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Do I Still Continue To Date Her? Please I Need Your Advise

I have a girlfriend, I love her very much. However, a few months into the relationship, 8 months to be specific, she came over to my place after she had visited twice earlier. When she came, my instinct wasn't really down to making love to her but after 2 days I did. When I got in there, I found out she has gone wider. This was too convincing and I just was confused. I pestered her to know what was going on, she didn't spew no information. I pressed harder and she confessed to me that she actually had sex with someone else but it was a molest. I don't believe that one bit because I asked how it happened. The guy has always asked her out, she went to his house to ask for a movie and he told her he loved her and would want her. The next thing he forced her to bed. Asked her "what kind of clothes did you put on for him to have penetrated you?" He said he went there with a gown and she doesn't wear gown out to the best of my knowledge and I am sure she was on a jeans that day, now if she was how could he have penetrated her unless she agreed? "I bet he Molested you without a condom" I asked and she responded that she used a condom on her but who Molests with a condom these days? This doesn't make sense to me at all. Please advise me on what to do. I need serious help here. I still love her but each time I think about this, I feel sudden hatred towards her.

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The young woman was weak and the other dude took advantage of her.

This has happened a zillion times since Adam and Eve.

90% of most relationships began this way.

THE WOMAN IS ALWAYS THE VICTIM.

A babe visits a dude and he forces her by persuasion or aggression and the rest is history.

In the battle of the sexes, there will be winners and losers.

Life goes on.

ONLY WOMEN WHO TRULY LOVE THEIR MEN WILL KNOW HOW TO TURN DOWN INVITATIONS FROM OTHER MEN AND AVOID THE TEMPTATIONS AND RISKY COMPROMISING POSITIONS, SITUATIONS, CONDITIONS AND LOCATIONS.

One Valentine's Day, years ago I was far away in Lagos and my woman was in Abuja. She told me that she was invited to a Valentine party and I allowed her to go and even accept the present from another man. Then later in April I went to see her in Abuja and I did not even query her about what happened at the party. We made love for hours and I did not have to gauge or measure if her womanliness was now wider or narrower, because that would be childish, foolish and NONSENSE.

LOVE HER OR LEAVE.

PERIOD.

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That is why bible said that marriage is honourable and bed undefiled, had it been you didn`t look you will not find, that is why you are worrying your head now.

On a serious note I can`t stay with a person that I can`t trust.

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u still love her don't u? , be honest

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Definately you should give it a go. . .try and get it outta your head.TIME HEALS

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I got your point bro. Most of the women on here are quiet about this but if it was a woman that posted this, there would've been lots of yelling on here

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@cold

What.is.it.with.all.the.spaces?

@seeker

Hope.you.understand.my.point.sha?

I'm.not.an.emotionless.kinda.guy. I.love.real.things. And.I.think.love.should.be.reciprocated.

Only.a.guy.cheating.would.not.be.angry.at.this.girl.cheating.

And.once.she.cheats. . .in.my.books. . .she's.out!

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@seeker

Sorry.if.I.sound.very.crude. . But, LEAVE.THE.GIRL.ALONE!. LET.HER.GO.HER.WAY.AND.YOU.GO.YOURS!. Its.really.sad.how.girls.can.do.this.and.expect.the.guy.to.forgive. . As.if.they.would.

One.tiny.winny.bit.of.stuff.I.know.about.relationships.is.this. . .once.she.cheats. . She's.out.!

Even.if.you.forgive. . She'ld.so.it.again.and.again.

You.just.imagine.if.you.didnt.notice.the.increase.in.size. . .would.you.have.known.any.of.these? Would.she.have.told.you.on.her.own? She.would.neva.have. And.she.would.neva.stop.getting.it.elsewhere.once.your.not.around. . . And.with.her.history.again. . .she.might.never.change.

I.hate.cheaters. They.only.become.remorseful.once.they've.been.caught!.

As.a.guy.to.a.fellow.guy. . .Free.the.babe. Someone.else.deserves.all.this.trust.and.love.you.are.giving.her.

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well, how do you rate the stuff which u posted, and by the way, is she meant for you alone, chop make i chop

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Yes, but then I know she wasn't Molested, she did it willingly, ok, how can you explain these?

