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Do You Sometimes Wished You Weren't Married?

A professor once said that the reason why women rejoice greatly during their weddings while the men keep a straight faces was because, the woman feels like:"oh, at last I have nailed him!" and the man laments:"Oh, what a fool I have been; trouble was on its own and I went to buy it for myself, now I'm no longer going to be free!"

The question is: Do you sometimes wish you weren't married or that your marital status could be suspended even for just a few hours? Please sincere answers will be appreciated.

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Huh! Whats d big deal about marriage?

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Love this community and have learned so much upon the performance of this week even-handed nigh viewing other people's threads and comments

Since we are in the mood fit sharing I deliberation I'd slice something with you members of this forum. A purlieus where people can forth the approved tv elucidate not all there men

Link is not worth, make merry guys!

watch mad men

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^^Thank you very much (really).

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What a wonderful thing to say.

I hope my "Husband" says's that about me one day.

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I never wished I wasn't married. On the contrary, I actually regret not having met my wife years ago.

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funny- i havent read the thread but I think its more of a male thing.

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What a topic! ! !

A lil old though.

Isn't it funny that most of the peeps that wished they weren't married are women? They are the ones that push for commitment, push for marriage and once the "contract" is signed, they wished for something else.This topic has strengthened my resolve to enjoy my bachelorhood for as long as it lasts.Women are not worth it!

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Yea, marriage especially for the lady comes wt alot of responsibilities and one's always stressed up especially if u work.

but that doesn't make wish to be single.

I simply appreciate the fact that I have crossed that part of life for good.

And in case u wonder, yes I'm married. and Kids?, YES. Plus WORK.

No matter the weight of the responsibilities, Stress/Challenges. I'VE NEVER WISHED TO GO BACK TO SINGLE LIFE.

REM, LIFE IS IN PHASES, ACCEPT AND APPRECIATE THAT

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@Desthan

If more men were like you there would be so many happy women around. Honestly you nearly brought tears to my eyes,

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@poster

if you or anyone in a marriage has gotten to a stage where they wish they wernt married,then its time to evaluate what they r actually getting out of it and reasons/priorities in the marriage cause it seems to me as that kind of marriage is in a rut and needs a quick rescue

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@Desthan

I hope your wife appreciates what she's got. you're such a sweet man!

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never, infact i cherish de day i got married, cuz its all bout me n my friend, i allow her to wear wateva makes her happy, i allow my wife to do wateva pleases her cuz dats wat bring out de best in her, i don't need to wait on her to cook, if i come home on time, i fix dinner for my wife n my kids, n make sure i feed her on bed. she is my wife and not my slave, she must be happy, cuz dats was de promise i made to her. sometime we get tired, we jus eat out n 4get de rest. its jus de two of us, don't want my wife to look older than her age jus becos of overlabour at home. i hv no regrets watsoeva, even wish we were married since we were in primary school, gaddamit. i love you hon, u're de best forever.

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Still relatively a newbie in the job(marriage) so still loving it at the moment esp considering the fact that i had to endure a long distance relationship,but as young as i amin the game, i understand the need to sometimes do things alone that being married sometimes does nto give you the luxury to.An example was about two weeks ago when i was tired of cooking, he was tired too(my hubby is a good cook he is just lazy nowadays) we had to order take out alotas i was tired and he was working alot.After about 4 days, i started feeling guilty about the resources we were spending, even though he was not complaining but i guess being a wife just does your head in to the whole taking care of your man thing.When i was still single if we like make we eat take out for the whole year ba wahala,i would even rejoice that i was experimenting new dishes and restaurants .So i guess by the time i am in it for a couple of more years there are times when i would crave the carefree life of a single girl(thats why i believe every girl should have a bit of independence before marriage and so would not resent her marriage in later years, thinking of what she has missed)

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Jennykadri, u have spoken my mind and shared my sentiment about marriage.  I too have a wonderful marriage but no matter how sweet and good any marriage is there are still times you wished you were saved the encumbrances of marriage.  Such times when you want to be yourself but 'because you remember, you are married, you have to do otherwise in deference to your spouse. 

I come back home sometimes after a tiring day, I can't go straight to bed, my marital obligation reminds me that I am a wife, therefore, I need to cook and certainly do some domestic chores even with the engagement of a househelp!

My novels are another aspect of my life that I had, to a large extent, forgo in order to take care of my home.

Mind u, I am not saying that my spouse is insensitive to my needs or does not help but it cannot be all the time.

When I was single, I could do away with night cooking or other chores, take my bath and simply hit the bed with my novel!

Now! that is luxury to me.

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I am a new comer to naira land, but I do follow some postings/topics from time to time, and laugh it out when there are funny issues and responses.

To the topic of this thread.

I believe its not only when you are married that you sometimes wish to out of it. It happens as well in unmarried relationships. But when you are married, its a more different issue because, you've tied the nots.

I am in a very healthy marriage with my hubby, but that does not mean that I do not sometimes wish to be single. Like sometimes, I want to simply have cereals and just go to bed, I want to go clubbing alone but hubby wants to come along. Traveling with my hubby is fun and lovely, but I sometimes want to travel alone.

These are things you sometimes want to do alone, stay longer on the net, but hubby would love you to join him in bed when its night time.

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pls am hungry for marriage.its should nt be a problem for any man that can afford it

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Occasionally, like when my single friends are going out and I know the sort of place is not meant for married women. Or when my hubby reallly pisses me off, I mean reallllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllly pisses me off.

TBH though, I would never let go of my marriage, Olorun onije. Love my hubby and son to much to do that and willing to tolerate almost anything except repeated unfaithfulness and domestic violence.

