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Do You Really Love Someone If You Cheat On Them?

I have never believed in cheating (which means i don't like it and will not partake in it) and never will. Lately i have been seeing different cases of infidelity in relationships and it just makes me have mixed feelings as to why people cheat on their wives or husbands.

As for me, i can never take back a partner who cheats on me because i believe cheating is a process

1. your with the person your cheating on your partner with. 2. feelings of a sexual nature start to form. 3.u mite feel a sudden connection. 4. u may start to kiss or whatever. 5. touching starts to take place. 6. two of u get Unclad. 7. the business starts.

If u can not stop yourself from reaching stage 4 at most, then you're not serious, hiss. this is one of the reasons why i don't think cheatin should be accepted. it is good to forgive o, especially being a Christian, but,  i dnt even know. people should not cheat if they really love their partners. i hav seen some cases where things like cheating cause mental harm to the person being cheated on and it is so sad. also the person loses trust and whatnot. what do u guys think?

I know a lot of nigerian women today whose lives are so down and unhappy because of their husbands. A lot of people are short sighted on how cheating affects the other partner.

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No human being one earth is capable of true love. However u can love ur partner but we have to understand dat love fluctuates. During d period wen ur love for u partner fluctuates on a low side u might get tempted to cheat. And wen its fluctuates back on d high side u wont consider cheating and u will feel bad if u hv cheated b4.

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Love has absolutely nothing to do with cheatingO.

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aunty mary is a total . one of the stupidest analogies of all time.

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I didn't blame people that cheat, Reason is that,u may find it diffcult for you to mess her up, just for the sake of love or you want her to belive sex is not all you want from her, in this case you will find it diffcult to hold body, Body No Bi Wood.

You need to service some part of your Body, [img]

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so what guarantees faithfulness

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You can love some1 and still cheat on 'em.

Love doesn't guarantee faithfulness.

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if you love ur spouse you wont cheat on them

coz boi if ma man cheat on me no long ting

take your damn wedding RING simple equation abi

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Dis cheating thing depends on situations. OK, what happens in a long distance relationship n they havent seen each other for like 2 years? D guy may just be sleepin with other person(s) just to keep body n soul together (at least dats what they say), but his heart is still with the other girl. And of course, he does it codedly so she never finds out. You know what they say, what u dont know cant hurt you. (Not entirely true sha)

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if u really love someone and they love you in return, then no one will cheat. but how can u love a man or woman and they dont love u in return? how do u cope with a spouse that neglects u, nags you, complains about almost everything you do, doesnt give you attention and all that? check it! 60% of people who cheat dont really cheat because of sex, they r trying to fill a void in their hearts.

love is a two way thing. when the other person isnt feeling it and doesnt have the will power to take it, the next thing is to go outside to fill the void.

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if u love somebody, u will not do anything that would hurt him or her.

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For me I don't think it has any thing to do with the other party,

It definitely has to do with taking care of Ur own personal issues than any thing else. . . . .

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in love there is rules which include thou shall not cheat no matter the excuse.

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NL threads get stupider stupider.

How can you loff someone then go out of your ways just to hurt that person? That is what I call being unfaithful!

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onyinye2 says

let's not assume and say that ONLY men cheat, plenty of women cheat, in fact that girl that the man cheated with is ALSO enabling him to cheat, so to me she is as much of a cheat as he is, even if the skank is single, she is a homebreaka, AND a cheat!

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maybe people should just have self control!

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love has nothing to do with lust.u can definitely love someone and cheat on them.

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@ smooooooth

yh everyone is human and gets tempted but it is up to us to not fall for it. thinkin of sexing someone is temptation then it is a sin if u actually hav sex wit the person. there are even thoughts that are not really u and d devil temption u, lol. serious.

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~Could you quote where in my post it would suggest am saying its ok to cheat in some cases?

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I do sincerely hope you are right.

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No. You dont try to hurt the one you claim to "love"

If you need to "cheat", first break off the current relationship, Simple

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yeah when i was single. but when i was in a comitted relationship, i was committed. i didn't see the need to fanasize about any other guy when my prince charming was right there next to me in my harms.

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No lady can say that. it is next to impossiblity.

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@ There is a great difference between love and sex. You can comfortably love one

and have sex with the other. Love is caring and sharing and sex is giving and

taking. They are two different processes. One involves the heart while the other

involves the the tools. They can either work together, separately and or concurrently.

This sumarises everything, society and nature has condition women over time to be chaste and proper that why they feel repulse when a guy say he's in love and still cheats. But can any Lady boastfully says she has not really fantasize how it will feel to be with another person. "forget religion"

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Offcourse. Platonic, casual and or Agape, doesn't matter. Atleast

there is still love at the end.

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they call it Platonic love.

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There is a great difference between love and sex. You can comfortably love one

and have sex with the other. Love is caring and sharing and sex is giving and

taking. They are two different processes. One involves the heart while the other

involves the the tools. They can either work together, separately and or concurrently.