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with issues like this, half truth is okay, the full truth is hard.

i once had a girl who said she only pulled her clothes and wore them

back. i ddint question further, i just thot the rest my self.

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look, at least she confessed, which shows she got a conscience and can change. she just fell cos of the distance.

dnt mind all these posters, most of their gals are cheating, even rite now, and even if they put a gun to her head

she will never confess lai lai. so u berra 4give her and start again, b4 u end up with those die hard babes that will

deny even if you caught them in the act, and na those kind babes plenty pass nao o.

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Nig knock the dust off that real good before she leaves then call her Bottom up on the phone and let her know it's over.  Better yet text her the break-up.

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she is in the US i bet huh?

if so then she is a flaming liar!

her story isn't true one bit

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sounds like deep down you know the trueth question is HOW DO YOU HANDLE IT?

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You are right and feel my point. The first time she visited me she stayed for a month and we had sex constantly she never went any wide, but I was just surprised that in 6 months she had gone very very wide. That showed she was up to something.

She said it was a molest and I doubt that in its entirety. I talked to one of her friends before her arrival and she felt a bit reluctant about everything and all, she felt my pains because I suspected something was going on. Some of us got instincts ya know?

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@poster.

She.did.not.only.cheat.on.you? She.cheated.'repeatedly'.on.you. You.said.you,guys.last.saw.6.months.ago?. She.mos.def.was.with.someone.else.all.that.time.and.they.constantly.had.sex!. Else.you.wouldnt.have.easily.noticed.the.change.in.size.

The.more.frequent.a.girl.has.sex. . .the.wider.she.gets. And.for.you.to.have.noticed.an.incredible.change.in.size. . .she.was.getting.in.constantly!

Thats.what.they.call.'thoroughfare'!.

Not.funny.here.dude. . Give.up.the.girl.

But.if.you.think.you.love.her.enough.to.still.be.with.her. . .game.on!.

But.then. . .can.you, ever.trust.her.again?

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sounds like shecheated on you though her 'widending' is not proof of this - more the lack of coherence in her story!

tell her how you feel and what you think and see how she reacts - if she is contrite enough to confess and apologise, then you know where you stand and can decide whether you want to find a cause to her cheating and work through it together or whether you want to leave

if you can't be bothered and dont think it is worth - it or she wont confess - walk away jeje-ly

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@poster,

Don't think you made a mistake by going out with her at first,she slept with the other guy,she was not coarsed,why will she go to the guy's house to get a movie?man thats a lame excuse infact it confirms she really wanted it,cuz most girls use that as an excuse to visit men.so dump her sorry Bottom.or you will regret it at the long run.

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obviously ur girl has been sleeping around with all those signs u noted. pronto! she only used molest as an excuse to cover up her act since u've cautch her already

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If I could notice she was wider, I would have noticed if I had weak Attention even in my dreams. I had even the fullest Attention, you know, I didn't have sex with anyone for 6 months since I last saw her until she came back and we did it?

Yes you're right. She told me she had that the first time we started dating and that was a few weeks before we started off the relationship. In all honesty, do you think I was silly to have started the relationship in the first place?

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D.C. could also make a womans opening to be wider than normal

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did it ever occur to u that maybe u dint have a full Attention?

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Like in this situation, I recall vividly that she was always tight each time I went in and this time, she was just wider and the whole thing was just too watery. Also, study the odor that ensues after each time you have sex. If a woman is having sex with you alone, the odor is always constant, the day another man goes in there, forget it you will perceive something else. As for the tightening, the clit will be so coarsely tight that usual.

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Of course you can always know especially when it has gone exceptionally wider. I take note of these things. Do you know they use stuffs to tighten it too? I can figure that out too.

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i dont know how u  measure the lenght and breadth of the clit,

but she is lieing and so i suggest you let her go.

i have never been convinced u can tell the  change in size of a clit from the last time u bleeped and presently.

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exactly what i'm thinking

it does not makes sense

how old is the babe sef

this sounds very dumb i'm sorry 2 say sha

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Molested with a condom?  What was the girl doing while the dude was wearing a condom?

That story has holes in it.

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I don't understand that question.

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pls 4get her

i cant stand a cheating partner

very annoying

KMT

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