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Do You Classify This As Defacing Of A Woman's Pride? Please Ladies And Gents!

It's been a common phenomenon that some girls find guys attractive and chat them up. It happens such that, when the guy has little or no interest in them, they show a great deal of interest and sometimes talk them into a relationship.

I understand before the guy accepts such proposal, he might have been somewhat interested in the girl, and they both start to kick it. What do you think about this situation? Do you think it's normal for a woman to talk up a guy for a relationship? If you think so, why?

If your opinion is that it ain't normal, why? If it's happened to you before, can you share a little bit of your experience?

PS: In some parts of Africa, they see it as the woman throwing away her pride of womanhood.

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*walking in*

Is this a chat room Bluespice and The seeker??

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Yeah almost like Superman. But you know superman was just in two parts I guess while Smallville is in series. They must be cooking another season in the kitchen. Now that you remember it, answer my previous questions

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clark's the boi rite?

the one that. . .

wait a min!

the story's about superman!

omg how was i so silly not to have realised it all along

i mean the same qualities . . .

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Clark Kent? Lex Luthor?

I loff Lex Luthor more because he's so smart, very protective of his friends even though I have so many reasons to think he's shady. Clark on the other hand lets his feelings get in his way to fix situations and I hate to remember Lana Lang --- sh*t! She's so loose and thinks Clark's sun should rise and set her on her. I wish Clark could open his eyes and grab Chloe Sullivan --- that girl loves him, cares for him and is ready to give anything up for him long as it's Clark. I still find it unbelievable that Lana actually married Lex one time. I hate that gurl in that movie. Dang!

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Why did you lose interest? Who was your favorite while you watched and why?

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yeah used to watch it 2yrs ago or was it last yr?

lost interest

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I'm watching a series, Smallville. Have you happened to see it before?

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I was almost starting to feel sorry for myself why I was getting personal. Ever had any reason to test the services of your attorney? Is he ex-Harvard, Oxford or Cambridge? Hmmmmm, what are these other law schools? Nigeria Law School abuja? Hahaha, did I get you mad? Oh no sorry if I struck a nerve

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hmm blue spice and theseeker tis tis tis

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they generally have a combination of the two signs with the sign where the sun was closest to their star when they were born being the most dominant

im a true cusp

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cusp_(astrology)#Leo.2FVirgo

http://www.starlightastrology.com/cuspdates.htm

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does ur 'making moves' also include seduction and the conscious effort to befriend a guy she fancies?

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lol this time, she's not only wrong,

but i suspect her of being under some influence no offence

thats the most preposterous thing ive heard!

enhancing the taste?

pls!

why then dont folks use indian hair as a condiment in cooking?

what chemical element is present in the said indian hair that gives it a taste?

much more a taste so strong that it enhances the taste of chocolate?

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Can you be a bit logical?

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I believe anyone can make the move, provided its your heart you followed, and not your eyes/head only!!!

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@topic

wouldn't do such a thing, just not me.

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@ post

I like, I take. There are ways to do it. Even initiating a conversation. If he responds positively, keep the friendship on and move it to the next stage.

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I guess Nigerian girls -- no offence to them --- are like Pandora's box. You don't know what's exactly in there until you open it.

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Lol @ Debola

Tseeker, the reason why I used the word decent there is because:

A prostitute in disguise can make a direct approach at a guy knowing fully well that she can earn her carrier or life through you.

In Nigeria here, these are lists of girls I can call decent based on this kind of ur topic:

JUVE'S

GRADE 1 ARISTOS

APAYAN AND SOYOYO.

An hardcore prostitute is an exeception.

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What does the word "decent" stand for contextually? I quite understand that girls in Nigeria can't do it because of what the society -- and the guy in particular-- will label them. However, by the word "decent" do you mean any girls who does that in Nigeria is immodest?

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It actually depends, because this has happened to me once.

The gurl came with an indirect approach, but as a soji guy I know what she wants.

I dounbt if any decent girl in Nigeria here would give you a direct approach.

But over there in some African countries, they do, and most especially in the White countries.

That is to say: if it happens here in NIGERIA, a lady is throwing away her pride, but in other more civilized countries its a normal thingy.

@iice so u can ask a guy out be it direct approach or indirect? I go die if that happens, thats just a big lie.

You of all people.

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What do I do with you? I don't know. Where did I specify they are less important? I studied it's been going on around everywhere and I seek the opinion of the people on it. Personally I don't see anything wrong with it, I see it as being confident and extremely good about themselves. You should always comprehend every details of a post before you dish out your rants.