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Who told you that? A woman can love you desperately and still cheat on you. Reasons vary.

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are u with him at every moment, or do u have a meter connected to his dang, so whenever you seee him u get to read and compare with your last result. abeg, i don't parade the street, i can boldly say that i am one of the shyest and still decent guys you can think of, but there are so many pretty women ready to lay free this days, they even come on you, even rigth to your door step, so u dnt need to be parading the street

anyway i just gave that example to buttress my argument, and that was back in the days u=in sch, but truely i was in love with that girl when i did it, i have never felt that way bout anyone till now.

maybe now i am more matured i can do without cheating, because i don't really get freaky or carried away like i used to, now i dey find true love, and i have been single for awhile and even casuals iritate me, you know how many i don turn down this year alone.[quote][/quote]

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oka my last point, you threw something "away" really special the second you went astray with another women. so dont just put women in to this because you too did the same thing. you are lucky that your GF forgave you because with me you would have been a thing in the past.

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well women and men dont see cheating from the same angle, so i dont think i can ever win this one, expecially when most of the commentators are women. women, when in love cant touch another man with a 10ft pole, but men can be in love and cheat, doesnt mean they dont love you.

thats just the way nature has made it,anyway lets just appreciate when we are love and learn to forgive when one goes astray due to temptation, cos by not forgiving, women sometimes throw away something really special. thats my point sha.

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Yes lusting after someone else is cheating and in other relationships I have done that but since i met my husband no other man turns my head for one second.  to me there are no other men on the face of this earth other than him.

I could never imagine braking his heart by cheating on him.  I could never imagine another man putting his hands on me.  There is no one else for me but him and when you feel like that about a person cheating is not something you do.  If you love them you cant cheat on them, true love will not allow you to do it.

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hmmm, now that i think about it . . . NO. you didnt love that girl. cause if you did, you wouldnt betray her trust in you and go and start messing with another woman. and mind you said it "shows i liker her" you didnt say love.

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i have been in love and cheated b4, so it doesnt follow that you dont love the person.there was a time my ex- was out of town and i hit it with a girl uptown, but when she come back i confessed and apologised , that shows i liked her, but fell for the temptation, which makes me human. so i dont agree wth una.

do u know that lusting in your heart self is cheating, so are u all gonna tell me u have not fantasized about shagging someone else before, the fact that some of us(especially the ladies) can control our lust( which is an indirect way to cheat) shouldnt make us judge others

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By rotex

This so touches a nerve.

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At least from ma own side. . . .

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of course you obviously dont love a person if you cheat on them. there might be some strings attached but Love is so out of the question. the moment you act on temptation with another person when you are in a relationship, it shows that you dont love that person. because if you loved that person, you would never betray them, do wrong by them, and deceive them.

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SORRY JARE I THOT U WERE SUM1 ELSE, IGNORE THE COMMENT INFACT I'LL MODIFY IT

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I agree with everyone else that cheating means that you dont love the person you are with. I would leave my husband first before i cheat on him. Having been cheated on before and ending a 5 year relationship just like that I can say w/o a doubt that if he ever were to cheat on me we would be over.

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@ post

no.

No one who truely loves somebody will want to cheat and break that persons heart. Never ever. I mean, its not like molest case where it is against your will.here, you actually enjoyed the whole shagging process and at that moment, your lover should just go to hell,

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rotex baba, na true you talk, but talking about respect, i think the way u cheat is actually what tells how much you love your partner not the act itself, for instance guys thats cheat and try so hard to hide it, respect their partners too much, blive me, but those that cheat openly without care dont respect their girls,

and the cheating thing, is just by god's grace, cos its human nature to always seek for the ''lost sheep'' what u dont have seem to make more sense than what u have, so u will always want another woman or man as the case maybe than what u have, it takes either impotence, juju,or Gods help not to cheat blive me.

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@ smooooooth

i definately feel wat ur sayin, but at the same time wat im sayin is dat wen u enter into a relationship, i feel as though u should respect like the rules of relationships do u feel me. like, to me cheatin is like the worse thing u can do to ur partner. im a christian and i sin but i know i can never kill someone, do u grab? ok maybe u can love someone and cheat, but the love that u SHOULD have should be the one where u treat the other person as u want to be treated. like u cant give or show ur love to another woman or man u know.

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are you all saying that everyone that have ever cheated,didnt love their partner. then i guess just a few people have been in love then.

i dont think thats correct, cheating doesnt mean you dont love your partner,its like saying you love God and you know u do, but somehow u still find your self sinning, thats the human nature, the body can be sometime weak, and we let temptation have the best of us, doesnt mean we dont love our spouse, i mean that is why it is call cheating in the first place, abi?it cant be cheat if its not love.my opinion o

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work's gud.

@post

Nope

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