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Does Love Realy Fades Away?

relationships is always sweet when it's first started after few months or years in that same relationship, it gets boring and u feel u dont love him/her anymore,

does it means d love fades away

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Hmm..I'm inclined to say love doesn't exist because as someone mentioned above, it all boils down to compatibility. You have to be able to deal with the persons sh1t to be with them. girls will go for whoever ticks the most boxes of what sits in their heads as the ideal guy, same goes for guys.

Sad reality really, considering every girl or every guy (I know I am), is pretty stoked on the concept of love; finding someone that accepts you for who you are but the reality is you are just two people that can deal with each others sh1t. 'cos when the belly butterflies die and you stop getting wet every time you think of him. what keeps you together isn't some warm fuzzy feeling but it simply isn't there, it's coming to terms with the fact that he ain't that bad afterall, he may fart in his sleep - which you hate so much amongst other physical/character flaws, but he has a fairly decent job and there's probably a bright future ahead, etc...that ladies is what true love is - compatibility!

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First of all there is no love... attraction is generated when you see to someone obtaining some characteristics of your ideal man/woman plus the factor of lust. When you became together you will figured out that that person dont really have the ideal characteristic of your ideal partner and that is when your said love will fade.

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Yeah luv do fade away, especially wen it is nt tru.

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Yes, love fades away when its not true

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Love does fade away.

Nothing stays the same.

When all the other ingredients of love find their way,

love doesn't stay.

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It does!!!

With time, . . . .and distance . . . .do they not say one whose out of sight stay out of ones mind, . . . . .

As much as love is powerful, it can also be very fragile, . . . . .some say its like a butterfly, usually when its gone its gone forever!!

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Love takes time to build up and when it does, it doesn't fade. I would have loved to go deeper into relationships but you wanted to know about love.

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Choosing to love is not a popular opinion. Not controlling love and falling in love at the drop of a hat is a popular opinion.

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Love[i] does not change[/i]

Lust changes

Sexual attraction changes

Love does not fade

Lust fades

Sexual attraction fades

Hence why u love your father, mother, siblings even if though u not sexually attracted to them normally (for a normal family).

Hence why u love your wife even if she is starting to look like a cow that makes her unattractive sexually.

Hence why u love your husband even if he is starting to look like a slob that causes him to become unattractive sexually.

Contrary to popular opinion, you do not choose to love. The truth is that Love grows on you towards someone with time, hence why i find it annoying wen guys and ladies talk rubbish by saying they love each other or wen they say there is love at first sight. That is bullshit.

You can't love someone immediately.

Love takes time to grow.

Once love for the person develops it would always be there, even if u no longer attracted to them sexually.

It is sexual attraction and lust that fades if its not nurtured.

People let us understand that it is fundamentally wrong for us to say that love fades. This is because[i] a very good example is the love between a father and a child[/i]. It never fades irrespective of circumstances and issues. Hence why they say love coverth all sins (if it fades as people wrongly assume then it means the sins would one day become exposed). Hence why they say blood is thicker than water. This is because the fundamental love between the father towards the child and the child towards the father transcends issues of lust or attraction or circumstance.

A mother would still love her child even if such a child was convicted for murder. that is love

There is nothing like motherly love.

There is nothing like fatherly love.

There is nothing like Man and Wife love.

The love [/b]is basically the same in all cases , the only difference is how it is expressed (e.g. it is expressed in the form of sex between the man and the woman as a result of the presence of sexual attraction and lust, thus why u find that even though some old couples no longer have sex wtih each other yet they completely love each other, that simple shows u that though the sex and lust might have faded, yet the love still remains).

Hence in final submission,

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TRUE LOVE DOES NOT FADE.

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Love I think remains constant

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Ppl, circumstances nd situations change. . . .TRUE.

Love is constant. . . . FALSE.

The CHANGES are directly proportional 2luv fading.

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love for me doesn't fade away, it all depends on your definition. love is everything

you must take love in its true perspective for it to be true.

i'd like to define love as what you feel even when you don't feel very loving.

the truth is that very few people have the capacity to sincerely love others,

when you look at your partner from the right perspective, you'll be able to put them before you.

and for those who think it is blind, then they better go see a healer, if anything love sees the wrong

even before the person realises it, but infatuation don't and sorry to say that's what many people call love.

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Yes! Love does fade if what got the relationship started is not being refreshed often.

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Am a realist and there's no such thing as true love it's just sheer compatbility and level of being comfortable with another person.True love is a fictional concept doesn't exist.And if it does then it's bound to fade cuz nothing last forever.

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Love is constant, it doesn't fade. if you think it has, then you neva loved in the first placed. Like others have mentioned, it take much more than love to keep a relationship going.

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Choosing to love someone is a will, it either fades away and dies if not nurtured or intensifies and grows and blossoms and matures and evolves overtime into something stonger, so love that fades is not love to begin with.

After the initial thrill and excitement and euphoria and admiration and passion and romance has ran its course, it is true love that binds you together. True love is what allows you to set aside your own selfish interest, because the person you love is now laid bare and stripped away and it helps you accept your partner's flaws, weaknesses, shortcomings and habits and overlook the fact that they have gained weight,or that they snore or that they are going bald . . .

When you are truly in love, it should keep you safe and warm, be your comfort zone and a rock you can seek solace from or hide under, somewhere you can be yourself without being judged, where you can express yourself and expose yourself without any fear of repercussion.

Disclaimer:

The above does not apply to relationships where there is domestic violence or verbal abuse or being constantly put down, or cheated on continuously or undermined or oppressed etc

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love dey fade wel wel, but can always strike ur heart wen u come in contact with dat person u once love

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It depend on what brought two people together, If it is lust, it must surely fade, if it out of those things that cant vanish, it wont fade.

The most important things in the world cannot be touched they are felt in the heart.

love felt in the heart cannot fade

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Love may not fade away. Truth is how many couples are really in love? Most likely one is doing the loving and the other the receiving.

When the receiver tires, he/she leaves the one with the real love. The real love doesn't die that is why one party gets heartbroken and not both when the r/ship ends.

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love can come, go, return, leave, stay put, exit, arrive again.

Different stages, different time frames.

However, for a lucky few, love stays permanent.

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Dear,

love will never fade away, it depends on both of you.

love is so good that it is sweeter than anything in the world,

I am talking out of experience,if both of you understands yourselves well,

everyday will always be fresh as if both of you met today.

To read more then visit my blog where i explained it so well

www.loveandromancewins.blogspot.com

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I tink b4 u go in2 a r/ship, sum factors should set in like compactibility, true luv cos if itz nt real d fire goes of aft a short while. Well guez good friendship b4 good relationship.

@missy b

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Just because you love someone don't mean that the relationship would last, or even need to last. Some people just are not compatible.

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If you don't work at it. You cant solidify it. You can get bored with someone and still love them. You can even feel like leaving someone and still love them. But if you truly love that person it wont fade. But the relationship will disintegrate if you don't work at it. You can't go on love alone.

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@ Akinagirl

re u saying, even true love dont fade??

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For a relationship to last you need more than love. You need compatibility, understanding, trust, you need to be good friends. List goes on or that "love" wont last.

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