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Do you tell your spouse that you were a victim of Inbreeding or do you keep this to yourself?

How would you react if your husband/wife told you this?

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I wont tell and i dont want to be told. i dont 4give things easily (too bad i know), since this person is still his family member she may not find it easy with me and imagine someone we used to be good to each other and i suddenly develop hatred for. not everything should be told so he shoulnt tell me and of course it wont tell.

My sister's husband once attempted to sleep with me (not molest) i told him never to try such thing with me and that we should both pretend he never mentioned such thing to me, he apologised and we 4got it we are still good inlaws and recently he helped in facilitating a relatively big contract for my husband. Now if i had told my husband 'uncle Tade asked me to sleep with him years ago', my husband will never be his friend talkless of getting a help from him and of course what of suspecting any closeness between us? So no telling and dont tell me.

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for real, i strongly feel she wont have any reason not to have told me ! It will definately be a problem if shes just telling me after we had gotten married ! a marriage based on falsehood in the first place isnt a marriage !

For real, she would have had the opportunity more than once to tell me about her past. I believe in total freedom and absolute truthfullness !

cheers

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How would you react if your wife told you something like this after the marriage already started?

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Definately, i will tell my wife but, my girl friend, maybe or maybe not. The truth is, i love to let it out so that, i will be totally free ! i love a clear conscience u know !

Cheers

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If a child of say birth to 10 was Molested by an adult or older child how is the one Molested not innocent? if a girl is Molested by her dad how is she not innocent

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how wld the spouse beliv she was innocent when there is no proof, its better 2 stay safe and not tell dats wat i meant

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Is the mix up that you did not understand the question or maybe what Inbreeding is? Because to say that the person being Molested is not innocent is just ridiculous.

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ya dats the thing, there's been a mix up

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it is just a question. That does not mean i am talking about myself just exploring a question all the way out

for all we know there is someone reading this that is debating this question in thier minds

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in her best interest and mine she shld keep it 2 herself and take it 2 the grave because mehn honestly i don't want 2 know oh aaah

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why is it not plausable that a young child was molested/Molested by an older realtive. and if that is the case how is the person being Molested responsible and not innocent?

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first of all i wont believe coz it doesnt make so much sense its better 2 say u were both consentin adults or atleast teenagers not that u'll paint it as if u were completely innocent,, . . . . . . . .so its not a plausible story sorry

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Wait, sistawoman, you went through Inbreeding?

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They'll have to, or else it's over

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can men really handle this type of information?

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I agree with you Tonim.

At some point when I feel that he won't freak out, or when I feel like he's worth it, I'll let him know.

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I think at some point during the course of our relationship I'll let him know.

If I am told this by my spouse, I'll be really shocked and be very supportive. It's really tough going through something

like that, so I'll ask questions just to be sure he has gotten over it and to be very

supportive, of course.

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no victim as in the person who was Molested by a relative at a young age.

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If my spouse told me I'll just be supportive. . . . I wouldnt leave him

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by victim do u mean the product of 2 relatives?

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I didnt mean I'll tell my boyfriend of like 3 months but a boyfriend of 2 yrs then yeah

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i dont know that i would tell a boyfriend.

Yall did not answer how you would react if your spouse told you.

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@ HCH3COO

That would be wrong to suspend the wedding. You have to be able to trust someone in life, and if you can't trust and be vulnerable with your spouse, of what use is that spouse to you.

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I watched this movie on Lifetime. . . damn I wish I remembered the name

But it was about a lady who was Molested by her granddad at around 5yrs and she got married and told her husband and her really helped her through the whole thing.

I would tell my husband b/c I'm the kinda person that tell my boyfriends, friends, family everything.

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He should definately be told. Not doing so will not only stress you out, but in the long run keeping it inside may manifest into some negative behavior down the road, making the situation much worse.

Let's face it, we all have issues. My husband telling me this may make me understand better why he behaves the way he does.

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Forever hold my peace.

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I will tell my spouse

it helps with the healing process

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