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Does A Broken Home Affect Future Romance?

Coming from a broken home,

Does it affect the chances of future romance.

Will the experiences from the past affect the romantic future?

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Broken homes,most times,affect future relationships. There are some exceptional cases though where individuals aren't affected by such situations. I know of a guy that has made up his mind not to get married cos of what he experienced when his parents got divorced. He's a graduate now,but the experience he had 11 years ago stuck to him like glue.

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I think it can be the other way round, they've seen what it's like as a child and don't want their children to experience the same so it's not easy to just give up like that.

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one problem i've come to realise concerning broken homes is that, most times this pictures sticks into your head, and people even start thinking that its a normal way to live, that once you are tired,just throw in the towel and walk away.

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People who come from broken homes go through emotional/psychological turmoil and usually, it affects their relationships with people generally. They have a lot of anger, resentment, bitterness, e.t.c. Even people who do not come from broken homes could experience something that could be a turning point in their lives either positively or negatively.

You are the one that should determine not to be a statistic and be a better person. Something good can still come out of you.

You shouldn't let your past rule you.

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ufemia, you could not have explained it any better.

Its all generalisations, a broken home does not necessarily equal a broken marriage.

What would you then say is the cause for broken marriages when both partners do not come from broken homes?

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if there is a spiritual problem some where along the line it will definately affect.   most broken homes are not ordinary

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my guy, i really understand you. not that i see anything negative about it, is just i couldn't imaging the monthly airtime they say there are going to be giving out for free, to all registered number. sincerely speaking i think is a welcome developement to our country. And i love it. soo, tomp's up brother.

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everything depends on you as a person!

you either learn from people's mistake or live on it.

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Only if the person lets their past affect their future. There are so many trials in life if we let them get in the way will control us.

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What happened to you?

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Am enjoying this site, pls teach me more.

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when one comes from a broken home, he or she becomes cautious of what happened in the past and then decide how the present one goes.

So its left for the person to decide what will be good for him or her.

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of course not!nothing of that such.AND FOR THE RECORD, I'm IN LOVE NOT. . . . .DOING THAT KIND OF BAD THING.I AM A MAN OF INTEGRITY.Pls

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It really affect them especially those that involved court case the children are placed in the middle and there are even some cases that ask the children to desire which of their parent they want to live with hence the emotional stress affect their performance in live.It also affect their love relationship later in the future they can't really trust the other person because event would always be replaying in their mind.

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All depends in the way you view it. if you really want it to work it will. that is it

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@ Topic,

No it does not.

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@ topic

Looking straight at the question, the answer should be an emphatic YES

but sometimes there are exceptionsdepends on the individual

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@ Syren

where ve u been?

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I will say 'yes' it does affect.

What you don't have its natural you cant give,

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@ SYREN

How are u today?long time

@ topic

Why are we still on this issue!

No doubt some broken homes are the product of the wrong choices and mistakes of parents!This condition cannot and never be blaimed on the child (girl or boy)

But whether it sure affects romance and futher 'family orientation" of a potential mother of father-------The answer is YES(90%)

There is no hard and fast rule about the behavior of humans given our different complexities dispositions but for sure F[b]AMILY PLAYS A ROLE IN MOLDING THE BEHAVIOUR OF EVERY CHILD.[/b]

E[b].G[/b]

1) You hard an emotional accident(broken heart) and refuse to ever love again.

Reason:u never really believed in love,it was an experiment from the beginning--could b that u never really felt love from the home

2) same scenerio in 1 above!----u learn t your lessons and still believe that there is love for u somewhere because your parents really taught u it exists!!!!

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my submission on the issue is that there are no hard and fast rules about it. it could go either ways, depending on the individual

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Coming from a broken does have an impact on future romance.

I've noticed from personal observation that women from broken homes tend to be less trusting of their male partners. This is especially so if they view their father as the cause of the break up.

This does not apply in all cases however.

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By default? yes! but since your asking this question on this forum it means that you have been thinking. when smart people think they go out and look for answers. when they get answers they get solutions and stay out of trouble. my point is that by being aware of the potentially destructive effects of broken home and taking steps to ensure that you are not left vulnerable to these effects (by making up your mind to have a healthy and successful relationship irrespective of what happened to your parents, reading good books that counsel in this area, seeing a therapist if there is a need to do so) you can neutralize these potentially negative effects and have a happy relationship, marriage and life

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Hi Guys,

Generally, it is very easy to say that coming froma broken home could affect the psyche of the individual, but then i also believe that it is our duty to "re-educate" them and show them approach to live can be different.Having said that, it can be very trying being in close relationships with them, but the ones who are willing to change or give a go at live must be given a chance.

