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Does love and money work hand in hand because ma girl told me that she can't be with me if i've got no money. Please I really need your replies to know what to do with her.

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Does love and money work hand in hand because ma girl told me that she can't be with me if i've got no money. Please I really need your replies to know what to do with her.

I dom't think ur girl truely luv u, If she does she's not suppose 2 tell u dat. I think u shld think properly and know what u are doing.

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No romance without finance! But for me, i would not consider being with a woman who would not want to be with me if i dont have money, but to be realistic, money makes the world go round. Its just that in a place like naija wey omo boy fit no get job for five years after NYSC through no fault of his, wetin man go do? but then we wonder why armed robbery and yahooze boku for town. Shio!

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No romance without finance! But for me, i would not consider being with a woman who would not want to be with me if i dont have money, but to be realistic, money makes the world go round. Its just that in a place like naija wey omo boy fit no get job for five years after NYSC through no fault of his, wetin man go do? but then we wonder why armed robbery and yahooze boku for town. Shio!

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You people act like love is a business relationship. Thats why people marry, divorce and take half. Thats why you see uni girls

having sex with old rich married men who struggle to get erections. Thats why they say Nigerians are money worshippers. E ma sin owo mo. Owo o n she orisha. These women believe they deserve MR. PERFECT when they are far from perfect. You too bro why yu dey chase golddiggers.

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Good said GODANA,

When are Nigerians going to stop the mentality of money syndrome? Well, i may not totally blame anybody for this but the level of pandemic and abject poverty in the land.

We are living in a society where people depend extensively on money and this money is selfishly concentrated on few hands. The issue of money and love or romance can never resurface in a developed country like what GODANA said in her post above.

Frankly, I will not subscribe to the idea of marrying someone who is 'jobless' wherether man or woman. To be candid, the marriage may not go on as expected initially. For me, i say NO, NO, NO! to housewife. You know what, anything can happen at anytime in order not to let my wife and my precious three kids( yet unborn) suffer, we both need to make our millions.

Cheers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

QES

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Yes Bro. Money and love work hand in hand.

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BELIEVE IT OR NOT: "MONEY ANSWERETH ALL THINGS"

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We need money to survive do we not?

Its not all about the money cos if i met an extremely rich guy i still wont give him the time of day if he behaved badly, no be by money o!

No matter wat, the reality of no money sets in when u r actually in the relationship n even the littlest things like some change to use a cybercafe are hard to come by then u'll know wat am talkin about!

To me u dont have to be super rich, just be able to afford the bare necessities cos i can afterall so y cant u!!!

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Money is important and women are expensive to maintain, it's not a crime though. to be a man you need to be able to take care of your woman or else she seek it elsewhere. A woman always wants to feel secure in a relationship/marriage and have confidence that her man can perform financially. A man without money will put strain on the love.

Perhaps we should have a poll?

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Bros it is a natural thing.

Money lubricate relationship without MONEY YOU DON'T MEAN poo TO HER.

Na love she go chop in fact as a matter of fact these days there is nothing like L.O.V.E.

IN FACT I DON'T BELEIVE IN LOVE.

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YES and a vehement YES!!!

U can say all u like but they are just inseprable siamese twins. Gone are those days of TITANIC love, in the world of today, without money, love dies and dies and dies. Money strengthens love, it builds it, it makes it!!! It was wen we were naive we tot dat we culd fall in love without cash in the pocket, NO WAY men!!! E no go work, i say e no go work!!!

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BUT IS IT EASY TO SHOW LOVE WITHOUT MONEY?as in have fun n all the trips,2much of money-dependence no good sha

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i cant remember where i read this they say majority of the trouble in relationships are money troubles. we can talk as much as you like money and the lack of it determines your temperature and even your friends.

i personally think it is better to be talking of love/marriage when you have some good money and avoid the stress. another thing you have to consider is when you have money everyone likes you and you begin the problem of discerning who likes you for your money or you for just you. from my observation the later are very few. money and good wisdom make love work better.

someone said white girls only go for money. i don't know what part of Europe you are talking for. having lived in their midst for 20+ yrs i can say it is not more than 1% you will find with that mindset and they will be the pushy types you see in the press. sadly, that may be informing your opinion.

just keep searching and keep loving and keep working hard. you may find some woman one day that doesn't mind a struggling man and who knows maybe you will find the money to make your life and the young lady own better.

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Love should be the motivating factor and prime mover of any relationship , the greatest is love, Money is not evil, it's a tool that takes up the character of it's owner. If you are loving and caring you would use you money to bless people. If you are selfish wicked and evil, guess what? your money would be just like that

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Come on all the brothers in the house, dnt make it look as if the love and money issue has to do with the girls alone.

guys loves it when they are in control in a ralationship, not negatively but at least being able to give your girl the best.

But never the less money should not be our reason for loving each other. It can beautify love but can never bring love to u.

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Broke-Bottom guys are frustrating and frustrated.

All they do is complain complain and complain.