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Its true that no matter how well one is enjoying marriage, there are moments that as humans, one sort of wonder if things at that that moment would have been different if one weren't married or even mariied to a particular person. That is not to say there is a wish to go back to being single or switching spouse. Its just like one wondering what life would have been if you had attended Unilag instead of OAU or read Engineering instead of Sociology.

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if you are marrried to the right person, you can enjoy marriage really good, and the best thing about marrying the right person is there is always a vent to express what ever mood you feeing, in other words you can both feel single and married when ever you choose. true love brings freedom.

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No matter how lovely it is for either spouse, there is a time; probably a split second when you wish you were just single.

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It is only natural to wish one is not married, thereby single, from time to time, it is even safe and harmless to throw oneself down memory lane (old partner etc) in our period of anger and annoyance, a little escapism can help us calm down.

The most important thing in any marriage is that both parties are committed 100%, because soon enough after a few years marriage can quite easily transgress to companionship with benefits.

Typically when kids set in, which usually signifies the end of honeymoon, focus will shift to catering for them and affection between papa and mama begins to suffer, this is when the phrase 'working on your marriage' has cogent meaning.

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It is not about regretting your marriage. It is more about seeking a little break from the routine/hassles/clingy-knots and so on.

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I'm a single girl, I can truly say I'm glad I aint married.

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should i say one would wish he or she were still single if they were not ccompletely contented with their spouse, if i am very satisfied with the lady i married atleast to a resonable extent, the thought of being single will be a nightmare.

or should the topic have been: Do You Sometimes Wish you were married to someone else?

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Me wen neva marry sef, afraid d'ey cash me sumtimes wen i think the thing. . . .

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Gamine is not married

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Gamine So after all these years you finally realized that you love your husband. All the best sha!

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I do love my husband, I didn’t at first. I didn’t for a long time. When I left Nigeria, it was a shock to come out here and find myself married. I was very unhappy, very unhappy indeed. But then year after year went by, there were lots of situations, my daughter Catherine grew up and one day I realized I loved my husband.

You spend so much time with someone; you find you get used to him. He’s a kind, steady man and I’ve grown to love him.

But that doesn’t mean to say, of course there aren’t occasions now and then–extremely desolate occasions when you think to yourself, “What a terrible mistake I’ve made with my life!” And you get to thinking about a different life, a better life you might have had, For instance I get to thinking about a life I may have had with the very handsome man who I dated in the university. But each time I do so, I realize before long-my rightful place is with my husband. After all there’s no turning back the clock now. One can’t be forever dwelling on what may have been One should realize one has as good as most, perhaps better, and be grateful.

This is some bit of wisdom for all those married or yet to be.

people should stop deceiving us about how rosyfilled their marriages are

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When I newly got married 2002, I use to think of "How I wish I was single'' after any small argument.

But now, it does not come to my mind to think that way again under whatever situation, It is natural though.

Even if I see another beauty outside there, I dont feel or think I sld be single again

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yeah, especially when pretty girls taunt me with their moda foking assets.

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A beg not on this thread, make una carry una family controversy/crush/impersonation - whichever one it is commot for this thread.

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So that means that it is not a man or a woman thing, from time to time; or once in a while this encounter comes, right?

Should there now be periodic leave from marital responsibility? Or this this talk for another topic?

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@Topic,No and a resounding NO

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I've not felt that way yet, and I hope I don't ever feel that way.

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any woman that says she hasn't wished she wasn't married is lieing, cuz its perfectly normal to feel that way, especially when he pisses you off.

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thank you ruby finally the voice of reason. If in fact he is my husband he can prove this to me and to everyone by simply stating what we ate for dinner last night, where i was today, what kind of car we drive. There are ways w/o giving away too many details of who we are to tell and prove who he/she is.

I believe this person is waiting for me to get off line to post notes here on NL. It is funny that they only appear after I get off line. The is some sad NL who is trying to destroy my good name and start trouble here.

Please step out from behind the shadows of your keyboard and let me know who you are. My husband does not even know how to log on to check his own email. Let alone find this site on his own.

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Mr.Sistrwmn, plz shut up or proof to Sistahwoman that you're her husband.

Even she, herself, does not believe you.

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I pray she wakes up and leave your Bottom. 8 years and nothing to show for it. Lmfao. Doesnt she have family?

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this is not me.

My husband is not here either, at least i dont think so. This poster is an imposter, my husband was at work last night when this here was posted. And I was busy chatting on yahoo. If some of the lerkers would come out of hiding to verify.

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men dat use such lines are called irresponsible men,r u one?

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@jennykadri and karmamod

I'm not saying i don't want to get married to her but i just want to hold back for a while. My girlfriend's has been with me for 8 good years (way back in our undergraduate days). Not my fault for my decision but she made a mistake 3years ago and she is still paying for it. I should have been married along time ago but her mistakes kept my proposal on hold so i had enough time to think about my future. Guys are begging and asking her for marriage but she won't want anything to do with all of them. I bought an engagement ring in Jan while i was on trip to europe but i change my mind (due to some other reasons) and i didn't propose to her, not even now and she is getting restless and scared'.

I like her alot (i don't want to use the word 'love') and she has got all the qualities i wanted in a woman but i can't just give up my freedom and spend the rest of my life with a woman. It is boring and complicated.

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Its the gf's fault for staying with you for so long in the first place. If she finally wakes up and leaves maybe that "fear" will go away

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marriage!

i can't help it but it can be boring sometimes. The same woman all the days of your lives?. I get bored easily and i'm finding it so difficult to make up my mind about getting married to my girlfriend of so many years ( i hope she is not on NL).

I love being single but people will always be curious about your status especially when you are doing very well.

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very good too. just missing you online.

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hmm,

offtopic

how are you jennykadry ?

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True talk! Marriage is sweet but could sometimes be burdensome and freedom to be yourself is curtailed.

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or sistahwoman herself

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