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There is this girl that i am going out with for some time now. She has been acting funny lately.

It all started last month when she was about starting her exams in school. She told me she wanted to move to the hostel which i objected simply because of the atrocities we hear that girls on campus commit. She instisted and i let her be. Since then i have noticed that her level of comitment has decreased and this is making me feel really uncomfortable. I have called her so many times and she claimed that it was due to d exam pressure and the rest. Even after the exam she still has not changed.

When we started going out, there is no day that we don't see or talk but now she doesn't even bother if we don't talk for a week. She only calls when she has financial needs. I feel like telling her i want out so as to free my conscience but somethin tells me i should hold on for some time.

My challenge now is that i can't keep meeting her financial needs when i know(?) that her heart is no more with me. Just yesterday she called to tell me that she needs some money to pay for her accomofation in school & co.

What do I do, cause i can't continue to fool myself

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Am sure you have plenty advice to pick from. You don't need God to come down from above and tell you that the girl is using you. Dumb her azz

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Break up with her and start saving the money for you and your future wife. You may be lucky to come across someone who really loves you and don't give a damn about your money.

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author=lafamo]There is this girl that i am going out with for some time

now. She has been acting funny lately.

It all started last month when she was about starting her exams in

school. She told me she wanted to move to the hostel which i objected

simply because of the atrocities we hear that girls on campus commit.

She instisted and i let her be. Since then i have noticed that her level

of comitment has decreased and this is making me feel really

uncomfortable. I have called her so many times and she claimed that it

was due to d exam pressure and the rest. Even after the exam she still

has not changed.

When we started going out, there is no day that we don't see or talk but

now she doesn't even bother if we don't talk for a week. She only calls

when she has financial needs. I feel like telling her i want out so as

to free my conscience but somethin tells me i should hold on for some

time.

My challenge now is that i can't keep meeting her financial needs when i

know(?) that her heart is no more with me. Just yesterday she called to

tell me that she needs some money to pay for her accomofation in school

& co.

What do I do, cause i can't continue to fool myself[/quote] run broda,

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Bro she is gone...she is obviously not feeling you anymore..she has somebody else..just forget her man..but don't break d relationship by ursef..let her do d breakup herself..dat way ur conscience will be clear..just detach ursef frm her..tho painful bt very necessary man..welcome to manhood bro..you become a man the day you are played and dumped by a woman...

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@ poster. A woman who is truly in luv with u will never stay a day witout keeping in touch with u. Atimes we do silly tins when we are younger but never to dis point. My own personal experience. My 1st bf I was cheating, I was cheating not because I wanted to hurt him, it was due to d fact that I didn't even know what I was doing! I felt d was more to sex so I wanted to experiment ofcos with protection. I didn't get a guy in sch cos I felt dating a guy in sch wld b disrespectful to him, I got a guy in d airforce, told him I have a boyfriend, that I just want to be doing it with him, no strings attached, and that at any point he comes to my house and sees my boyfriend, he will remain just a friend! I did dis for two yrs but really got pricked by my conscience then I told d 2nd guy that we have gotten 2 d end of d road, he was already in luv with me,but I soothe his feelings and told him to remember d deal. He lingered but I didn't go back. But despite dis I put my bf first! Am in my 2nd relationship,and I have vowed never to cheat! Not to even collect a bottle of coke frm anoda man, I confessed to my first 2 free myself from guilt of the past. So if any girl is in a relationship and she doesn't respect d man she is dating,she doesn't deserve d man, no matter how busy u r,u will create time for him! I assign ring tone and even msg tone so I wld know when my bf is calling. Pls look for d right girl, she doesn't love u therefore doesn't deserve u. Goodluck!

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@poster if you suspect she is playing u, then play her back two can play the game you know?

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Guy, pple don talk am o. We ladies can be wicked but it depends on you. Where did u meet her? Did u study her before you went into d relationship?How does she relate to people around her/ old and young? Sometimes, u guys cause wahala for yourselves. U look for girls dat are exceptionally beautiful and dress sexily. All that glitters is not gold my dear. Put an end to the relationship o. u will find better pple by God's grace.

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@ poster how old are you? Grow up, if you think there is something funny about the relationship especially trust wise then break it off. You think she is using you and then you continue to let her. If you have ever thought something and it happened to be true now is one of those instances.

My only advice is for you to get common sense, maybe use the money you give her to obtain it.

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see. y wud i as k money 4rm a guy who is a student like me and we were both given pocket money for skul. and even if he is workin, pls hbe has his own need, for the fact he loves me, does not mean, i shld turn him in2 smetin else' tht's y u guys always get hurt when a gul is dissing u, cos u think of the money u ve spent.

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Because you are not in need right or maybe because your parents are rich.

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Hello Guys,

I see the number of post here is very small and I believe the reason is obvious, most users of this site are ladies and they wouldn't want to poast a comment to their shame. Guys you know what? Because of my experience with ladies, I begin to find it difficult to believe that there is anything called love. I respect the previous comment that says love is a 50 - 50 thing, but today its ain't so. It has now become 100 from the guy and 0 from the girl. That is one reason why guys after spending all they have on a girl demands nothing else but sex, some guys even go as far as beating up this girls, am a witness to several of such, a guy in my neighborhood stabbed a girl 14 times and if not for people arround the girl would have ended up dead after loosing so much blood. The guy was angry because he has spent heaven and earth on a girl he was not yet married to and the girl sleeps arround with other men but wouldn't with the guy.

