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Do You Think She Is Cheating On Me?

Hello friends,

I am having an issue with my girl friend. She said she loves me, she is in school in the east, I live in Lagos. For sometime now I have noticed changes, she raises her voice at me on phone, she cuts the phone on me sometimes when we talk, she no longer sounds like the sweet girl I used to know. While I visited in school, she only slept in my house once of which I had to force her. I never had sex with her except for smooching because she said she was Molested twice; First time in secondary school and the other time at a burial. Each time I try she never gets wet or something. I have had her disobey at times and then she comes back begging and saying she is sorry. I missed her so much I asked her to send me a recent pix to console myself and for 4 months I have been begging her for her pix. Normally she calls me midnight when she misses me so much but these days she does not. Even though i work with a Bank, she knows I do not work weekends. She never prepared a meal for me even the day she slept over. I asked her to do that and she put the pot on fire and just lay on the bed for me to cook.

I do not even know what her food tastes like. There was an incident that happened, she was at my house and my sister passed and did not shut the door well, I begged my girl to help shut it and she said "NO" outrightly.

Do you think she is seeing someone else. Please advice

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Hello all,

Sorry for a mis-type, I meant she told me she was Molested twice ( not de-flowered)

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Maybe she's lost interest.

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@ agina22

you sound like a nice guy. whether your girl is cheating on you or not, it is very evident that she has little respect for you, because if she did she would not even think of doing some of those things. i cannot say if she is cheating or not, but i think that you should find someone else, because judging by your character here, it seems that you deserve better.

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She's certainly nt what u nid ryt nw.Plz take kia of ur ailin health and whyl u r at it,i'l suggest/advice u delete her numbr frm ur memory and fone.Consciously,fyt d urge2 get in touch and thankGOD its almst d end of d year,use her 2 seal d throw-aways of 2009.U'l b happier u did

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She's certainly nt what u nid ryt nw.Plz take kia of ur ailin health and whyl u r at it,i'l suggest/advice u delete her numbr frm ur memory and fone.Consciously,fyt d urge2 get in touch and thankGOD its almst d end of d year,use her 2 seal d throw-aways of 2009.U'l b happier u did

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This is the best advice so far.

@poster, wake up and smell the coffee.

I love the song by R-kelly , When a woman's fed up, there's nothing u can do about it.

She's done with you and you'll be a fool to sit through this horror movie till the end cos theonly heart that'll be broken will be yours.

I learnt not to pity women in relationships cos as soon as they find a better option dem no go pity u at all (singing;when a woman's fed up).

My advice: Reclaim what left of your dignity: dump her and dump her quick!

One more thing,

No second chances.

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It's not easy to 'dump' someone u love but ur situation requires a hard think man. While I will not readily subscribe that she is cheating on u I will subscribe to the fact that she is just not into u.

My suggestion is that u tell her u want to take a break from the relationship. Tell her u'll continue to be her friend but no more intimacy until u can figure it out. If she's not into she'll let u go wit little or no resistance otherwise she will do a lot to keep things going.

Ball is in ur court dude!

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@poster ur girl is having another relationship pls be a man dump b4 she does.

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There is definitely some1 else in d picture and she doesn't know how to break u off. It's either u fight to win her back or u simply walk away. However with persistence and consistency d only way u can win her back is if and only if she's got issues with the other guy else it's good bye. U know how it is when a woman's mind's made up. Good luck chum!

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I concur 100% with frijos, she is simply tasting waters in the east, until she gets what she wants, you can't see her back, believe me.

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Hey brov. I think what you two need is a mature, one-on-one, intimate talk to get things settled.

How long have you guys dated?

It's normal that relationships loose their fire when it has dragged on for long.

If that's the case you'd need (enough fuel) to rekindle you guys relationship. Maybe you too should see more often, go to fun places to hang-out, etc.

I mean engage her in things that'll create long memories in her.

I hope this helps.

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Thank you all for your comment. @funky she is 21.

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Dump that sleazebag like a used tampon and go out with a correct woman. wtf

how did the hobag get deflowered twice? was the first time with a lollipop or what?

but only wants to "smooch" with you?

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simple thing,

call her n say this "i have been wit u for yrs n lately u have lost interest, since cant say it to my face i will say it, u want out, but just remember no second chance"

cut the phone, go somewhere alot of girls n get a new one, cos the old one just expired

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Problem:

she no send u again.

Solution:

no send her again.

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the book "48 laws of power" by Robert Greene is a must read for every human. For this particular case i recommend the 17th Law which is the law of absense and presence. we take for granted things that are always present and miss those which we don't see too often. In this case mr poster u've made yourself too available to your girlfriend thereby reducing the level of attraction. My advise is that u stop calling, texting and any other forms of communicating with her. Two things might result in this 1. she might call u and beg for forgiveness 2. she may not call u at all. now if no. 2 is the result i suggest u get urself a new girlfriend and realise that u can't afford to make the same old mistakes. That's the beauty of mistakes man they make u a better person. However, remember to make urself omnipresent when starting a relationship then dissappear once in a while when the relationship is fully matured. Goodluck!

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Poater, consider yourself lucky for all dis revelation u are confessing yourself. My guess id dat she's just using u 2 support her education financially after which na waka get am. U av bn blessed n priviliedged 2 witness dis happenings. Don't waste time calling 2 talk anything. Stop communicating in any form, assume sh e never existed, find a new passion in  a sport or vocation, free ur mind n feel gd 2 mingle. Bros, @ ur level, u don't nd a student 4 a lover. There a beautiful, single, working-class, financially stable, no liability and God-fearing babes out there looking 4 who 2 tangle wt. and u are here falling sick n dying for dat which who is even more that willing 2 send u 2 ur early grave. Its not worth it. MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.

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@poster, read d handwriting on the wall. If she was an angel b4,nd now she behaves lyk a beast,then u shld get d drift.

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guy mrprsdent is right.just dont wait for her to

do that first.

just sit her down and ask her, if shes tired then she should

go.just dont hurt yourself becos of her.there are ladies out there

that need a working class citizen like u abeg.

open your eyes and see the writing.she no want you

again.simple.free her.

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@poster

how old is your girl?

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red-handed?

why go through all that stress?

the girl has moved on,you should do the same.She doesnt know how to dump you,thats why she is giving all the signs.

relationship is not a do or die affair

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@funky I had to make out one night to chat and know her problem. I told her all she has been doing and she acknowledged that. She said she was sorry and yet after that she still did that again. She now talks to me in a harsh tone, not like the sweet sounding person I used to know. She called me on the 26th and was ranting and asking why I did not call. I called on 25th morning and she said she was going to church and she would call back. I was sick in bed all through 25th that I slept all day. Even now as I speak am at work and am thinning out really. My sickness plus this girl. I have tried my best, my best friend thinks I am really bleeping up for a guy of my kind. My sister thinks worse, she actually called the girl one day and told her to tell me if she really wants me or if she is seeing someone else. i just want prove, maybe to get her red handed or something.

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Pls oo nt 2 divert,how can sm1 get deflowered 2ice or did i miss smthng?@poster i tink she's getin tired of u try dialogue see how it goes,cos u can neva tel she mit b goin 2ru somthngs.

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poster

yes she definately is cheatin on you

the signs are all over you~

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@ phlota

wetin i do??

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