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a poor man thinks about money while the rich think about unlimited wealth

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money is important in relationship but it shouldn't be the foundation, it's difficult to know if a girl really loves you when you are loaded, the best time to find out is when you are still in the making.

A wise girl would stick with a guy with vision (not dreams), one that is hard workind and has realistic plans to achieving his vision.

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definately. in some dictionaries u'll find love and money to be synonyms

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Money brings a sense of security and greatly influences decisions. No one wants to surfer. A woman has right to choose a rich suitor over a poor one. As much as the men have right to dictate what "statistics" their wives should have. I have lost babes to moneybags in the past and I dont blame them for leaving. Yes, I had the usual heartache but come on, who wants to suffer.

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haha, egabmi ke.

A girl told u to forget her if u dnt av money n your here brainstorming on ow to plz her ( u no serious).

While Money is completely necessary to polish love,it shuldnt b a condition to be in Love (no b by force nw,differ babes dey 4 differ class of guyz, u go find ur level).

abeg, bone am, work for money and get another girl (they all like money afterall).

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Yeah,they do infact they have memorandum of understanding (MOU)

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frankly,its the best combination

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Yes, a woman does need a man that can take care of her. Any reasonable man should aspire to wealth to be able to provide for his family.

But the issue is, should a woman dump a guy because he is not rich or should a woman only choose to date made guys?

If money becomes the yardstick to happy marriage then tell me, what happens if as a woman you marry a guy with a good job and good pay, with a nicely furnished rented apartment and nice cars and stuff, then an accident left him paralysed and he looses his job and his income dwindled to nothing so that you now have to be the bread winner. Do you cut-and-run? Should the marriage end or become unhappy?

Should your man's ability to earn be the determinant to a happy marriage?

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I don't know why you are so shocked. A Woman needs a man to be able to provide for her. What is the essence of life if a man can't take care of his family? If there is no money coming in or so little coming in, how can the marriage work anyway? I can't think about much when my family is lacking. Please tell me if I am wrong.

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skysunny, i feel for you bro. please find something doin'. NO MONEY NO HONEY. NO ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE. IF U WANT TO B WITH ME, U NEED A J-O-B makin' $$$. That was my motto as a single female. I am sorry.

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money is very important bt, no go rub bank o.

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O Yes! Love and Money work Hand in Hand, it is rear to see a girl who love's one with money, any one who have a girl who does not need or ask 4 Money instead gives the guy money . but most importantly Lots of LOVE ,CARE and TENDER. Dont let her GO!

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Does Love and Money work hand in hand? Well it calls for balance. Money should not be the pillar upon which all relationships should be based,where it becomes the centre, the absence of it creates tension. But money is needed to spice up the relationship and meet some of the basic every day needs, i would love to take my dearest to places of leisure, attend once in a lifetime events, buy her gifts that speaks volume of my love, and if we are married i would love to0 be able to provide the suitable comfort my family needs. This is the small role money plays in every relationship.

The part i do not subscribe to is the part of greed, a few girls would want to live a large life, drive porsh cars and live in fanciful houses because their girlfriend was fortunate enough to marry a business mogul, forgetting that the grass always looks greener on the other side which in most cases is not so. A lady is not willing to work and support herself but is looking for a guy who would meet her endless vanities even if the guy treats her like thrash. Contentment is something we all have to learn, a guy may not have a large bank account, but look out for other signs like hardwork, determination to suceed, Godliness and the desire to be supportive and provide for his family. A lady seeing this trait should then commit herself to supporting him in any way she can.

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surely does on most parts

although there r exceptions

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Money, Money, Owo…Ego….

It is a very poignant and almost heart drenching observation, to witness urbane women openly proclaiming their profound love for wealth under the guise of an unperturbed relationship. I however, am unsighted to such a correlation e.g. man with more money = less stress! Money is like a narcotic; it serves only as a palliative but not a solution and as such, offers no elucidation to an already deteriorating relationship (it’s like putting makeup on a repulsive woman,  or like the old axiom states, “a decorated monkey is still a monkey”)

How fervent some women have become; accepting a submissive and indolent domestic role in exchange for wealth. This practice is fast becoming the norm in Nigeria and should be curbed at the root before it is too late!

On the other hand, a relationship built on “true love” that which is felt from deep within and is experienced equally between both persons, would always blossom despite any vicissitudes that may arise. In such a case, money or the lack there of,  Would never be a factor. In the event that such pecuniary troubles occur, both persons due to a true understanding of each other would learn to support and guide each other through the difficult times.  A sumptuous lifestyle never assured a long lasting or healthy relationship; instead, it is a justification for a pitiable one. So please, my fellow readers and poster on Naira land, let us be meticulous and patient in finding that true partner that would love you in good and bad times. True love in itself is a virtue that is seldom stumbled upon but on which there is no counterfeit, so when you find it appreciate and treasure it, respect and be humbled by it. For all those women out there chasing dreams, please ground yourself…reality is harsh but sadly enough it is the realm we live in. To deprive yourself from reality by dwelling in unnecessary fantasies is to deprive yourself from the necessary tools needed to survive in reality thus making you venerable and subject to many emotional aches.

