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Do Virgins Expect Their Boyfriends To Give Them Monyey?

My girl who claimed to be a virgin was telling me last week that her hair is bad and she would like me to offer her some financial assistance.

I am like, "oh honey you know i am not really ready for this, why cant we wait for the right time?"

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i dont think so , but they are human like you , just becos they are virgins

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Give ko Givenchy ni

Its no crime to be a virgin but if she won't give you any nookie fine but please tell the broad to get her hands outta your POCKET!! Especially if she's pressurizing you for bread. It starts with her hair next thing you are buying a phone, paying for her accomodation? Get outta here Santa Claus ain't black!!

Na Destiny's Child i blame for this nonsense one minute they are asking you to pay their BILLS and the next minute they say their INDEPENDENT WOMEN causing confusion in young women's minds across the globe

My word to the poster in a nutshell is: If she is a virgin and you really like her you wont sweat her for intimacy neither would you think anything of giving her bread and if she really likes you she wont starve you of intimacy and even if she does at least she wont empty your wallet no matter how broke she is. So you do the math

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You see, that the difference between my culture and yours. In my culture, we dont see it as that way. If the guy gets rejected, he is believe as it is not meant to be. We dont see anything wrong in that really.

This I can agree with you.

Frustrated cause he is not able to have se**x with the girl or what? Sure he does if all he ever thinks is se**x. I belie that not every men are like that. There are differnet men with different point of view, different reactions and different approches towards situation. You cannot just think that every guy would react the same way

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why not? you need to sow before you reap,

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thats not true. Based on experience, the more he pressurize me for sex, the more I will reject him. A guy needs to respect me and let me know that he is not forcing me to do things which I dont want to do. Im open. If he wants to leave me cause he aint getting no Bedmathics, than so sorry but he has to go. . . That means he is not meant for me. I mean why open your legs when u are not comfortable or not 100% sure about it? Thats just wrong. . . SO wrong. . .

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Frank i like your disposition to this issue. As for me,what i want is a girl that REALLY loves me as much as i love her and ticks 60% of the qualities box, that box sure includes intimacy as top of the list, when a girl meets these demands,then i can give her anything as long as i can afford it,even without her asking,simply because she has ALL i want in a girl.Now if she's an intimacy expert without real emotions,instead of feeling obliged to involve my finances with her,she can kiss me goodbye in less than a month! So these things should even out each other,

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If God bless my life with a virgin girl, I will do anything for her. Virginity is pride of a girl.

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interesting point u'v raised nd its quite true to some extent, depending on the maturity of the girl

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This question is some how.

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if a gurl really does luv u, it shud be u first b4 ha v*g*n*t!!!

bt in dis case i jz tink u two re playin urselves nd pretending to eachoda

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My question is why go into relationship wit a sexualy active guy when u claim 2 b a virgin? I c a recent thread where a girl said her boyfrend gave her 2 months to decide on havin s.ex wit him. And she claims she loves him a lot. You cant eat ur cake and stil have it. If u dont want to have se.x stay out of relationship that may demand it. Dont get involvd wit a sexually active guy and deny him of se.x!! Hw can he have u and still b mustabatin? Hw mean and wicked can some girls b?

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in order words the female life is all about being a parasite? from daddy daddy i want, to honey honey i need, is there no end to backwardness? even you guys saying you expect sex if u r given money are being backward. so she gives sex, you give sex, you give money, she gives , ?personally i hate being taken for granted and basically i treat my girlfriends the same way i treat my friends. if one has an extremely pressing need i will gladly help but anything hair is between you and ur parents. someone earlier said tht you do not expect a 24 year old to still run to mommy for hair money, absolutely correct but neither do i expect her to run to her boyfriend. i expect a lady of such age to have graduated room university and have a job. if she is still in school then she will rely on her allowance. otherwise the implication of girls mandatorily collecting money from guys is that when they break up, the girl will have no money to do her hair. right? meaning that she will need to accept the next suitor that comes her regardless of what she feels for him because she needs hair money. i throw this question to you, are women inferior to men to the extent that they cannot work and make money the same as men? if ur answer is yes then i have no further questions. if ur answer is no, however, then i ask you this, why must a man provide for a woman? (particularly when she is not his wife)

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bro i hve to contradict you there, why go into a relationship with a non sexually active girl? i mean you did know before hand right?

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She wants indirect financial support. This is legalized prostitution. Your teaching your Virgin Girl friend to use her pssy to control. You are teaching her to be a prostitute. Ask her to meet your expectation first.

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Ladies and Gentlemen, Boys and Girls,

Work for your own money and take care of your self first. Nothing sounds more selfish than looking up to your partner to take care of you. Even if some guys claim it is ok or some women believe part of what comes with having a partner is for them to part with their money occassionaly, believe me you will never find true happiness and fufillment in life.

If you are woman and it makes you happy your husband does everything for you now financialy, the moment he goes broke, it will eventually dawn on you that you may have to re-evaluate what you actually feel for him.

It is sad that these days, with all the women equality campaign, all some ladies bring into a relationship is intimacy, virginity or just being female. Guys will always put a monetary value on it if thats all you got.

