i think it the right thing to do, personally i cant picture a decent girl in a club, and if she not bad and rotten, the onus is on her to discharge any doubt existing against her good virtues if any,

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I've followed this thread 4 a while and i realize you all just facing d same wall, culturing an absurd and unliberating myopic perspective of d issue in view. First impression in any of those casual situation might generally not matter, but to some it does but imagine you'r being tried 4 a capital crime and your would be counsel appears in jeans unironed shirt dreads wit a cigaret during working hour and he can't even get his language right, would you committe ur head in his hands or find out if he 1st clas

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first impressions stick like CRAZZY! especially if the person wasnt kinda well dressed to ur expectation or wasn't fluent in speaking or smthng. first impressions usually last longer.

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Yea, first impression sticks though it can later be modified with subsequent meetings.

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I really think that first impression matters , or how do u correlate this , "DRESS THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE ADDRESSED?"

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They say "First impressions are often wrong"

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To me,It does expetially when there's no chance of meeting regularly to correct it.But when there are chances of meeting regularly it could be corrected.

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It takes a a matured mind to absorb the first impression; it counts but it shouldn't count.

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Yes, I guess, sometimes the first impression is the last impression you get of a person. I still know people from back when I was younger, and they still see me as this little innocent girl. It's impressions like those that make people underestimate people.

That's true, and people change.

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I think I will like to chip in this:

Some people don't tolerate nonsense, so they judge you by your first action.

So, to those class of people, first impression will surely stick.

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It matters and somtimes nt,bt remember dat one mans meat is anodas poison.

Som men wl lik d lady d met in d church while others wl prefer d club girl. As for me,d way and polite manner u get in contact wt me wl capture me most regardles of d environment.

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they stick long enough for me to make my second, third n fourth impression of the person.

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[Quote]I think some people are easier to read. You can form a solid opinion of them in a short time. Others take longer. And a few take forever[/Quote]

That's how it is.

[Quote]LOL lost of control is the issue when it comes to anger. Even when i loose my cool, i still mentally filter before talking. Some people rely on that excuse to say what is really on their mind[/Quote]

Lost control it is. You filter mentally before you talk and does everyone have to do the same? And if they don't they are on a bad list? Yes, some people air their mind when they are angry (I think it's a cheap mode), but do you have a problem with people saying their minds even when they're angry?

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The problem people have is that they don't think there's anything like being caught off guard or making the silliest of mistakes. People have fallen at points where they were most revered, and if there's one thing I can be sure of: It's that they never wished they'd fall at such areas. Human will be human. We have a part that's just not admissible, and we have the good sect too; I believe these makes us up.

And again, we all have our moments when we tend to deviate from who we are and it is some people who will bear the brunt and judging by what people think, their thought will be centered on what that person did that's different from what they've been doing.

I've seen many cases where people have said that someone's true personality manifests when they are angry but I completely disagree with that. We all have different modes of controlling our temper and some people aren't just good at that. I have a friend who will say all sorts of unimaginable things when he's angry and deep down in me, I know with countless qualities and reasons, that he's indeed a great person, a good friend too; and there's another friend of mine too, who becomes very quiet when he's angry. I'm just trying to support your point that people mostly expect others to always be of good conduct but that's not always the case. However, it's noteworthy that some act really outrageously out of plain immaturity, ignorance or grand stupidity.

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Well, great thoughts here.

I think yes, for most people a bad impression sticks more than a good one. People are already really sceptical today and if you make one mistake, they can easily believe that everything else has been a pretence. I mean how many times have friends fallen out because of one sentence that may have gone too far in an argument, will they forgot, probably not, in fact, we'll tend to think that the girl was fake during the 3 years of friendship, we tend to think that if a person is truly a good person they will not be caught off-guard but that is not always the case, in fact it rarely is, I have never met someone who was one dimensional, I have experienced bad and good sides of people and you just have to accept it that people have sides, people have different behaviours and we can't form a proper picture of someone in a short amount of time.

Some people are even better at covering their behaviour, so you just will never know.

For me first impressions mean nothing, what means more is when I see the person behaving when I'm not there.

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In my humble opinion, first impression doesn't count. Meeting someone in church doesn't automatically make them a good person, at least, not in my book. Matter of fact, I'm always weary of people in churches. I know much more cases where pastors have slept on several occasions with my young girls in their various churches; so tell me, when you meet most of these pastors, what do they portray? They'll portray this heavenly meekness and pureness. . . I don't even trust a lot of pastors, yet, I'm a Christian and I go to church. Just tell me what's in the Bible your character means nothing to me, you're on your own with God when judgment comes.

As for the girl on facebook, it depends on how you want to see her. I'd see that as probably trying to mix up with the current in-thing, going on in the society and maybe trying to get in the mix of what her friends are probably involved in. I'll also have the perception that it's just another dimension to who she is. I'll consider her, a bit open, and spontaneously dynamic.

From experience, there are lots of whores who have good and very acceptable moral behaviors; I see their whoring as a matter of choice, maybe not to profession I'd approve of, but hell yes, it makes them happy and they make a living from it. I can't specifically base all other views I have of them on just that. There are many sides that make up a person, either good or bad. But like N2D said, we tend to always remember the bad than the good.

For instance, you meet a guy who's terribly heartbroken and at that moment hates himself, his life, everyone around him. How do you suppose he'll accept you when he meets you? Of course, it'll not be friendly. Will you, hitherto, have a permanent belief that he's unfriendly? That's how it is. You wait it out until they've done a particular thing repeatedly before you can decipher what they really are.

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summary: 1st bad impression(what she wore, what she was doing, where u met her etc) will easily stick more often than not but the good 1st impression hardly sticks, it is just normal human science, we easily remember a wrong than a good deed.

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I think 4 obodoyinbo, dt saying f 1st impression counts. But for we! We! I think pretence is one dt count. I feel u just ve 2 let ur sense guide u. They might not b real at 1st. And finally , u cant always jugde d book by its cover, just act right.

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Yes, it absolutely does.

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Of course first impression always sticks!! How you percieve someone to be initially is very important in how you eventually relate with the person. Admittedly, such impressions could be deceptive but all in all first impressions are important.

Meeting a girl in church dosent make her a religous one and FB profiles cannot really tell who a person is.

There are some people you see in church and even with their heads bowed, you can still tell they are not that religous.

There's this instinct/intutition that comes with your first contact with a person. Most of the time, they always trun out to be who the person really is.

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Well it really depends on individual, if u say first impression doesn't count much thats ur own idea n self believe. To me it counts alot, imagine u met a gurl at a nite club puttin on all sorts of rubbish clothin, how wil feel bout her, n there after?

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First impressions. . .hmm'n, I know there's a saying about that somewhere, but I don't think it applies. Initial impressions usually change as things progress - or they don't change. But I never hold people to how I first saw them because in the end, they might be turn out to be real or fake. So I keep an open mind.

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First impression does not really count, reason is because there is always a pretender, be it conversationally or appearance, or place of meeting, a second or 3rd meeting could reveal what a person really is.

However first impression does count based on how well you can observe, some people can be so real, that if you even meet them in a church, what comes out of their mouth would def tell u the kinda person they are.

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