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Haven’t you heard the saying?

“Like father like son”

“Like mother like daughter

If a child comes from a broken home, then there is a possibility that either his relationship or that of either his brother or sister would experience similar problems; because the seed has been sown into that family by their parents.

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Expecting the Worst?

isnt that putting you deliberately on the path to getting the Worst?

Why are you so hard on yourself

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YES-and as a result of that ,i am more careful in my relationships and i donot intend to know

everything that there is to know about human nature.

I know people cheat,i know they  could be quite non-commital, i expect the worst at any moment(thats my mother's slogan)and i don't  trust too easily.

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catfight

~meow meow meow~

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U RE A BIG FOOL

SEUN WHERE RE U

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yes a broken home always leave a scar that never ever heals.

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You've all said your bits and from the look of things none of you seem to have experienced it.

Well, it's normal that after going through rough weather the next best thing to do is avoid a re-occurence.

No right thinking person would want a repeat of an ugly situation (certainly not me)

I think it affects the life of the individual and a child tends to keep to himself at school,builds a wall around himself and it's always a burden going back home.

Growing up,the child becomes depressed.

A strong one is able to overcome addiction or other vices that can affect his personality.

The situation at home moulds him into whatever he becomes.

He sees romance as a thing to avoid and marriage as a bondage that he would definately not want to be a part of.

At the end of the day you see a man with little or no sense of humour,one that can hardly interact with peers or maintain a relationship.

From the outside he is charming and all but at close range he is a monster.

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Nope. I've seen many people with a broken homes having a good relationship in the end.

One example is my cousin brother in law. His parents were seperated when he was a teenager and his mother always threaten to kill him. We all think that she was affected by that due to depression. Her husband always beat her and her children up. Anyways he got married and had 2 sons but his wife was on crack and alcohol which causes a great influence on her sons as both are also the same like her (Long story there). They got a divorce and yet the two sons was being put custody towards the wife and then after a few years he met my cousin and got married to her. Had one son and then they both had opened a Photo studio in England and in Dubai and have been married for 10 years now. So there, thats one happy ending.

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You didnt have to post on this thread.ok!

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@topic,

it only makes un stronger!!

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@ Syren and Phileolove

HOW DO YOU KNOW A REAL MAN?

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A broken mind does.

By this, i mean the mind set you enter the marriage with.

If you are hell bent on making yours work,

it will not only last but will be heaven

but if you are scared and scamper off at the thud of a footstep,

then, maybe,

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Yes,its not just the issue of romance,it damages the trust and affection of the person concerned which invariably will affect the relationship concept and love lifestyle.For instance, for a lady(true life case)- she find it difficult to trust men and she had horrible mental torture.The way out will be to relax,trust God for the best,seek for a confidant that will bring in hope and restoration where necessary.Dating such a person,you need to understand where she is coming from ,appreciate her fears and clears her doubt.It has to be a real man that will do this.

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All the post are right but in my humble opinon, i would say that there is individuality differences in what we do, yea in a way broken homes affect the lives of people that are involved. The fact that you do not admit it makes it difficult for one to move on. Broken homes have a positive effect on ones relationships (romantic life). But ones ability to deal with their fears and hurt emotions makes one a uniqe human being. The main problem is that when you are in a relationship, and you came from a broken family, your spouse or mate should understand that and be able to handle you with care showing you enough love because you actually lack that.

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Whether we like it or not but our environment does affect us in one way or another. The said "effect" varies from person to person.

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@Lapagegirl

i dont get your statistics

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I don't think so, it might affect the person but its for good.

People from broken homes make better marriage because

i) they learn from there parents mistake,

ii)they will not want there children to feel d pain of broken home.

to mention few.

Most failed marriages the people are not from broken homes, 2 out of every failed marriage is from broken home. so i will say that broken home does not affect future romance in anyway.

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Gamine just think hw the rship wud be like

and as 4 the effect on me, i cant count but am getin ova them gradually.

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ok so what happened to you.

How was your parents relationship like

and how did it affect you

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What i do understand is,

when God is allowed to come into a broken heart

he mends it.

Without God my brokenheartedness from belonging to a broken home

will not be healed.

Only then would i be able to move forward and possess a great romance

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