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Does A Girl Always Have To Ask Before Her Boyfriend Gives Her Money Or Stuff?

Anytime i ask my boyfriend for stuff, he gives me instantly but until i ask, he doesnt! i m nt comfortable with that cos i dnt really like to ask for things but how do i let him know witout him thinkin i m for his money? and is it even right for him to behave that way?

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no be only proactive na clearsil

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@cherrie

that thinking is very bad. in naija women believe its the responsibility of the man to always give to the girlfriend at all times as some posters av said on here. i believe a woman should be independent and its the man that should give the woman without asking at all, but sometimes the woman should also ask if need be. it isnt right for a woman to be asking at all times, becos the man might get pissed off and might keep it inside without telling the babe.

i have a friend who is always giving his babe all she wants and asks, the guy works hard and sometimes get pissed when he gives the girl money to manage for the month and the girl use the money to go clubbing. it pisses him off and now he is already reducing the money he gives her and eventually will stop until they both get married and same goes for another girl who is always complaining her bobo doesnt give her money. as bf and gf money or material should be given to each other at own will and shudnt be a must.

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Deep soul do u personally know who wrote that article??

IT IS ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT!!!!!!!!!!

im gna ask a friend to put it on her blog- men and woman alike need to read it! THE TRUTH right there!!!

@post

u shuld be happy ur man is giving u what u ask for and not complaining- he isnt a mind reader some men arent too familiar with what women want!

@ those condemmin her theres nuffin wrong with askin ur man for summin u want- if u dont belive so then go abt ur own u dont need to condem her shes asking a question just bloody answer it!

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I might not agree totally with all the lady said but i am for one that even if i have my own money, he should contribute to!

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GOLD DIGGERS:

Every woman is a Gold digger. We just use different tools, some use cranes, some tractors, others straws and the rest, spoons[i][/i]

Deep Soul thank you for the quote.

Even when they have fat bank accounts more than

the man in some instances, they keep demanding for more hence

the guy will wait for them to ask believing

he has given enough the last time, that would last a while.

women and money are inseparable!!! This attitude is rather

rampant more in Africa than in Europe or the US.

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Its only wen a guy doesnt have money dat he

complains abt bein asked too much.

If u ve got da dough its fun 2 spend it on da ones

u love & da needy.

Deep soul is rite/ every woman wants/needs 2 be comfortable while in da arms of her man.

Guys may God bless u all abundantly as we take care of our better halfs.

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@A-40!you got me cracked up really bad.

what the hell is INEC(i never chop)lol.lmao.

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And i dnt collect, collect, collect as u say, i do a lot of giving too!

And did i even need to justify myself to u?

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Insults are nt neccessary! state ur opinion, everyone is entitled to one!

Thts my only reply to those whao are making an issue out of this!

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@Cheerie

Wat gives U the impression that ur current boyfriend is even considering U for marriage. . . . , . . All this one U are busy talking about collecting. . .collecting. . , collecting from ur BF. What is wrong in giving . . . .giving. . . .giving to ur BF!!!!.

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Dear Baba Geezy i mean Baba God please guide, protect and deliver me from all INEC (I neva chop) girls such as the poster of this topic. Amen

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What are you lot on about?

He is using that money to control and put you on check! A man should be able to cater to his gf without her asking for it. It isn't about being after his money but the dude is stingy and controlling. Sure she may have her own money but who wants to date a man that won't even take you out every once in a while?

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i don't think a girl should ask her boyfriend for money. if the guy wants to give let him do so, but don't ask.

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Now i am nt in for his money whether u believe it or not.His talk is tending towards marriage and i dnt want to get married to a man who doesnt feel its his responsiblity to take care of me financially. u might be in for the independent stuff bt the reality is that evryone has his role to play in whatever relationship u have. in the norma marriage setting, a man takes care of his wife and n=her needs while the woman does his chores for him. now lets assume that its the independent woman, she plays her role and his own and believe me, they get resentful after a while.

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Why does she need her bf to buy her stuff, cant she get it for herself?

If he gives out of kindness then its cool, if she needs the help and cant turn else where

then she could ask him i guess.

