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Do Nigerian Gentlemen Exist? (Guys With Etiquette)

Etiquette Of A Gentleman

By Michael Bucci

Do not laugh at others' mistakes

This is perhaps one of the cruelest things one can do. When you mess up, the last thing you want is for someone not only to bring it to your attention, but to ridicule you on top of that.

Remove your hat indoors

This rule seems to have gone out the window these days. You should remove your headwear upon entering a building. Furthermore, never keep your hat on while at the dinner table. It reflects very poor etiquette.

Wait for seating before eating

When sitting down for a meal, you should wait until all the guests are properly seated and ready to commence the meal before eating. Everyone should start dining at the same time; this is a subtle but very important rule. the basics of chivalryIn addition to the aforementioned rules, gentlemen (in training) should follow these additional rules when in the presence of a lady. Chivalry may be on life support, but it is not dead yet. Be one of the few to keep this flame burning for many years to come.

Always open doors

This is perhaps the most basic rule of male etiquette out there. It is also one of the easiest to follow so you have no reason to forget it. Whether she is about to enter your car, restaurant, club, or anyplace with a door, you should always hold it open. If there are many doors, then hold them open one after the other.

Put on her coat

Always help a lady put on her coat or overgarment. This is a simple but powerful action.

Help with her seat

If an unaccompanied lady is sitting next to you, it is important that you help her be seated by pulling her chair out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with the lady seated of course.

Give up your seat

If a lady arrives at the table and there are no available seats, you should stand up and offer yours to her.

Stand at attention

Always stand when a lady enters or exits the room. This rule has been somewhat relaxed, so you can stand upon entrance but remain seated upon exit. Nonetheless, if you can do both, you should.

Give her your arm

When escorting a lady (that you know) to and from social events, you should offer her your arm. This is a little more intimate, but serves well when walking on uneven ground -- especially if she's wearing high heels.

Ask if she needs anything

This is one that most guys already do, but helps complete the gentleman in all of us nevertheless. When at social events, make sure to ask the lady if you can get her something to drink (or eat, depending on the event). Show her that you care about her comfort and needs.

Gentlemen, if I may call you that, these are the rules of etiquette you should observe in everyday life. Elevate yourself above the rabble and display the mannerisms of a true gentleman. The world will appreciate such a rarity and your career will most definitely benefit from your good manners and savoir-faire .

Culled From Askmen.com-

http://uk.askmen.com/money/successful/41b_success.html

Do you practice any or all of these?

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@topic

This should be an old thread, but i will still give it a shot.

Somebody has said it earlier; Naija chicks mistaken all the things you listed for some other things.

So, if being a gentleman is doing all the things in the list, then i will honourably tell you that i dont exist as a Nigerian gentleman. I can only speak for myself.

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i don't think there's anything like a perfect gentleman but it is actually a continuos struggle towards perfection that matters

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l believe they are there because l have just met one

and hes everything a gentleman can ever be

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yesssssssssssssss, they do, just found one n cant get over him

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I apologise for annoying you but you came across to me as a very rude young lady. I will leave you alone now.

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'because our culture ant the same'. Everyone knows that. Why cant you give anything constructive to the topic? The poster is asking for examples.

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netotse

I will ignore what ever you wrote in your last post. No arguement with bro.

My old lady

' go back to your CAGE, recess is over ' would suit you better. I sincerely dont wish to expand my last sentence.

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abeg moodylady share ur thots on d topic, some pple shld look for the threads that say 'for the pre-pubescent'

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My old Lady

Thats all woman like you can do, shout and scream and then you want respect from your man. Search yourself. I can also write all these 'F' and 'S' words but I wont. I never learnt these things. Moreover,I dont think I could achieve anything by shouting at you. What do you think you have achieved?  May be you are too old to learn anything or should I say 'grow up'

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@moody

i did it cos u seemed like d more mature one of d two(u weren't d one screaming), lol,also someone always has to be d b d bigger person

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@moody lady

chill now, jst ignore some stuff and follow the thread afta all we didnt come here to starting a cussing or shouting match

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MY OLD LADY

AINT YOU CONTRADICTING YOURSELF? YOU ASPIRE FOR A REAL MAN WHO WOULD RESPECT YOU BUT AT THE SAME TIME YOU DONT WANT ANYPERSON WHO WOULD DO LITTLE THINGS TO PLEASE YOU. I AM AFRAID YOU HAVE NOT THOUGHT ABOUT THIS THOROUGHLY BEFORE SAYING IT. COULD YOU PLEASE EXPLAIN YOURSELF OR SHUT UP.

