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Does She Think I Am Her Maga?

Hello All. There is this girl I met over a year ago. Actually she came to me when I first arrived here and attempted to be friendly. But I was not really not into the whole friendship thing so I was quiet with her and other people that tried to be friendly with me. Later we became closer as I always asked her questions about personal things like sex, family etc. Some months later I was already telling her that her liked her- although I added, as I have done with every girl I have told "I like You," that I did not want to date her. By this time she already had a boyfriend and I was sure I did not want a girlfriend. Since then we have become good friends (or at least, that’s what I think), but the problem is I seem to be the one carrying the friendship alone. On her last birthday, I gave her a pair of shoes and a book, and on my birthday, she gave me a saucer full of brownies. I am always the one that approaches her for discussion or anything like that. I guess that is because we really do not have too much in common. For almost a month now, she has not called me and I refused to call her because I do not want to continue the trend of being the one to show her attention. Very soon it will be her birthday, and I am wondering whether or not to get her a gift. I initially planned to get her a nice dress and a cake but then I think she is an emotional liability as a friend. It is almost like she is taking me to be her maga. In think I am being unrealistic and unfair to her. “If I like her more than she likes me, it is not her fault,” I sometimes tell myself. What should I do?

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no idea what the prob is

lemme read again

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@poster

u need 2b played to qualify to b a maga, u r just a dumbass slowpoke expectin a chic to open up by buyin her gifts.

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as far as i am concerned she is not takin u as her maga but u are d one donating surplus,displaying,turning urself into santacruz.wen u made it clear that u dont want any oda thing aside friendship so wot is ur stress?u are d one putting urslf unter tension.so get serious.

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First of all, you've already hinted to her that you don't want anything serious in your "friendship".She obviously isn't putting any stress into the relationship coz she understands that NOTHING can come out of it. So what are you complaining about? When i say the headline, i thought it was another victim of a gold digger but obviously, she's not making any demands from you so wetin be your own sef? If you like her and want to date her, THEN LET HER KNOW.If you're not interested in her, then let her be and back the phuck off!

This is why I've said it times without number on nairaland that A MAN AND WOMAN CAN NEVER BE FRIENDS! Something has to give at some point. Any single mature lady isn't looking for a male friend unless she wants to deceive herself.She might have a lover boy somewhere and have a few stooges on the side as back up.

Nuff said!

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Poster is lonely and needs some affection. Get a life dude.

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It,s a matter of choice.no one forced u to buy the gifts,u did dat becos u cared.I believe  friendship should be genuine.bt if u think she,s taking advantage of u den 4get bout her,u can call n wish her a happy bday.

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^^

so much for yahooo-yahooo boys

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Maga don pay, shout HALLELUJAH.

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since she's not really keen on being your friend why dont you take the "leave her be" option,its by force?? maga ko mumu ni

***hisssssssssssssssssssss***

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Yeah, MrBrownJay, I guess I must face my reality now.

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if you are that far on her ranking then i suggest you forget about whatever friendship you are seeking with this belle.

just because YOU like her shouldnt be the reason in expecting to be higher in her ranking.

if the "vibe/chemistry" isnt there then its just NOT THERE. accept it.

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I appreciate all the advice. Its just like on her list of friends I am like number 100 and on my list of friends, she is like number 10. That is the cause of the tension. More input will be appreciated before I make a decision.

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@poster

so are you saying that you are this worried just because of FRIENDSHIP?!

you said it yourself that you guys have nothing in common then i am wondering what you are drumming for?

as you probably already know, friendship goes both ways so if she doesnt have the time to stay in contact with you (her supposedly friend) then re-evaluate this so called friendship.

some women will see a man like you as a waste of time and liability because you've already told her that you want nothing else than friendship from her and, hanging out with you might drive all other prospective Don Juan away thinking that you are her man.

whats important when receiving a gift is the THOUGHT and GIVING part not what was given. everyone has different pocket sizes and give according to their means.

ps: as for her coming bday, do not buy anything. people should D E S E R V E gifts.

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Say you are not happy with her commitment to the relationship etc,

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