Their are guys too that dressess up, looking good and hansome and think thats all thats is required to get ladies to do things for them. Thats just not right. WORK FOR YOUR MONEY & TAKE CARE OF YOUrSELF FIRST, THEN YOU CAN TRULY SAY YOU BRING SOMETHING THAT WILL MAKE YOUR PARTNER HAPPY. Otherwise, just remain single.

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guys wake up as for me i have help so many girls with money and no intimacy in return hiv is real guys that complain about spending cash on girls are always heart breakers girls beware

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Honestly i dont expect virgins shud ask for me, it will seems the guy is a mugu if he gives her. But the guy shud be responsible enuf to when she may need money. However i dont think the lady shud be the one to ask.

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Bros abeg no part wit ur hard earned moni oh, Just last dec i dumped a girl 4 d same reason, only dis tym she was nt claimin 2 b a virgin, And just last 2 mths d new one (presumed virgin) i picked up dat earns d same salary as i do was claimin dat she doesnt have any moni. I gave her d moni she needed at dat tym only 4 me 2 find out she has enough moni in her acc, D bottomline is 'girls if u are nt ready 2 share wat u hav don't ask another 2', Wateva it is moni or intimacy.

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Bros abeg no part wit ur hard earned moni oh, Just last dec i dumped a girl 4 d same reason, only dis tym she was nt claimin 2 b a virgin, And just last 2 mths d new one (presumed virgin) i picked up dat earns d same salary as i do was claimin dat she doesnt have any moni. I gave her d moni she needed at dat tym only 4 me 2 find out she has enough moni in her acc, D bottom is 'girls if u are nt ready 2 share wat u hav don't ask another 2', Wateva it is moni or intimacy.

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HEY PEEPS. WHY ARE U ALL DEFENDING D VIRGIN LADIES? I HAD A VERY BAD EXPERIENCE WITH MY EX.

HEAR MY STORY-

I MET DIS BABE THRU A MUTUAL FRIEND. WE WERE DATING AND ALONG D LINE SHE TOLD ME SHE WAS A VIRGIN AND WAS NOT READY TO LOSE IT UNTIL SHE GOT MARRIED, I KINDA AGREED WITH HER. BUT SOMETIME LATER DURING D RELATIONSHIP, IT WAS REALLY HARD FOR ME AND I TRIED CONVINCING HER ABOUT MY LOVE FOR HER AND ALL DAT, BUT SHE STILL REFUSED.

WE DATED FOR ALMOST TWO YEARS WITHOUT GETTING DOWN, THOUGH WE KISSED A COUPLE OF TIMES. ALL ALONG, I WAS RESPONSIBLE FOR HER FINANCIALLY TO A REASONABLE EXTENT.

SOMEWHERE ALONG THE LINE, WE HAD SOME MISUNDERSTANDINGS AND WE BROKE UP.

TO MY GREATEST SURPRISE, LESS THAN SIX MONTHS AFTER WE BROKE UP, I HEARD SHE WAS GETTING MARRIED. ONLY FOR ME TO FIND OUT SHE WAS ALREADY PREGNANT FOR THE GUY SHE WAS GOING TO MARRY. HERE WAS A GIRL DAT TOLD ME SHE WAS ONLY GOING TO GIVE IT OUT WHEN SHE GETS MARRIED. I WAS SO DISSAPOINTED IN HER AND ALSO IN MYSELF FOR BELIEVING HER AND TRUSTING HER ALL ALONG.

EVERSINCE, I PROMISED MYSELF DAT I WAS NOT GOING TO DATE ANY GIRL DAT WAS A VIRGIN ANYMORE. IF I LIKE A GIRL AND I DISCOVERED SHE IS A VIRGIN, I JUST BACK OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP. I CAN'T STAND DEM. MOST OF DEM A BLOODY LIARS.

SO I THINK FOR ANY GUY DAT HAS S*X ON HIS MIND IN ANY RELATIONSHIP, DON'T JUST BOTHER DATING A VIRGIN. THEY ARE BAD NEWS.

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Why do these ladies think a thousand and one musicians have sang in different genre and dialect that 'body for hand back for ground". please nothing goes for nothing oh!

i also got my gf telling me she needs 18k and i am like 'tell your dad" and she is like 'i thought you loved me blah blah blah". the issues remains that if i am spending my hard earned money on you i certainly should be getting something in return. Return On Investment (ROI) is what the game is all about,

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not understanding why girls here expect payment for being a girlfriend?

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@ poster

*laughing uncontrollably*

This is the funniest thread on NL!

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Guy nothing do u jor.most of d problems we have socially dis days stem from people who are unable 2 make thier position clear. If dats d way u feel, Men, its ur money

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Oh in other words we should only do things dat are convenient rite?

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well, if u are happy in a relationship there is a higher tendency that your patner will be happy. becos your happiness will always b contageous and it will make u do things that will please your patners

there is no need wasting your time making Unnecessary sacrifices for your patner because sometimes paying you back becomes a dept, hence a burden.

the key to any relationship is your personal happiness . seek your happiness and every other thing will be added unto u.

