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Does destiny exist in marriage?

I'm 24 and she is 22. She is just my friend and we are not lovers although we are close. I took her for sightseeing. During the discussion with the tour guide, he paused and asked her whether she will marry me, just like that.

We were not discussing relationships mind you. He was showing us around the place. And when I asked him why he asked her such a sensitive question, he said he doesn't talk anyhow, that something just put it in his mind to ask her.

When we were about leaving the place he asked me whether I will marry her. I told him I had to think about it.

How come he didn't think that she could be my sister, cousin etc.?

Both of us are graduates, but you know as a girl she will be looking out to get married very soon and definitely, I'm not ready now.

what do I do cos she might be the one for me. Also what do you think about the age difference.

Could it be that we were destined to be together and we didn't know all these years cos she has just been my casual friend, although I know I love her.

I happened to call the guy later and ask him the meaning of what he said, he just said I should think about it. that there is a day that a guy and a girl came to the place and he made the pronouncement and today they are married. I'm confused.

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Akuko ifo.there is no such thing as destiny.we are responsible for our actions and decisions.

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My brother nothing like destiny in marriage, just have to workout what we need and be careful

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For those saying the word distiny dont exist, read what God word is for you. think about life in general, where you were and where are you now, there are so many things that happens in our life that are not our doing and we dont have any control over however it still effects out life, SO WHAT DO U CALL THIS. so poster you better "Wake up and smell the coffee". You have held on to this childish thing of love calculator of yours for far too long. Number one you need to get some time and distance from this lady, and try to discover who you are. “because you don’t even know your self to even discover what you want” Ofcourse there is someone out there for you and with time would be known to you without the help of your guessing baba. In order to be ready for that person, you need to learn to value yourself and stop being a little boy been told what to do by your baba.

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@ Poster,

You are the architect of your destiny, that is why the decisions you make today can make or mar your destiny. If you make a choice to marry or not to marry her, both ways still make up ur destiny!!!!! In either case, choose wisely and prayerfully!!!

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Come on 24 year old man, sight seeing with a platonic friendship!!!!? If anything at your age you should be sight seeing some booty watching with you parters. You may not know this, but spending time with this woman, part of you is courting her. Know yourself and pay attention to all parts of your mind.

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There is no such thing as destiny. If destiny is the apparently predetermined and inevitable series of events that happen to somebody or something then how can we alter it either by fast tracking or by moving totally out of it? We are totally a product of our actions plus our environment. Marriage is more like a business deal you do not enter it with a hunch. If you are the religious type (which i advise) Pray to God with sincerity and not giving Him options. Marriage is simply true love and sincere understanding cohabiting together. The only thing that is destined to happen is to die, cause from time to time it has happened. Death and Change are the only constant things in life.

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Yeah, sure it does. Know that you control your own destiny.

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Even in ur question, u sound confused, u dont need anyone to tell u if anyone is ur match, if u know u love her and she loves u too, then pray about it and propose to her, the interesting part is that u've been friends dt means u both know and understand each other very well, that settles it.

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Well the best type of relationship is if you marry your friend because you understand each other but then you would have move your relationship away from being friends to lovers, but in this case you and your friend are not an item and for her to ask you to marry her, Seems strange! Two things could have happened here! 1, unconsciously you have misled her 2, this is a case of entrapment! But to think someone is your destiny, forget that. The people that comes into our lives are the people we attract into our lives.

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Adam did this and God gace him up on man,,since that moment,,we become responsible for our lives actions and inactions,,,If you find out U re in an abusive relationship,,,do U call that Destiny??or U die in an abusive relationship, do U call that destiny??common guys wake up!!!

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What is destiny? Who destines. Who/what can change it?

Does it mean divorced couples are not destined together.?

If I understand d word destiny then you don't need to do anything but wait and d babe will be urs when u're ready.

Wake up man u have 2 work hard 4 whatever u desire.

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Think straight & make no mistake about it. Marriage is not all about dreaming.

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Does destiny exist in marriage? of course but it depend

why it happen like that she/he is not the will of God for you

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i think that it is destined for your destiny to be changed by the person man/woman u get married to, do business with, make friends with etc.

i belive in destiny. sometimes when i look at life, it looks as if we are acting a script. as in akosile/ayanmo/kadara.

my 60 cent

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poster, desting is somebody`s preordained future . I strongly beleive that, whom you marry has a lot to do with your destiny. Dont step into it without a clear conviction from God.

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After wards in in 1st Cor7,,,we were advised to chose our own wife ourselves,,,

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Just shine your eyes my brother

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man can make or mar his own destiny!

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Yes destiny exist in marriage but u must be prayerful not to make the wrong choice.

Becareful of match making / maker cos is better 4 u to make the choice urself.

SHALOM!!!

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@Poster:  No man or anywoman is particularly meant/destined for any man or woman,,,there is no destiny in marriage,,we humans wisely or stupidly chose our destiny when it comes to marriage.Since the advent of Adam and Eve in the Garden of eden,,God has given up on man when it comes to marriage and made man to be solely responsible for his actions and inactions as regards marriage.

What I will tell you is that you re still a very young man think of ur life and future,,,try getting a job b4 U start thinking of marriage,,,love ur life,ur future and ur dreams for life at this stage,,,have an idea of d kind of woman you want in ur life,,,when its time to now get married,,,you would see those ladies in their droves,,,more importantly,,you must not pity anybody in ur choice and don't allow anybody to pity youn too,,,Marriage that would stand the test of time are those which the man in marriage has the strong will to shape and be decisive in in his choice.

Finally note that whatever decision you take in this regards whether good or bad,,you re going to regret,,,but I will say don't take a decision that you would regret so much.take one with a lesser regret!

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Go to the home page, click on the thread related to your topic and click the [b]new topic [/b]button on the top right hand side.

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destiny! did i hear you call?

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Hey,I want you to know that destiny really matters alot in anything one does in life. But when talking about the sightseeing, this is another case entirely because one most be very careful about it and also one most not use this to justify or conclude anything you have to do or done.

 As a matter of fact, it has happened to me before, when I took my ex girlfriend issue (getting marry or not) to a sightseeing man. The main reason why I did this, is just because I love her so much. Then I met the main Caterer I want with what the man said. Because the sightseeing man told me that I and the girl are going to get marry with reason that this girl destiny and mine are highly  compatible.

   But now I can tell you that this girl is with another guy and she ripped and betrayed me in many ways b4 she left me. By this am highly dissapointed and have believe that its destiny that matters most in anything we do in life cos no matter anyway it is your destiny will surely come to pass. In my own sense, I dont have my trust in man or anything said by man but in God.

    Inconclusion believe that your destiny will come to pass and God we do the best for you also pray towards and you shall see that  its well with you

Courtesy: My Olumyuiwa Olumide (Mighty)

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@ poster : common be a man and take control of your life , are you saying you do not know what you need ?

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at the newbie

hun there's a new topic button on the main page u simply click on it

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u say u love her.

it time u took ur destiny into ur hands!

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This is absolutely irrelevant to the topic being discussed but can anybody tell me how to create a topic of discussion in this forum?

Apologies for any inconveniences caused.

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I think it does!

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Wen they wnt 2extort sum coins 4rm U. They tel U sumtin 2catch ur interest.

Very gud local shrinks!!

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Oh come on. I have had that happen to me when I was in Nursery 2 lol.

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If destiny exists how come "he that findeth a wife" comes into the equation?

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