You're the man bro. We can always expect to hear good comments from you man.

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It happened to me before and I said no. But guess what? That lady is one of my good friends like she was before and one of the ladies I really respect. I mean, she called me to a park, we chatted for some time and discussed the topic. For me, I like her balls and the good thing is, she now goes out with a medical doctor when I am still single (lol). I just knew what I did not want and what I wanted.

Never spite a lady for doing what you can't do as long as its not immoral!

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why do men go and chat women up?

men think that they are secure in who they are and what they have to go up to a lady and chat her up.

so in my book, if a lady is secure in who she is and decide that she want to chat some guy up then, why not?

people should go for who they want in life not who has the guts to come chat them up.

some men out there are shy and even when they would like to talk to a prospective lady, they dont find the courage, so if a lady can make that first move , its all good for the both of them.

if a women sees something she likes and want, she should do whatever is in her power to get that person's attention or more.

the last thing you want to do is let that opportunity go and then regret for the rest of your life.

people who think that these women are desperate dont really get it. confidence shouldnt be seen as desperation.

in what "dating manual" does it say that women should wait for men to make the first move?

women put on all the make ups, the hair do, the push up bras, the fake nails etc and then you bloody wait?!

all these stuff are to attract men but you just aint got the knowledge or balls to go further.

this is common in everything about relationship: you dying to shag the hell out of him but wouldnt dare tell him until he made the first move. you are dying to marry him but would wait until he pop the question. oh ladies!

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@poster, because girl don toast you now,

you come dey feel abi?

it happens everyday and it doesnt

make them less important or which english you use sef?

Girls who do that aree better than those using Romance-Machines

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@iicee

Nice one there.

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@ poster,

Indifferent to this issue. Okunrin rejo, obinrin pa, ki ejo saa tiku

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some women are going to remain single for life cos someone told them everyman is going to ask them first. well lets wait and see

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u r right, i'm cool as long as she has d right attitude

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everything w used to know is fast changing and taking a new twist.

society has so changed and its only normal that we change Whit it.

its only an unreasonable man that wud not evolve with the times.

ladies now control good jobs, ride flashy cars( thier peko)

and even afford to build their own homes.

the society has made us equal in all, so i dint see anything wrong in her making her intent known to a guy.

if that's how she plays, am gud to roll. as long as i like her.

notin says a forward thinking lady is loose.

she only bold to achieve what she wants. including relationships.

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wow guy u sund nice and cool on that way u ar

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well i really don't like it. i have met this gurl and after sleeping with her, she started asking for a relationship she kept on telling me that she loves me and we should date. i told her i cannot double date becos i have a gf dat i love so much.

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sober for what and for why?

i was simply gobsmacked at his beauty n smile thats all

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that happened to me b4 and it was my crush. i was so shocked lol

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I totally agree. i don't think they're losing their pride either and it depends on how the guy interprets it. definitely

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Correctly judged. Although, I still don't think women who talk up guys are losing their pride. It all depends on how the guy sees it. Some guys see it as just plain stupidity. Some take advantage of that to do whatever they want, he'd say "after all she asked me out". But overall, I think a woman who comes out boldly to tell a guy such should be commended for her courage.

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yea definitely. i agree with u

also, when guys are responsible for toasting the girls, the guys usually fall on the short end of the stick. it means that they are the ones who likes the girl more and the girl prolly just followed along and sometimes doesn't like the guy as much ( i mean eventually she likes him better and all that so it works out most of the time)

with the girls that toast the guys, the girl falls on the short end since she likes the guy more and the guy is just following along (ex. kfed hahaha) like u mentioned in ur first post, " he might have been somewhat interested" or "have little or no interest" etc

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I think its very wrong for a lady to talk a guy into being with her.The whole "commin together" thing needs to be natural.The guy might end up choosing to be with the girl all because of pity.The lady should not force the guy into being with her and vice versa.

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im all for the rights of women, requesting we be treated as human beings and all that feministic BS

but im on the fence on this issue,

i guess it depends on the approach

if she hounds the guy

yeah she's def throwing her pride away (whatever that actually means)

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Why the exemption of black people?

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yea that very common. it's almost the norm.

except with black ppl of course

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Happened to me more than thrice but I don't see it as abnormal.

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I don't know how to comment on this. It's happened to me before but I tried not to think too much of it.

On this side of the world there's nothing abnormal or extradordinary about it.

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Nothing wrong with a girl walking up to a guy and chatting him up, but she should watch her space and learn how to read a man's body language esle the BOMBSHELL

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