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well, i dont like living a life of denial. At the end of the day, not matter how perfecr we claim to be, relationship is all about us, u can step up to b more than ur self, but u are still doing it for you own good and gains.

even if you sacrifice something to make ur patner happy, you do it also for ur own happiness. because if making ur patner happy will end up making u very sad, i bet u wont do it. but if u are happy that ur patner is happy then u will do things that will make ur patner happy which all still boils down to selfishness

how bad the act of selfishness is is only a matter of degree.

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Dzzzt! Wrong! Relationship based on dat is bound to end sooner than later. Why? Cos of wat u already know, humans can be selfish but wen we step up to be more than our selves we become shining lights. Darkness follows the selfish n in darkness is all sorts of hurt.

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Yes love has an element of self in it as the good book says Love thy neighbour as thy self. But isn't it better wen 2 people are happy then wen only 1 is?

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michelin and co, keep on f, king your boyfriends, its your bid to attach a monetary value to it or not

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well, if there are boundries in the relationship, that would uncounciously affect how much pampering you can give.

what you give is what u get.

it amazes me how we tend to forget how selfish we are as humans. relationship is firstly about us, then our patner

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don't mind them. They don't want to eat omelette without breaking their egg. I saw one on nairalist. She wants a sugardaddy to take care of her needs, but she doesn't want to sleep with the sugardaddy.

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ujujoan

Just shut up if you dont have anything to say. Thats what people do

Cos you want everyone to shup cos birds of the same feather chop together.

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@ namum

Demanding girlfriends and housewives are waiting for you to give them their support.

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-298349.512.html

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-271905.320.html

Well as for the housewives, although I prefer working class women I understand that sometimes a woman might be forced to leave her job. But as the girlfriends? No way. Cheap sluts.

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The way i see it, virgin or not a virgin, shouldn't affect whether or not you pamper your girlfriend.

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Thank Goodness i aint got a "girlfriend". . . What an ambiguos word!

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@michelin, ritaatnairaland

when sluts talk its obvious. if you have any understanding what i am saying is once a ,man is your husband he is responsible for you but it odes not mean you should depend 100%. i canvass for women independence

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@michelin, i am not surprised at your outbursts, i would not ave expected anything better from a 21yr old girl. your post reeks of childishness. if you are old enough to understand then i would explain better how a marriage works most especially in africa.

alternatively you can ask married women around you

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Ujujoan

Are you guys still on this

This is getting booooring!!

We should ask you cos you believe you dont have to use a price scanner if u got the "right" man. Ur ideal man is " pay as she says spender" good luck

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How are u so sure that this girl is virgin?

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So her company is not good enuff for u rite? Sex is all dat will satisfy u rite? Well u've already admitted that u get it from elsewhere so why the special focus on this particular girl?

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Why are we making very complicated, Lets analyze this:

It is a common knowledge that:

Girls think guys just want to have sex with them and dump them right?

And Guys think Girls want their eat their money and dump them.

why must i b on the losing side?

The last time i asked that i want to come around hang out with her and i wish it would get more exciting, she said if i have in mind to demand for sex i should better not come. I mean, whats that?

lately she has been nothing but a bore, i am even beginin to wonder if she is realy a woman because she seem to have no feeling.

Now i know i love her and i assume she loves me because she is realy playing her cards right. But at the end of the day how am i sure she really loves me the way i love her. i know that women can go to any extent with the man they love. perhaps something is not right

well, i called her last and asked her what she would do if i totally stop assisting her financially, would she leave? she said she wont leave. and insisted that if i dont wnt to wait till i get maried i should leave.

well i told her that i will wait, but i promised her that i will b the best husband i can once we get married, but for now we must not demand anything from each other.

the bottom line is that i think i am getting fed up of this whole frustrating, boring, childish and sexless relationship. she is forcing me to have sex with girls i dont even have singe feelings for.

we are both in too deep in this relationship and we will both get hurt if it ends like this. right now she knows i am mad with her and has been disturbing me with meanlingless childish calls. she is begining to get on my nerves.

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Good point! I didn't know virginity has become an investment a guy has to pay premiums for to keep. The way she's making it seem, it's as if it's a golden opportunity the guy won't want to lose, therefore, he has to pay for it to show its values. I'm also wondering, if she wasn't a virgin would the same thing have happened? I guess yes. I have to add also that there's nothing wrong if a guy chooses to help his girlfriend financially or if she requests financial assistance out of having difficulties or somewhat closer situations; but as a responsibility from the guy is totally despicable.

In my case, if I can afford it anytime, any day, I will pay for my girlfriend's hair, buy her gas, buy her stuff I think she might like or look good on her, and she's an independent woman, very independent. Notwithstanding, with pleasure, I will do all these and more even though she doesn't think they are my responsibilities.

In heaven's name, why would any girl stoop so low to start asking for money from a guy, especially for worthless things? I remember a topic like this was created some months ago on the family section. I'll see if I can dig it up

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whitelexi, u're so much on track lol.

If d guy wantz 2 give let it be 4rm his church mind. Why would a girl go in2 a r/ship wen she isnt ready 4 watz involve. Am not sayn sex is important in a r/ship bt i guez itz a necessity.

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