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1) Ashewo

2) Ho

3) Prostitute

4) Lady if the night

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i think u re just a poor 'baby', stop running mouth here ok?, he doesn't gimme?? bla bla

Pako!!, no go find work, u don't even have a slight focus to life,

already condemning ur marital life, simple, u got no good head on ur shoulders.

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in summary his shuld be paying 4 the intimacy, errr. . . . . .if dat were to be a job wat wuld they call it. . .

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very simple is he a responsible man? does he take care of his parents?

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i dnt care what independent ladies think, i m nt one!

Ok,are we all saying that even in marriage, the lady is to show independence without depending on her husband for anything? cos she is supposed to be independent and all that?

Now my question is, realistically, even in the white countries, the man still takes care of his home! And if according to those on the part that he isnt supposed to do anything thinks he shouldnt do it now, how do i know if he wud do it in marriage? THATS MY QUESTION

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with a mentality like yours na wa ooo, look divorce is not the end of the world people move on, i know close family members who were divorced and still found love and respect, remarried with grand children now, so dont make it look like your life revolves round a man, you need to get that mentality outta your mind, you can make it without a man,

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Be independent?

Now thats a big laugh!

how many divorced woman in Nigeria do u look with respect on or even the single ladies that are far advanced in marriage

Pls lets be realistic!

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i m sorry but thats d way our society is and in our society, the women arent equal at all no matter how much she wants it, take a look at divorce, in other countries, the properties are shared into two and they even sign pre-nuptial agreements bt in naija? a man can just return home and tell his wife to pack out!

By the time he married me and paid a bride price, he took me at his property and i even had to change my name to his, so, ?

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@ Cheerie

If you no fit talk am, make you text or email your man. Better still ask am when una dey do jiggy jiggy, it is the best time to ask. Everyting you ask for, na yes, yes, yes you go hear from im mouth. Trust Sista-jay on this.

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Its a Nigerian mentality that a boyfriend should give his girl money at all times and look after her. In many other countries this is not the case unfortunately these same Nigerian women will be crying for equality. @Op pls just bear it in mind that if you want to get money like this from your boyfriend you'll be nothing more than one of his properties which he could use at will. Try and be independent!

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Shey de money u get am 2 hold 4 u?escheeew, imagine wat u're sayin, just try n hear ursef out.

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the bottom line is you are not his wife and any decision to spend on you should be voluntary and not a right. That u open leg for him is your own palava afterall he didnt force you and u didnt tell him before hand that there is a charge involved, when you get married then you become his responsibility he needs to spend spend spend until then

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Different people, different principles.

He has to give You money b'cuz You both have sèx? Define Prostitution, please.

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Wetin give you impression say we no serious??

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yes thats what so that i dnt have to make requests of him, bt my question is how do i talk it over with him so that he doesnt think i am after his money which i know that i am nt after?

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of course nt, bt lets be serious!

If during the relationship, its nt an issue, how then can i know if he isnt stingy

or if he believes he shud take care of his wife? some men dnt believe so and i dnt want to end up with such!

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@ Cheerie!

E be like say na daily/weekly/ monthly allowance you want from your man, abeg sit am down and talk it through.

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of course nt, bt lets be serious!

If during the relationship, its nt an issue, how then can i know if he isnt stingy

or if he believes he shud take care of his wife? some men dnt believe so and i dnt want to end up with such!

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oohhh,    so what should happen WHEN the gal ask for s3x??    should he expect some kind of Monetary / Gift reward??

Gal, Tsk   Tsk Tsk, why do you guyz always think BOYX owe you for sexxxual satisfaction for the couple

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Does my father ask for sex or all the other things that guys ask for? so if he wants more, he shud give more!

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alright, if u say i shudnt ask him and through out dating thru marriage, he never gives anything except i ask, what is the probability that he isnt stingy and wud take care good care of me in marriage?

every man knows tht a girl has needs

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why are u always asking sef? u no get parents? or na long throat dey do u ? schioor

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If you no ask you no go get money o, the man no be mind reader!

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