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Do I Tell My Girlfriends Husband I Know About His Affair?

I live in a large city and had to go out of my way in a different part of town to where I normally shop to get some special ingredients for a dish I was preparing for a party.

I was driving past a house when I saw my girlfriends husband at the front of the house kissing and handling another woman during the middle of the day when he was supposed to be at work.

In hast I stopped my car and checked and double checked that is was my girlfriends husband and without doubt it was him. The woman he was with is a bit younger than my friend but they have a very similar look. There he was in broad daylight at the front of this womans home passionately kissing and handling her bosoms and bottom. It was obvious they had just finished being extremely intimate with each other and he was leaving.

I felt sick and angry that he could be so deceitful.

What should I do, tell him I know about his affair or do I tell my girlfriend what I saw OR do I just keep my mouth shut as it is none of my business.

I am so hurt for my girlfriend as she is so much in love with her husband and is a wonderful, loyal and dedicated wife and I havent been able to stop thinking about it.

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This is really a tricky question, should i or should i not?

U'd have gone across 2 say hi.

U know things about telling, they might have a big fight n when they settle, u'd become the enemy,

U said sth that struck me "u said they look similar". Usually, when men cheat on their wives with someone that looks just like her, it is either there is sth d wife ain't doing but he still loves her (y wld he commit adultery with someone that looks like wifey?)or he subconsciously wants something different and imagines that since she is so close to home, (look alike) he might as well be having an affair with his wife.

Hint her subtly and find out if there r things she used 2 do with and for him that she doesn't do anymore, that is without telling her oh.

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when u saw the guy u should have come out to say helllo, let him know someone has caught him doesnt need to be his wife, if he wont stop he will curtail it. but since u didnt say anything then, just dont say anything again. pray for him, and for those of u saying all men are cheats, its not true. just say i am a cheat dont speak for others.

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y all d insults on d poor girl,she simply asked 4 an advice,aint her fault d guy did dat in broad daylight on d street.

girl take ur time,dnt tell neither he or his wife,wait until u av proof den u'll sort it out wit d guy in a cool manner.

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Fancyshoes, sweetie, e jo, Machuonu, !

it might hurt you to see but at the end of the day, you really dont want to be the bearer of bad news,

you cant expect her to pick ur words over her bread and butter, Let this be one of your best kept secrets,

if you are a christian, pray he would be exposed, DOnt pplay James Bond oo,

And in future, follow nairaland advice and take pictures or record video, Better yet, walk up to him and say hi, He would be soooo embaraassed he might go and confess because he thinks you would first,

Mbok, No yarn o, Look the other way, tell yourself it was a very ver very bad dream!

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if you want to amebo then i suggest you clear it up with the husband first and see if he tone down or stop all together.

Its very dangerous to come between a couple. If the relationship breaks down your friend might have a vendetta over you simply because she blames you for the break down of her marriage.

Its all psychological . . . . she may just settle for hating you rather than the one she loves or loved at some point. it doesn't matter whether the marriage was working or not.

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whats the name of this novel again?

i want to read the full story

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JESUS CHRIST U PEOPLE ARE WICKED OH!! see how u just attacked the poorgirl lol eniways dont talk ohh

she might not believe you- end of friendship even if she believes and they make up after that- end of friendhsip

if its that serious she will find out herself.

she might know:

have u ever heard of cases wer the woman and man both know the man is cheaign but they dont want to confront it? like an unspokenagreement. she might want to act if she knows u know. and if shes content with the situation ure telling her will force her out which might not be her best bet depending on the situation.

do you want to be the one to bring hurt to your friend? heard the phrse dont shoot the messenger? they alwys get shot!

dont confront the guy: he might turn her against u maybe say u tried to seduce him.

nairalanders ohh jesus eniways i don say my own o

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i think u should stayy out of it if u get involved u might get part of the blame :-x

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I dont understand gibberish, sylvao. Try again.

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List Of Cheats:

1. Sylvao2000

2. Bennygee

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ur lying,

no cheating husband would do that in broad daylight when he's had his fill indoors.

besides wetin concern you,busy body.

learn to look the other way,some things are better kept as secrets

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Dont say anything to ur girlfriend cause she will not believe you.

She will say you are trying to destroy her home - and i can assure u that she already has an incline that he is a cheat and having someone confirm that will only send her into the defense mode.

Just tell him that you have seen him around town with different girls and he needs to stop hurting ur friend.

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I'll tell you to keep that to yourself o. Never involve yourself in matters of the heart. What happens after you tell her and she confronts him then they make up? Think about that.

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I bet sylvao is head of Cheated United which is why he cries in every thread where cheaters are insulted

Dodoyo.

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