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Does Class Matter In A Relationship?

Would you date someone of a different class level than you?

Have you?

What were your experiences?

Was there pressure from your family to find someone more acceptable?

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it matters yeah only during divorce and stuff

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I prefer a lower class if theres any such thing.

With plenty of hard work we''ll grow up together and will both be on the high class.

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But I thought things like this put a dent in their egos? And will these ladies want those men?

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in some ways,class matters.it is either i date someone that is in my class or higher.

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For me it matters , i don't see myself dating someone in a lower class than me, either we are on the same class or higher.

Class as in your background, Education(very important), how he present himself(his manners), money(somewhat important) but I don't need his money, as long he has money to take care of himself

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I think those two matter to men the  most.

Most do not want a  lady 'higher' in those categories

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I think this class segregation is for little minds. People that have made it in life hardly care about such things. Its only the levels seekers that go after people with class.

There’s nothing wrong with dating above or beneath you class. The complex only comes in when the other party initiates it. Money’s not everything. I’ve learnt that lesson the hard way.

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I'd say those two are factors that determine your class as well as other things like status. The others, not so much. But your right, love knows no class, the question is not can you love somene of a different class it's more are you willing to be in a relationship with them inspite of it.

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Is it Agewise?

Education background?

Job?

Wealth OR Richness?

Religion wise or what? WELL

IT DEPENDS shaa, cos to me, Love doesn't know CLASS

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@Topic,

No, never its just that some people think its important.

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@Post,

Having polished manners and a universal outlook on life has nothing to do with being academically schooled with degrees upon degrees. There are countless degree holders that don't know how to structure a simple sentence much less have the etiquettes of dining publicly, but they have completed graduate school.

If Im looking for someone with class, her education will not reign supreme in my consideration, she cannot transfer degree to my children but she can transfer values to them and it's my responsibility to qualify her on that aspect.

You can teach academics, you cannot teach values; it is inbred.

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Class matters and will always matter especially in this present age, that's a fact, no one should ever pretend it doesnt, that one na white lie

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In my opnion,Class really matters in a r/ship because reasoning,& understanding of both parties has to match b/4 a perfect r/ship works out,

hence,i believe dat class matters alot in a r/ship

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am one exception to that.i'd rather marry a highflying wife

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You seem to be living from some outdated rule book. Women do it too, some marry younger guys who aren't as well to do as they are. I mean oprah probably had very few suitors to choose from that where better off than her anyway.

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There's a difference between girls that schooled in the village and the ones that schooled in UNILAG(u shld know what i mean).

She must be fluent in English but the degree of exposure would be monitored by me.

I am still searching. . . .The screening process starts next week.

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But you complain about the lack of morals in Uni girls. She wont be as naive as you want her to be if she's educated to that level. Once she gets out there she will explore and discover new things, and you'll have to lock her in the house if you want to prevent it.

So have you found such a woman, to start the gooming process with?

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Introduce her to "civilization" and risk loosing the humble, submissive village girl you married? You'll "posh her up" the same thing your running away from? Why don't you leave that way, so it won't get to head?

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I think i must get some bottles of alcopops meself. . . . .The thunk of sipping Alize this evening is appealing.

Live in the village with her?? Hell Nah.

That won't be happening. . . . . I am taking her as far away from her village as possible to posh her up.

20+ years in her village should be enough for her. . . . Let her taste some bits of civilization.

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Alize blue actually, I like the exotic taste.

Will you live in the village with her?

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Really??

If the topic is based on working class, middle class and what not then it depends on the individuals.

Some men won't marry Uni graduates, they prefer to go to the village and marry because of the moral decadence in Nigerian Unis.

One man's meat. . . . .

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we're not talking of whether she is "classy" we're talking of class levels like working class, middle class etc. I don't think their class that makes someone a better partner.

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Doesn't it depend on the individual and not their background?

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it shouldnt be a problem but the fact is it is a problem.

i guess it'd be easier to date someone of a lower class if u've experienced life on both sides.

i've experienced and lived the life of a lower class.

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@ opokonwa

What if the orange seller treated you better than anyone ever has?

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Yes! It does.

Anyhow we wanna pretend about it, we flow easier with someone in the same social class as we are.

No need crisscrossing class. I won't date an orange seller on the road.

I'm not saying that it is bad but I just won't.

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is this the same seun we know?

bera watch ur language.

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Why would you think sm1 above your class would wanna go for her inferior?

*Jst soliloguizing*

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There are only two classes of people I recognize.

Good people (like me) and bad people (Bottom Holes).

Would I date an Bottom Hole? No. Why not? I love myself.

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@ lucabrasi  -

For what reason?

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i rarely agree with u,

but in these case my dear u spoke well.

how do u measure ur class?

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@topic

yes it does, i wont marry below my class its either same or above

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I didnt even know i had Class

yesterday, someone was asking if i just comot from America

i will date who i like! if thats a Class, then yea it matters!!!

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Yes, i pretty much tend to go for peeps outside my class

What is important is we being on the same wavelength

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I know say na curse. My Ishan sense nor dey lie!

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ROFLMFMFBAOPWISkobojunkie style

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In as much as we'd like to pretend love is blind and class is a thing of the past, it really isn't. I know of a situation where this issue is causing so much problem and the "upper class" half of the union is just about done with it because the partner is soooo freaking insecure, you just want to shake the person and go "Okay, you grew up in Bariga, get over it already!" Wait a minute. . .  Badagry isn't Bariga, right? I'm sorry, I don't know Lagos that well but I am this person is from Bariga. Anyway, it's always a source of wahala. . . thinks everyone is looking 'em, takes every slight so personal, everyone has to walk on egg shells around, keeps wondering why the partner married 'em coz of they think there are much better or suitable people around, the poor partner has to constantly reassure the insecure twit they were chosen because of LOVE. They go to party or a gathering and the silly brat spends majority of the day in one corner, not even attempting to join in, of course the partner sees that and goes join 'em in the corner both of them looking miserable and you just want to tell them to keep your behind at home, next time.

I'm not saying NO! NO! to it, I'm saying it's gonna take work. . . in addition to the work normal marriage comes with.

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Please I don't think there's anything wrong with growing up in Bariga/Badagry. . . it's not my bias (not that I have any) on display here, it's the person who uses it as a crutch for their perceived victimization.

Just needed to make that clear. Thanks

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Simply put. . . . . Levels dey!

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It probably wouldnt be the only factor, but it is important. . .

People from different social classes wld most likely have different views on different subjects. . . simply put, the only way such a realtionshp would work is by truck loads of compromise

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I feel your mate is a reflection on you. If you WAY up there and they are WAY down there. well use your senses.

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Of course it does.

I am in section C and can't think of dating someone in section A.

The course is the same but we are rivals!

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it doesn't matter at all

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Class is not so much important as the type of job he does.

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me wont like to date someone who spoke english badly

probably not class but at least u should be on the same wave lenght, guguru no surpose mis yarn with epa

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