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Do You Think He/she Owes You Cos Of The Things You Did/are Doing?

Alot of people are of the opinion that if they are in a relationship where they gave alot (finacially and emotionally) that their partner owes them.I've heard people use such statements as these; "after all the things i did for him/her","after all the money i spent on him/her" etc.It actually baffles me cos i'm of the opinion that if i'm in a relationship and i do stuff,i do so cos of the happiness i derive and thus the gurl doesn't owe me poo,regardless of the things i do/did or the money i spend/spent.So,what's your view?

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No, nobody owes me just because of what he did for me.

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she doesnt owe me jack. anything else(than honesty and respect) in this relationship is like a bonus that will enhance or devalue this relationship. . . . . . . . and you should take it as what it is.

if i pay for this or buy her that then this has absolutely no weight in the relationship because the gesture was made because I WANTED TO, how can i use that as leverage since i have never bought a gift out of pressure!?!?

are you saying that my girl/ex should be accountable for everything that i offered or paid for?! all the dinners i paid, the cinemas i invited her to, the roses i bought, the shopping spree? etc. . . . . . . .  she should be grateful and appreciate the gesture, nothing more (she can return the favor if she wishes to do so but that is completely optional).

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yes people owe their partner but they owe to RESPECT them and to be Honest with them. thats about it!

the fact that someone spends money on a partner means jack unless they respect and are truthful to each other.

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@ladies,

Do u guys hav an ex that u feel owes u?Or any u feel u owe?

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@ secretz.i totally agree with u.

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I think it's more to do with feeling unnappreciated and lack of acknowledging the things people did/do in a relationship. When people start 'expecting' and it doesn't happen, people feel dissapointed, so it's often best not to expect anything at all and when it does happen, kinda feels like a bonus.

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Alot of people do things for their partners not 'out of the kindness of their heart' but because they want to lure them to bed or for money. It's usually the case where women are after the cheese and men after the nookie, sometimes it's the other way round but rarely.

Then again, we're only human and although we should give without expecting, it's only natural that one would expect a lil sum'n sum'n from their partner, not neccesarily 'I gave you this therefore you must do this for me/give me this' but just general loving gestures to please their partner and like you said, who doesn't like to see their girl/guy happy?

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