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emphatically yes,as humans ur gift will always make a way for u.u cant have gifts without money,dont let any one fool u,no body can be really happy without riches,love will definately get stronger if wealth is its bed

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guy look 4 money.

forget about love.

money gives u love.

even true love.

get money first.

.tarloy.

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@Poster

Hell Yesss !!

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Sure dude. Work and make your money and let the babes flock to you. When they do, put her on queue with all the rest and select your best.

Afterall since all they want is money then you should concentrate on getting the best your money can buy when you make it.

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tell her to go to hell. pls call her a Dam

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Money is money, Love is love.

If love comes first, then with money it will flourish.

Love plays a deep role, money can't buy a true love.

Love is natural while money is physical.

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no they work hand in waist.

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nooooooooo love and money don't work hand in hand. they are two different paths.

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Beacause it's the answer to today's love, no money no love.

if you doubt wear dirty clothes and talk to a girl you've never met before in lagos.

she go tell you sey she no be your class.

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What is the world turning into? How come almost everyone concurs to the NO MONEY NO ROMANCE notion?

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Interesting;

Are there girls who want to be hand picked like some sort of material in the show glass by someone who is willing to pay for it .

Love the four letter word , that affects the entire world?

Is Love really a gift?Do the guys wants to give love as a gift even if it is not earned ?

Then, is there really a price for mutual deep seated love.

Really, have you wondered that we are to love everyone , yet not everyone deserves this deep love required in marriage , then how truely do we seperate, and pick out this wonderful lady that will earn this love because she deserves it.

I think life does justice to that, just simply be attentive to lifes instruction no matter how dear this lady is to you.The truth is life will test if she deserves you.

Look you ladies lets come to think of it , what does it mean to have money?

Check the money with the attitude.

If someone possess alot of money but have an attitude you can not cope with or even an attitude that will lead to penury , then what is the use of the money.

A persons attitude does alot to money.

One with a wealthy attitude can make alot of value, impact given just few thousands of naira, while one with a very poor attitude can easily crumble an estate worth Millions of naira.

Advise to the ladies :

1.Take time with your guy and study his attitude then paint out a future, if u can live fine with that picture then go ahead with him. If not back out.

2. Why would ladies complain about their husbands beating them , even husbands who never beat their younger ones, if u meet the guy without any true test of love and you gte married, he can easily assume alot of things after marriage. Marriage will not always be roses, he can assume u married him for his wealth, if you can bear it to have him say to his friends in your presence that you married him for wealth, then you can keep the attitude of money before love.

3.I want you to ask yourself, what is your role to finding true , trust worthy love. Remember, there is no trust without test.

4. Do you have sisters in their 40's who have issues with marriage; have kids for more than one man, married to a poor man yet withou love.Married the least person they would ever consider when the were 25yrs old.What attitude do they have years back, similar? (-Money before love) Note: Life will not always give you what you wish, be wise and fight your course.

You guys have a wonderful time searching out your princess, in my opinion African ladies this have alot to learn from their grand mothers, even mothers today are not helping the matter. My friend once asked, if he could find the kind of love that binds his parents together. He said todays ladies are not patient.

She leave a guy who is poor today and would be rich later, to one who is rich today and might be poor later.

Guys you can find some useful tips in the link below " Ten Top Tips To Keep your Lady"

http://wisdomseries.com/forum/index.php?board=9.0

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I like your girl bo, she is fighting for her right, help yourself, she is said her mind.

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all this goes to show is that at the end of the day, feminism is so much bullshit.

'modern' women yak all day about equality and taking no ish, etc, but in the end, it seems they all want the same things theyir mothers did - a man who is the sole provider( so they can use their money to buy . . .women's stuff)

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bros cool down no ruch ur self at all even if u get money if God say she go love u she go love u but say no money no love that one na lie becos in the holy quran and bible even the osho and iya aje said if men want to marry they should look 4 pretty lady that have money.so bros just pray that God should provide ur own wife 4 u ok.so bros ma gedi lo ko si whahala.

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Love and money does obviously go hand in hand.

Love is the ultimate but having money just allows it flow better.

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Well said! Why would any woman marry a man that does not have a good job and does not have potential for earning a good living. What woman wants to suffer. Money is very important to any relationship, for you cannot pay the rent or mortgage on "love"--it takes physical "cash" to do that.

Men look for certain qualities when he is seeking a wife. Does he look for a street woman, one who has been with every man on the block (of course not)! Do women look for every broke man, one who has no potential of earning one Naira (of course not)!

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I hate men crying because of love, women and relationship.

what should have being bordering you is HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF RICH not LOVE and PASSION in WOMEN.

In europe women dump men because of their low financial income not only naija babes, whitegirls are easy if your financialy ok without that you will self-service till you die.

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