Bros, I advice you never to give the girl a dyme for her accommodation because you'd only end up breaking your heart, except you be Babangidas son wey fit invite Joe for his girl, I know its hard for you to leave her sort of but, you can stick with her but be wise. Use your money to improve on yourself and when she calls you for money, just think of one excuse or the other to give but never forget to fool her by saying you love her. If I tell you my own experience you'd laugh your head off. I have many experiences but I'd just try to relate one here. Couple of years ago, I worked in a cyber cafe and there comes this angel, so beautiful that before I got talking with her I didn't know. We continued like that for weeks, talking on phone, sending emails and sometimes chatting, then she was in school, Ekpoma and I just got through with a Diploma program in Uniben, so I was trying to get back for my degree program. I finally made it and I told her about it and she was kinda happy and demanded we meet in her school, so I gave her my words, so I decided to go to school to get through with registration and stuffs like that, I got to school (Uniben) at about 6 pm and headed straight for her house, I didn't know Ekpoma is very far from Benin, I asked and was told Ekpoma is just close so with my jean, T-shirt, and palm shoe, I started out to Ekpoma, Unknown to me I was actually travelling again, so after hours I still have not arrived and then it was already dark, to cut the long story short, I got to her house at about 10 pm at nite, and didn't meet her in the house but her neighbours told me to wait cos she didn't go far, they said she went to a Cyber - Cafe. So I waited, and you know, GSM was not in vogue then, and behold, minutes later, she walked in and they told her I was arround, when she heard it, she started bluffing, didn't know what to do because she was coming with another bigger and richer guy, when Is aw them, I told myself, e don happen like P-square would say it.

She lied to the guy and the guy kept calm and they both took me to another guys house where I met different calibre of guys smoking all sort, drinking with fighting materials, then I started praying silently, I said God please pardon my foolishness, see wetin woman won put me, so she left me there, went back with the guy and I couldn't sleep till the next morning because I know the kinda place I was, the next morning, she came arround secretly and stated appologising, I didn't say anything I just knew it was late for her. So I left her house and headed back for school. weeks later, she met online and she told me she needed about 20k to buy a phone, I told her to give me account number and she did, she wasn't seeing me, but I was just laughing, I told her to go to the bank on Monday and she actually did, on that day she called me on phone and I told her to wait there, she waited and after hours, she realised she had been the biggest fool. That was it, God forbid I spend my money on a beautiful flirt wey no fit siddon for one place.

Guys, there are so many of them like that, and I begin to wonder if one can truly find a true love, my friend told me it's impossible, No Money no Honey. So, to avouid beating them or pouring them acid, just quit and stay cool,

One love and respect to you guys who have posted comment here.

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My brother, this thing happened to me years ago.

All these signs are the initial signs of what is to come. I see that you still love her that is why you are still trying to hang on. Please don't give her the accommodation money. In my case, I did and on a particular day i got to the room, music playing and voices in the room. I knocked, the music was turned down and no body was talking anymore. As luck would have it her cousin, who new me came and asked me if she was in, i told her i just arrived. She knocked and called her name. My girl thought i had gone and opened the door, there was a guy on the bed, the cousin apparently new the guy, and it had been going on a while.

Stop the relationship while you are still ahead. I supported her going to the hostel so we can spend more time together, so the father always gave her the stipulated accommodation fee (N1000.00), she preferred to stay in the BQ which then cost-ed (N30,000.00).

She was becoming too studious looking for any reason to stay in school. Reading in school all the time (she claims), infact she was coming to see me at times to fulfill all rigteousness. When she come she goes to the room and sleeps telling me that she has an assignment to submit say in 3hrs time in her tutorial class and things like that.

Advise is to go to her room more often in the evenings / pay more surprise visits and watch her reaction to all male visitors that come to see her. You should be able to know in no time who the person is.

I remember one birthday that she gave me a bill for a get together, i gave her money and she came later and said that she wanted to do a full party and requested for more money. The way she said it, i refused. On the said date she came to my house to still ask for the money and i told her i didn't have. A few hour later about 8:00pm i decided to go to her school, cos i didn't like the way she left saying that "she would just go to her room and receive her birthday cards", at least to take her out to resolve most of the problems we were having. O boy when i got close to the room the sound that was coming from there was like a night club, guys and girls moving in and out.

Infact the summary of it all "na to shine your eye o" and prevent the eminent heart break that is lurking around the corner. I am sure I would not be wrong.

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Let me tell you something about love.

Love is ment to be 50%-50%. that means both of you will be 1 ie 100%

so if the love from you partner isn't up to 50%, then i can assure you that you are wasting your time with that person.

so for the girl in topic, what i think you should do it to DUMP her period.

there's no point wasting your time with her since you've comfirmed that she's been acting strange and doesn't call except she needs financial aid.

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