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well we do exist,problem is dat d ladies can't seem to differentiate between someone who's tryna b a gentleman and someone who's tryn to get thier attention for a potential chase.Infact,if u try to be one,she immediately enters the chase mode!!!!and doesn't even know she's supposed to BE A LADY AND SAY THANKS, cos whatever u do as a gentleman was just your prerogative and not her right.U coulda decided not to,and it wouldn't have been noticed!!!!Sha,bobos,lets keep tryn,God dey!![b][/b]

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If you are indeed talking about all those stuffs (etiquette),am afraid i can't see any Nigerian guy doing all those,they might do a few but not all.Shikena,

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ladies, u heard that, do we have to beg before u speak up

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how many men in the world do those things? dont be decieved by what you watch at Odeon cinema o

if nigerian men are bad, there wont be such a high demand for them at present

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yeah but they are meant to be part of our everyday life

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Etiquettes are over rated!

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ladies what do u think

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it seems like nigerian brovas feel been gentlemaly in behaviour reduces thier level of masculinity

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Eldee!!!

The truth of the matter is that i'm proud to say that i am one,i exhibit such everywhere i go,but i must confess to u it sometimes get my buddy peaced off,but i'm someone that doesnt live on other people's opinions,whatever i consider decent for myself i go ahead and do it.

Funny enough,everywhere i go,before i know what i have couple of decent and pretty girls around me and atimes i tend to wonder why that is so,after all i'm always myself where ever i am,i dont flaunt,i dont pretend and neither do get too pushy,i'm always myself,but i always get to realise that most of those damsels quite appreciate and adhore my uncommon disposition to them which they always claim attract them to me.

But,the truth is that most Nigerian guys arent like that,most of them are just too hostile in the way they approach or treat the girls around,and its pretty bad,they need to change 'cos it will definitly affect their marriage.

Cheers!!!

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maybe everyone has his own way, u can add ur special style

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pointless asking for any because there aint none

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So until a guy opens a door for a lady to pass then he’s a gentleman.

In Nigeria here, guys have different ways of making their ladies feel proud of them than merely opening a door for her to pass through. So I would advise you to make more research on this issue before you begin to condemn Nigerian guys.

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@Thoniaslim

I concur with you totally.

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Yes. Such as in the "rural" mindset kind of way. Help by carrying your bucket on your head when you are at the stream fetching water.

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I don't think its a very typical trait of Nigerian men. Nigerian culture focuses on men being providers, and I am yet to see Nigerian parents who stress ettiquette and chivalry in their sons.

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i don't agree wiv u on that, etiquette is the background of informal education in nigerian homes, although chivalry is not as emphasized

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men nigerian gentlemen are hard to find, u don't even have to look for them, they'll find u if ur lucky

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Well am sorry i don't care to find out.

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@ thoniaslim,

why na? i have been born and believe me,i have the aforementioned etiquettes and even more

if you care to find out

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Ever heard of the book, ''The Beautyful Ones are not yet Born''. that applies to Nigerian guys.

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oh, i didn't know, I tried searching for it with one seach engine on this site.

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Is your own definition of gentlemen someone who open door for ladies? Sincerely, that is a wrong definition.

By the way a thread had been created for this topic. Kindly locate it.

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Is your own definition of gentlemen someone who open door for ladies? Sincerely, that is a wrong definition.

By the way a thread had been created for this topic. Kindly locate it.

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